Will she ever speak to me again?

Question

I have been talking to this girl for about 5 months. And we had alot in common. music and stuff. I asked her out and she didnt give me an answer rite away. So i said "Take your time ok" She said alrite. so i was waiting for a while and couldnt take it. So i went out and bought her roses. 70 dollar roses. And i made sure she was feeling me. Like I asked her the day before if I was cute and she said "yeah" and i asked if she could come up to me and say that she said "yeahhhh" so i had a really good feeling it would work out for me. i sent her the roses and she died. She loved them. She told me it was one of the cutest sweetest things any guy has ever done for her. I said well im just a charmer. She said shed call me after dinner. So i was on AIM talking with her. And i asked her for an answer. She said "NO". And I was devastated. I felt so bad. I wanted to kill myself i felt so bad. And then i said to her if ur with a guy tommorow I'll kill him. Not really meaning it. And she wont speak

to me. Her reason was that she flirts to much and she said she was sorry. But now i feel so bad that i scared her so much. I have had quite a few threats from people. And i just want a good way to get her to talk with me again.

She also said she didnt want to hurt my feelings. And idk wut to do. Im still upset over the whole thing and feel like she was the only 1 who made me feel better when i was sad. And she was. I feel like no one else can do that for me. I am a very depressed person if u havent noticed. And i need some1 to answer me.

Hey ok i dont seriously mean that at all and i bought them cause i thought she liked me. But she just lead me on a wild goose chase for so long thats why i was so pissed off.

Any one who says im a creep is wrong. Im 15 and shy ok and i think it was bold what i did and guess wut i have to fite someone next wensday cause of wut i did.

thanx to everyone else who was actually positve
=] made me feel a little better with the logic

Answer 1

Completely switch gears. Don't pursue her at all. When you see her, be pleasant, but just treat her like any other friend. Maybe you need to start seeing someone else you are interested in.

Answer 2

Send her a letter at home and make sure she has to sign for the delivery so as to let her parents and family know that what you didn't mean what you said.
Tell her you're confused. Why did she tell you she liked you and that you were cute and all?? Put the whole thing back on her, sent two or three more letters like that, apologizing and showing that you're a good guy, you just got your head messed up by your feelings.
Two things might happen but at this point is better than nothing.
She either going to speak to you again and be friends or she's going to ignore you which is not likely.
Oh, and next time, think before you text or type or whatever it is you do to scare people, LMAO

Answer 3

First mistake. Roses on a first date ARE BAD NEWS! They are required for anniversaries or romantic events. (Girls know this!)

Second mistake. NEVER talk logistics on relationships over IM programs. Use the phone or in person. You can get a better sense of what they are trying to say and respond to it.

Third mistake. Don't creep the gal out by saying things like that. If you are going to put your heart on the line, prepare to see things for the good or the bad. You basically killed it right there.


I can completely understand her reaction and has every right. You came across wanting a serious relationship off the bat and ended up being emotional and creepy. (Girls don't like that)

Things you could have improved on.

Bring her a single, beautiful flower. Nothing extravagant, just something to say that you are interested in something more. Next, talk to the gal in a setting where you both are not pressured to do/say anything. Coffee perhaps?

Unless you got some aces up the sleeve you're not mentioning, this will be hard to recover from. Learn your lesson and move on.

Answer 4

Wow that was kind of the wrong move to make with the roses! A bit overboard don't you think? Too much pressure on her!! Good job she was able to be honest with you and tell you that she is enjoying being a flirt right now and wants nothing serious. You'd better hurry up and see the funny side of this so that the next time you see her you can joke about it.

Answer 5

Yikes. She is probably too scared to want to be around you. That was too weird. And not that it matters now, but you made a big mistake when you asked her if you were cute. That is sooo not how you do it. You don't say Hey do you think I'm cute.. you say Hey I think YOU are cute. Then when you pressed the point and asked her if she would say it to your face.. mistake number two. She probably thinks you are stuck on yourself plus dangerous. Just leave her alone for now, and try to show yourself to be a nice guy and not a freak.

Answer 6

Well that is so cute i wish a guy would do that for me! I dont want to hurt your felling anymore than they are but, maybe she did not really like you in the first place, u seem like a great guy try to forget about her(easer said then done trust me) maybe she took it the wrong way girls do that all the time lol

Answer 7

Wow that was a really dumb move you made. NEVER EVER IN A GAJILLION BILLION ZILLION YEARS DO YOU EVER SAY YOU WILL KILL THE GIRL'S BOYFRIEND. She will never go out with you now, I know this for a fact.

She'll most likely be smart enough to realize that you either have some anger issues or are possessive with girls.

p.s. she was also just flirting with you. she thought you were cute but she wasn't serious about dating.

Answer 8

honestly, you screwed up. no girl likes a guy who is going to threaten someone else, especially someone who doesnt even exist yet (since yours was a hypothetical threat) my advice to you, apologize sincerely, then leave it alone, she may come around at some point, and if she doesnt, dont push it... and just remember this moment next time you dont get the answer you want from a gal.

Answer 9

Tell her that you said that because you like her, and the thought of her with another guy, made you upset. And that you didn't mean it literally, but you wanted to show her that you wanted to be the one she was with. Send her roses, and apologize

Answer 10

why would that scare her? OMG, she's an attention whore, she knows you are drooling over her, and she knows you're acting desperate and she's loving the attention. I don't want to tell you how to go about this because you probably will be on her side because you are whipped. Anyways, Good luck.