it's so frustrating!! omg..i'm almost 16, and she goes thourgh all the stuff in my room. she checks my drawers, clothes, my wallet (she goes through my money, receipts, pics of friends, etc) and she looks at all my pictures that i have in my closet. she also looks through my purse, and she reads my notes from my friends, and she checks the pockets of my school pants and jeans. once she found a pill wrapper in my pocket and went crazy, asking me what kind of pill it was, where i got it from, why i needed it, who gave it to me, etc. also whenever i'm on the comp she always sits by me or constantly walks past me to see what i'm doing on here. whenever i'm on the phone, she tries to listen in on my convo's..
is there anything i can do? i confronted her about it once and she just made up the excuse that she was "organizing my stuff" which is a a complete lie..
2007-12-22 15:49:04 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you call that a good parent! and thats good because a lot of these parents out here like Britney Spears mom dont have a clue on what there children do, so I commend here.
2007-12-22 15:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mia 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Put some random stuff in there to completely say, "What the heck!?". Honestly, nothing is more fun than messing around with someone in this sort of situation.
What could you do....
- Look like you are joining a cult.
- Plastic spiders or stuff to scare her.
- Old tupperware container from two weeks ago with partial food left in it.
This list is by no means complete, but I hope it gives you a couple of ideas. And get the messages to conflict, but not apparent enough to cause her to say anything. Confusion is halarious.
2007-12-22 15:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by The Bard 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My mom does stuff like that all the time. Parents get really over-exaggerated when it comes to protecting us and being all up in our faces. The best way to help this kind of problem is just keep confronting her and telling that even if you are sixteen you can be trusted. Prove it to her. Tell that its actually getting to the point where its annoying. Moms are always going to be looking through your stuff but too much is too much. It's not like you go to her room and look through everything. Obviously try handling this in a mature way so she doesnt pull the whole "you're not responsible enough to be trusted" deal. Hope this helps :)
2007-12-22 15:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by mrsjosephjonas23 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get used to it. She's your mom and want's to keep you safe from all the crazy things that go on. However, you could sit her down and explain that you have never caused her any reason to worry about you getting involved in drugs, early sex, etc. and see if she thinks youv'e earned her trust. If she says no then you know you have at least two more years before going off on your own or college. Good Luck!!!
2007-12-22 15:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by shawna s 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I seriously empathize with you dear..when I was 16, my mom literally ruled my life..She checked everything and well..EVERYTHING..Maybe she thinks you are hiding something from her. You should not just confront but also sit and talk to her..I had a temper and I screamed at mine and she was like, " what are you saying? bla bla bla bla bla bla" and I took it in one ear and pulled it out of the other. You gotta tell her how you feel about it..she knows I complain about it in my journal so she stopped doing all that
2007-12-22 15:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by imsweet 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
try a heart to heart. basically it's her right if she wants to since you are living there. but you can ask for a little privacy. she is just trying to protect you and sounds like a pretty good mom. try throwing things away like notes or what's in your pocket before you get home if you don't want her finding it.
2007-12-22 15:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have the same problem only I'm 13 so it's not as bad. Don't worry. She's just scarred and going through motherly things. It's frustrating but let her have it her way.
2007-12-22 15:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you giving her a reason not to trust you. Because I'm a mom and usually I wouldn't go through my kids things unless I felt I had a reason to find something that shouldn't be there. Give her permission to go through your stuff. And see if she acts any different. She must be worried about you if she is doing all that.
2007-12-22 15:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Get a photo of two naked lesbians making out. If she confronts you tell her the truth. "I put that in there so you can find it. You figure out what it means."
Then remind her what Nurse Swoop said, "The coconut don't grow in the shadow of the tree, it's got to roll down the hill and set itself free."
She does care about you, but it's too much of a good thing.
2007-12-22 15:53:46 · answer #9 · answered by Franklin 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
teell her u need ur privacy!!! i mean she can care about u and have like guidelines and stuff, but a kid needs their freedom!!!! or else theyll never b able to grow up on theyre own and make the right choices. u make the right choices by urself, and if ur mom doesnt have trust that ull do that then thats being a bad mother
2007-12-22 15:54:35 · answer #10 · answered by Snojack 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋