We've been going out for a year, pretty serious, or so I thought. Well, turns out she signed up for a free dating site called plentyoffish. She met some guy off there behind my back and went out to dinner with him. Didnt tell me and I found out by fluke! She tells me it was just as friends, and that she had told him she had a boyfriend. She also said it didn't feel right so she told him (before I found out) that she didnt think she should see him again. But in the email i saw to him from her, she said she cant wait to see him again, and she countered that by saying she told him after she had sent that. She said that since she moved to a new area where she doesn't know anyone she just wanted to make new "friends". She seemed pretty convincing, but do you guys buy all this, or do you think she was out playing the field looking to upgrade? Would you dump her? Thanks!
2007-12-22 15:43:48 · 21 answers · asked by Jack B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she can date other people, so can you. Go for it, dude!
2007-12-22 15:47:26 · answer #1 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I believe in second chances. I'm not gonna lie but her argument kinda sounds like bullshit.
You should really think if you're willing to give her another chance or break it off with her.
Trust is an important thing in relationships. So ask yourself if you'll be able to trust her again.
If I were you i'd tell her right away that if she wants anything to do with you than she needs to prove to you she's trustworthy and won't pull something like that again.
Only you can decide that though. Think hard about if you want to give her another chance or get out of the relationship.
Good Luck
2007-12-22 23:54:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her ! she is lyyyyyinggg. that is some way to make new friends. meeting friends on a dating site? i dont think so. trust me. she is lying. if she knows she has a boyfriend. which is you. why would she even meet this other guy in the first place? shes playing tricks on you. even if you dont break up. make sure you get it right with her. and the story straight. before she does something real bad and only you end up getting hurt
2007-12-22 23:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by j yanks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad luck dude, i would dump her, no matter how many pretty words you put in the sentence she went out with a guy behind your back. Shes cheating and shes not worth your time. Sorry to break it to you, i hope this helps. Best of luck.
2007-12-22 23:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by A_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not lesbian, but yes, I would dump her. If she
wants to meet new friends, why is she looking for
them in dating sites?! That's crazy!
Some girls are good when it comes to telling a lie,
really good. I wouldn't believe her. If she didn't tell
you this until you found out, imagine all the things
she's probably keeping from you. Think about it.
2007-12-22 23:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Perfect Imperfection♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump her! Don't believe a word she tells you because that site is for people who are looking to hook up with others to have sex. So, if I were you, I would dump her and find someone who actually cares about you.
2007-12-22 23:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by CSA_NP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't dump her, but tell her u guys should go on a break. that way, you have more time and ino to work with about this other guy se's seng. if u like what u see and ear and stuff get back together with her.
2007-12-22 23:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by B Bott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um i guess you should talk to her before making a mistake you might regret. ask her do you love me or are you interested in me? tell her that if the guy she is seeing makes her happier than you do. if she tries to avoid the subject she is probably hidding something or she really likes you and doesn't want you go get hurt.
2007-12-22 23:51:26 · answer #8 · answered by ♥SiLLY B3tCH♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you feel you have to hide from your mate is cheating. Going out with another guy and not telling you definitely constitutes cheating.
2007-12-22 23:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so bad but plz.. dump her cuz if she luvs u she's not goin to do that thats kind of a stupid idea for a girl no offenc for her ok...just get a good girl who both of u will luv each other
2007-12-22 23:49:24 · answer #10 · answered by azn_cute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea i would if i had found all that out i woul've been dump her. So i say dump her.
2007-12-22 23:48:39 · answer #11 · answered by Emmanuel M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋