We went through two trials with them but we still have so many unanswered questions. I doubt that either one of them will tell the truth to me but I always think about it. He was my only sibling and I still have a hard time with him being gone. He was brutally murdered. My mom and I just want to know why. Will I ever put these thoughts to rest???
2007-12-22 15:00:48 · 11 answers · asked by Happily Married/Mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yes, and this type of thing is called "victim-offender mediation" see if anyone in your town can provide this type of mediation service.
2007-12-22 15:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without proper closure it's very hard to let things go, especially things of this magnitude. I'm not sure if you're able to get the answers your after without putting yourself through the heartache of associating with the men, but talking it through with a councilor could possible help you find at least a little closure. I'm so sorry for your loss, my only sibling is my brother and I have no idea what you're going through. I'm so sorry. I wish you luck. Merry Christmas.
2007-12-22 15:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if either one of them were to be truthfull and actually tell you why, if it would turn out to be a good enough reason for taking your brothers life.
I suspect the answer to that would be a big fat NO!
So therefore, I highly doubt that ANY reason, truthfull or not could ever possibly put your mind to rest.
I think what might better put your mind to rest would be if you were to meet them, & talk with them so you might better understand the circumstances that brought them to the choices they made, including the choice to brutally kill your brother.
I can't even begin to pretend to completely understand your loss. Especially from the way it happened. But I have heard of people in situations similar to yours who were offered the chance to meet with their loved one's killer(s). My impression was that it was a relatively satisfying experience for both sides of the situation, & it helped the victims family put thier minds to rest.
It's probably something you would find worth exploring.
2007-12-22 15:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not think you will ever have peace till you know the truth. Hopefully one day you will have the chance to talk to him and get the answers you need.
I am sorry for this loss.
2007-12-22 15:20:20 · answer #4 · answered by Amy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to ask the questions you seek answers to. Write them a letter and ask that they give you some relief by being honest.
2007-12-22 15:07:43 · answer #5 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should try, you may find answers that upset you, but you will at least have answers. Talking is a very good step.
2007-12-22 15:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Princess Gizmo 91 06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! it is normal! and yes u will but it cant all go away on its own! it was ur brother and u wanna know why and if u ask them it could possibly go away!
2007-12-22 15:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal to want to talk to them.after all you are just clearing your doubts.dont worry go ahead.but dont expect too much.they might not tell you anything.
2007-12-22 15:05:22 · answer #8 · answered by krishna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal thats what is going to give u and your mom closure
2007-12-22 15:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by mz_clean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal. I'm sorry to here about your brother.=(
2007-12-22 15:10:13 · answer #10 · answered by sparky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋