I am having trouble in all my relationships. I've had two ex boyfriends and I tried the friend thing with the first one and it didn't work out. He never talked to me again. My second ex treated me like crap but we were good friends. However, I recently discovered that he blocked me from myspace and facebook and I can't get ahold of him for two days since he lives out of the country to find out why. I'm bingeing and purging again and struggling to control my weight. All of my friends have significant others and it's hard to find time with them. I'm in a routinous job, which is okay, but doesn't excite me. I don't make much money. I'm college educated, but would never be described as intelligent. I'm always alone and hate every minute of it. I recently started going to church again, but it's so hard to go in alone. The people are nice, but the people in the young adult group have children and are married. I am considering suicide. I have nothing to look forward to. Help!
2007-12-22 14:39:40 · 13 answers · asked by blackoil 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know these may not seem like real problems, but I am going crazy. I hate being alone and I feel like all my relationships are failling. I don't really have anyone.
2007-12-22 14:40:26 · update #1
i feel that way to man. i've been bulimic for three years now.
therapy dosent help.
the ONLY advice i have is to TRY to do something social and find some new friends... dont look for a boyfriend.. once you stop looking, one will find you.
DONT KILL YOUSELF! its not worth it. life may suck.. but YOU CAN make it beter! just attempt to be positive...
i wish i could give you some useful help, but i really cant the only person tat can really help you is you.
good luck!
2007-12-22 14:45:49 · answer #1 · answered by kiss the cook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being you go to church you should know that suicide is a sin...And besides that if they guy blocked you maybe he's not worth talking to anyway. You stated he treated you like crap when you were together so why care when you are apart. There's a reason you two broke up in the first place. And NO MAN is worth losing your life over. You need to just stay positive and i know how Korney that may sound but it just might help..And who cares about everyone else you are there for you not to hook up with someone..You need to pray and talk to god. He just might have the answers you are looking for..Good luck and God Bless.
2007-12-22 22:57:09 · answer #2 · answered by reedy2826 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friend, having a boyfriend is not the only answer to be happy in this hard and difficult life, there are so many other things that will make us happy, go deep inside your heart and mind and ask yourself what is that you like and what you can do about it. you are not alone try to find the right people to be with, who will encourage you to do beautiful and all the right things. our life is too short to hate it. if you think you are left alone by yourself so be it, but dont ever think of suicide thats the worst thing you could do. to make you time occupied try to reach out to those people who are less fortunate than you are, who have mjuch problem than what you have, to those people who even GOD thinks they been left behind. but GOD is always there even sometimes we think he is unfair but thats what life is all about, we called it balance. dont hate your self and think that you are all alone, even this yahoo answer thing is proof that someone care for you, because if not even us will not answer your question, heads up friend. now is almost christmas if you are alone go out and look on the street you will find people that are less happy than you are, if you have some spare money give some to them and you will see that even you care for them and they will feel that they are not alone, and the best part of it, is that you feel that you did something for them a good deed that will probably you will have your self in return. you said you have nothing to look forward to? no you have the whole world to look forward to every one of us has it role in this world. dont just look at yourself asking why im like this why im having this problem, stop thinking about it, reach out and before you know it people will notice you and you will not need to worry being alone because they will come to you. merry christmas. remember you are loved.
2007-12-22 23:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by mx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years ago, I was single. I had broken up with my boyfriend and had not been in a relationship for over a year. I would wake up every morning, feeling this weight in my chest. I just knew I was going to be alone forever, living my monotonous life....bored, lonely, pathetic.
Now I am married, two kids. Oddly enough, I miss those days when it was just me. I wish I had just enjoyed it. I miss the freedom of just doing what I wanted when I wanted to do it.
Don't make decisions based on fear of being alone. Don't be afraid of your life and where you are now. Things will change, they always do. You have everything to look forward to.
2007-12-22 22:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by KH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of falling in love with your self. You and so many others are looking for what you have inside of you - but you are looking outside to find it. You are a great and powerful person! Keep that in mind and give yourself permission to feel good. Take some time to enjoy you and who you are. :) Treat yourself!! Have a date with you!!
I am doing the same thing and loving it!
Hugs and peace to you!! :)
2007-12-22 22:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by STEVE H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you hate yourself But, more like you hate your surroundings in life. (job, people, etc.) You have total control over your happiness.........There is endless opportunity to meet new people, find a job your passionate about and surround yourself with awesome things!!!!! You obviously have access to the Internet so, find a social group in your area or try a dating website ???? I recommend meetup.com or craigslist.com.
DON"T END YOUR LIFE !!! YOU DESERVE A SHOT AT CREATING ONE FOR YOURSELF ..............
GOOD LUCK GIRL !!!!!!
2007-12-22 22:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Descarada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go get help. Go to the hospital...please. There's help out there and many people who want to help you. They'll help you through medication (if needed) and help you discover ways of dealing with your emotions and stressors. Please go get help. You don't need to feel this way any longer than you already have. Suicide is a serious matter that is unnecessary due to the numerous options of help. Please Please Please get help right away. I hope you start feeling better soon. If you ever need to talk don't hesitate to ask.
2007-12-23 01:48:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg dont do anything 2 urself! ... u hav nothing 2 look forward 2? how about ur hobbies? dats mi thing....singing, and modeling...etc. u kno stuff dat keeps me busy, i barely hav tyme 4 boyz.....um tlk 2 ur parents or a pastor at church... yep relationships r only a speck of dust on da windshield of lyffe.
ps. when u get married n hav children i dont think u hav any tyme 4 urself anymore...
Email allycat5742@yahoo.com (not me)
2007-12-22 22:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by *♥D3bi♥* 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
WHAT IS SUICIDE GOING TO ACCOMPLISH? THAT IS SELFISH....DONT DO ANYTHING STUPID OR THAT WOULD HURT UR LOVED ONES! WHO CARES ABOUT SOME GUY...THERE ARE MORE FISH IN THE SEA. YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE AND FOR FRIENDS WELL THEY JUST DONT POP OUT OF THIN AIR GO SOMEWHERE AND FIND SOME...GO BOWLING OR TO A CLUB OR ANYWHERE DO NOT KILL URSELF! THAT IS THE CHEAP WAY OUT...DONT RUN FROM UR PROBLEMS
2007-12-22 22:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you have yourself? I don't think so. And that's who you need the most. (besides God, of course) Give yourself three months to really "fall in love with" yourself. Work on it like you would any other relationship. Tell us how it turns out!
2007-12-22 22:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by shirleykins 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋