She will not play in her room upstairs. We have threatened to throw all her toys away, and that didn't work either. I am having her bag them up right now to put "in the trash" (basement, but she will think the trash). Any suggestions?
2007-12-22 14:38:29 · 17 answers · asked by dianiagay 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Why does she have to play in her room? It's probably lonely up there! Try turning on a radio while she's up there or giving her a walkie talkie do that she can talk to you. Maybe have a play date with one of you friends and you can tell the kids to play upstairs while you guys talk downstairs. If that's not an option, get her something she REALLY wants for Christmas, say it's from Santa and ptu a note on it that says she can only play with it in her room... good luck!
2007-12-22 16:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make her room more appealing and comfortable and allow her to take some toys into other parts of the house. Try to figure out why she does not like her room. Maybe somethign in there scares her. You should probably not threaten with such drastic measures like throwing away all the toys. Packing some up and rotating toys is a good idea, but you shoudl do this to let her appreciate her toys more, not as a punishment.
2007-12-22 22:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well first off why are you not allowing her to play in the living room or the family room if something is going on in the living room? Do not threaten her, all that is going to do is make her mad at you and make her frustrated. A child at that age knows what words mean, and what she is feeling but sometimes they don't know how to communicate those feelings. Also if you are making her go upstairs all by herself while everyone else is downstairs maybe she is afraid to go upstairs alone, or afraid of it being dark up there. Maybe walk her upstairs to turn on the lights for her and let her know that she will not be alone in the house or upstairs. It might be that she is afraid of being left alone and if you walk with her up there she won't feel like she is being left alone. That poor little girl needs to know that she is safe in her home before you can expect her to go upstairs and play by herself. Just please stop threatening her. Happy Holidays
2007-12-22 22:49:12 · answer #3 · answered by H mom of 3 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You should set aside a play area in the living room. Children want to be where everyone else is, and get lots of attention and be a part of things. Don't punish her! Tell her that she can play anywhere she likes as long as she cleans up after herself. She might be afraid of going upstairs on her own as well... and it might be a good idea to keep an eye on her anyway, especially near the staircase.
2007-12-23 03:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By throwing away her toys because she won't play alone in her room you are making it difficult for her.
she is at an age where she wants to be with her family
why must she play alone
my advice play with her a few times show her that there is nothing wrong with her room or any reason why she shouldn't be comfortable in her own room
don't banish her she loves you
2007-12-23 19:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does she need to be in her room? When I was growing up I can count on one hand the times I played in my room by myself. When my brother and I played we would sometimes play in a bedroom but not often. We were usually outside, or in the living room. Why punish her for wanting to be with you and not alone. Bedrooms are for sleeping, you should be thankful that she is not the type to want to stay up all night playing with her toys in her room.
2007-12-23 00:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by JMK 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you forcing her to be only in one place to play? Upstairs probably seems very far away from you and everyone else. That doesn't sound at all fair to banish her up into her room like that.
2007-12-22 23:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why does she have to play in her room?
Is there a problem with her bringing ALL of her toys out into the middle of the house?
Is she being too loud?
She is old enough to follow reasonable rules and requests, so try asking her to bring out one toy at a time.
Otherwise, she may need some social interaction. You need to play with her to help build her imagination and social skills.
At 5yrs old, she needs her mother's attention. Forcing her to play in her room alone or getting rid of her toys is probably very devastating to her and causing her to act out to get more attention from you....even if it is negative.
Go give her a hug and play Barbies.
2007-12-22 23:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by Chelle 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why does she have to play in her room upstairs away from the family unit? If you didn't want a child why did you have her?
2007-12-23 07:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Instill personal private time each day if you need the break. That's what I do with my niece and nephew while I make dinner-they're alone in their rooms. We set a timer and they can't leave the room without permission. It's how they learned how to play alone and they come out refreshed and much more pleasant.
2007-12-22 22:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by Sit'nTeach'nNanny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋