Here is why ask: My friend Angela, whom is 27 allows her 23 year old boyfriend to spend the night at her house. The two are obviously not married, and I'm sure they are not holding hands in the dark. Angela loves to preach to me on the oustanding beliefs of the LDS church, which I do agree with some of the church's teachings, such as family values, laws of chastity, etc..but I feel Angela and her boyfriend are being complete hypocrites. First off, Angela is not a virgin and her boyfriend is not allowed to enter the temple for quite sometime due to his past transgressions. It ticks me off how the two portray themselves to be this perfect Molly Mormon and Peter Priesthood yet they spend their nights together at her home. I used to be her roommate until I was fed up with her bringing him home everynight. Out of respect, my boyfriend would visit but NEVER did I allow him to spend the night with me. Should I report the two to their bishops? I'm not LDS but I'm sick of their behavior.
2007-12-22 14:18:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's against LDS standards to have sexual relations before marriage. If they're sleeping and ONLY sleeping on opposite couches, then they're not necessarily doing anything wrong.
Yes they are being disobedient and probably hypocrites. Sorry.
2007-12-26 10:56:51 · answer #1 · answered by Ender 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basic tenant...any sexual relationship outside of the bonds of marriage between a man and a woman is an abomination in the site of God.
The Church teaches us not to put ourselves in situations that can cause us to break the law of chastity. This includes spending the night at the home of a member of the opposite sex, especially if you are dating.
That being said, we all have our free will, and our choices aren't always in accordance with what we know is right.
I'm sorry she is being a bad example of the teachings of the Church. Maybe you should tell her that her behavior is giving the Church a bad name and making you not have any respect for it whatsoever. Don't know if it will help but there you go.
Another thing you can do, is copy off articles and such and leave them where she can find them. If you ever meet up with her Home or Visiting teachers, or the bishop if you feel you must, explain that you are worried about her, and why...Don't do anything out of anger...but those are some options. You can also explain that her actions are making you loose respect for the Church as well.
Just somethings to think about.
2007-12-22 14:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by LDS~Tenshi~ 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is not recommended to spend the night with someone of the opposite sex, even if sexual relations may not take place, as the temptation may be too great. They are not doing anything wrong in the eyes of the church by only spending the night with each other. Nevertheless we are instructed to avoid the appearance of wrong doing and she is setting a bad example. I don't think it is your place to tell her Bishop as that is up to her and her boyfriend to do so.
2007-12-22 14:38:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
As far as my knowledge goes, I'm pretty sure the Church does not speak against this, they do speak of "Avoiding temptation" which staying with your bf/gf overnight would most likely cause. Along these same notes, the Church says that sex before marriage is a sin. Sin is evil. The Church also proclaims "Avoid the appearance of evil."
Basically, do not put yourself in a position to do wrong and you will not have the option. ie: If you don't have cigarettes, you can't smoke.
Be kind to one another.
2007-12-22 14:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Their behavior is contrary to what the Mormon church's teachings. I agree with you that they should not say one thing, and do another. Not to provide any excuse for them as what they are doing is inexcusable according to Mormon doctrine, but as Christ said, the teachings of the church are for us to improve and grow as human beings. As no one is perfect, this couple seem like they have along long way to go.
2007-12-22 16:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should report them to the bishop-asap. Also, let her know how you feel about what she's doing. try to remember the whole church isn't bad just because she does bad things. Its very much against LDS doctrine for her to be sleeping w/ her boyfriend.Even letting him stay over night w/o the sex would be frowned on. the Bible says the appearance of evil is a sin. What a mess! God Bless!!
2007-12-22 14:27:58 · answer #6 · answered by paula r 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
No, they should definately not be doing that--they are indeed being complete hypocrites. Even if they are not doing the wild thing, they are putting themselves in a situation where it could happen easily.
But--I would not "report" them to their bishops. The time will come where they will be asked to be interviewed for a temple recommed, and the truth will come out then.
2007-12-22 14:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by colebolegooglygooglyhammerhead 6 · 8⤊ 1⤋
What they are doing is wrong.
Their bishop can help them get their lives in order, you will be doing them a great favor by contacting him. Don't delay.
2007-12-23 17:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by Gideon 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OVER IT ALREADY!!! It's none of your business. I have had guys stay at my house. But they have slept on the sofa or in the spare room.
2007-12-23 15:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They may be hypocrites, but they are adults with their agency. I would not report some for this.
2007-12-23 08:19:31 · answer #10 · answered by Isolde 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋