Well last year this girl took my sarcasim as telling her that she was fat wich is SOO NOT TRUe....and she got mad at me and i said srry one million times she threw insults at me left and right then i got so fed up and this girl is from Bosnia and i said Why dont you go back to bosnia. and i didnt mean it in a racist way but thats the way everyone took it.. she hates me till this day and this was 1 and a half years ago!!!!!I have apologized repeadtly but she wont accept it.......Advice???I DONT WANT ENEMYS i want to be this girls friend..
2007-12-22 13:13:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Well... I'm from Bosnia too...
and a lot of bosnians have to deal with a few racist people who tell them to go back to their own country and once you say that, if you meant it or not... chances are they won't forgive you...
I mean how would you like it if someone said something that offensive to you...
and maybe that's not the only reason she's mad at you...
maybe that was just the icing on the cake...
like me and my best friend of 6 years aren't talking because
she said something careless(a week after my grandpa died (she said "everyone dies get over it") that really hurt me and she apologized but I just can't accept it...
and that's not the only reason I won't accept... she's usually careless and says a lot of selfish things and I'm actually just glad that I dont have to deal with any of it anymore...
and well... even if it has been a year and a 1/2 since that happened to you maybe she just needs more time....
leave her alone and maybe you 2 will be friends again someday
2007-12-22 13:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by Asija_Luvz_U 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like probably the best way is to apologize to the girl. You should ask for her forgiveness. There is not really any way to stop everyone else from thinking that you are a racist, but you can at least do the right thing to her. Hopefully if people learn that you did the respectable thing by apologizing to her, they will change their minds.
2007-12-22 16:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave her two whammies. You were sarcastic and you told her to go back to Bosnia. You hurt her twice below the belt.
I wouldn't expect this girl to forgive you - or at least not for a long time. So friendship is obviously out of the question.
2007-12-22 20:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Marguerite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just put your foot in your mouth a few too many times with this girl. You've obviously hurt her feelings in a way that only racism, real or perceived, can do. It's very unlikely that she will want to open herself up to further hurt from you, whether you meant to hurt her or not. If you really want to be her friend, leave her alone and try to work on your temper and thinking before you speak so that your thoughtless comments won't alienate anyone else.
2007-12-22 13:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by bainaashanti 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Asking to be friends is going to make it worse. Its not that big of a deal to have some people hate you. Not everyone is going to love you. You've already said sorry there is nothing more you can do. At least you tried.
2007-12-22 13:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Zoey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to be her friend? because you feel guilty? just let it go. you can't have enemies if you could careless about how someone feels about you. at this point all you can do is say your sorry and she has the right to turn your apology down. There's really not much else you can do but move on.
2007-12-22 13:18:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rainey 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you were repeatedly a jerk to this girl and after apologizing you expect her to forgive you?
While not "racist" to tell her to go back to her country, it is incredibly cruel and offensive. I would take it in a similar way.
Stop bothering her. Nobody would want anything more to do with you. Be glad she didn't beat you up or anything, other would have.
2007-12-22 14:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by Echolalia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her you didnt mean it the way she took it an you was only retaliating all the insults she threw at you...
and the first answer is true too, you'll live if she doesn't like you and maybe you're better off if she doesn't like you
2007-12-22 13:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've apologized and she has decided not to accept the apologies. There's really nothing else you can do. Avoid her when you can. Be polite when you can't.
2007-12-22 15:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth_ashley44 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did wasn’t a big deal. I've heard far worse. If she can't accept your apology she isn't worth befriending.
If/when you see her in the hall keep your head up and ignore her. You did your part in apologizing, she didn’t as she never accepted.
2007-12-22 13:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by Super PI 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋