my life is over im PREGNANT and only 14?

Question

okay so my parents are totally strict they dont even let me date yet if they found out i had a boyfriend they would completly freak and the fact that i am PREGNANT and only 14 i think there gonna kick me out. i have NO clue on what i should do because my boyfriend hung up the phone on me when i told him i am completly alone here

how will my life change now?
how bad is my reputaion gonna be?
will people think i am a whore?
WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?!?

okay for all you saying are u sure your pregnant
YES i am sure i took a test and missed my period for the second time

okay i have been with my boyfriend for a long time almost 2 years now the reason my parents dont no is because i was hiding it from them since i didnt think they would let me date. he is 2 and a half years older then me and we started dating when i was 12 and he was 14 almost 15. i didnt think my parents would be too happy about the age difference since im 14 now and he just turned 17

Answer 1

ok, I had a teen pregnancy.. and it isn't that bad.
I will admit, it's very difficult telling your parents, (and I wasn't as young as you) but it doesn't mean your life is over.

I can't believe you're pregnant by a guy you just barely met. (if your parents don't even know you have a boyfriend- I'm pretty sure you haven't be together to long.)

Anyway, I think you should wait a little bit to tell your parents. I actually had a miscarriage because my parents stressed me out so much, AND I should have learned my lesson.. because I got pregnant again shortly after.

All you can do is decide what you want, and stick to it:
1. abortion (I would not reccommend, but it's up to you)
2. adoption (Many families need a baby & can't have them, like some questions on here that you've answered- women can't get pregnant)
3. keep it.
4. (or, option #4, which I saw from your other question) let your boyfriends parents raise it.

option 4 may require you to sign up all rights, and if you and your boyfriend fight- and his parents have all rights to your child, you may regret that.

Bottom line is: you're going to get fat, your parents are going to find out, please let them help you in your decision.

I would personally not make any decisions until you SEE the baby, because that baby will melt your heart and you'll want to keep it. The baby will melt your parents hearts (who are now grandma and grandpa) and they will love that baby so much.

Trust me, I didn't think my parents would accept the baby, and they wanted me to get an abortion, but they love my son now- he's 2 years old now.

Some things to consider:
1. get on state assistance because they will pay for the birth.
2. decide if you'll keep it, or put it up for adoption.
3. decide if you're going to stay with Jared or not. (this will fluctuate)
4. get tested for STDs, because it's very possible you have them since you had unprotected sex. your baby CAN be born with an STD because you have one.
5. start getting prenatal care.
6. save up money.. what you can...

I wouldn't worry about your reputation, times are changing now days, and it's common people get pregnant. Please just try and finish as much school as you can because that is the basic building block of life. AND, you need at least a high school education... (consider home school if you're so worried about your reputation)

~good luck.. ~

Answer 2

Let's take this question from the top. First are you sure you are pregnant? Did you confirm it with a test? When was your last period?

If you are pregnant, you will have to figure out if you want to keep this child or not. Is an abortion an option? Do you ever want your parents to know about this?

If you decide that an abortion is right for you, all you have to do is contact planned parenthood. They will discuss your case with you and can make arrangements for you to have an abortion. Your parents do not have to give consent or know about your visits or discussions with planned parenthood.

If you want to keep your child you will have to tell your parents sooner or later. Do you really think they will kick you out? This won't be an easy talk, but you will have to do it sooner or later.

If you are not pregnant you should contact planned parenthood about birth control.

Your life will change drastically if you have a child at 14. Think about it... How will you care for your child and get an education? You will not be able to go out with friends on weekends.... you will miss out on a lot of things.

Some small minded people will think you are a whore, but not everyone will think that. Ignore people like that.

What you do from here is your decision. If you decide to get an abortion only you, and planned parenthood will know. Don't let anyone talk you out of it or tell you it is murder.. It is your right and your decision.

I wish you luck.

Answer 3

If you keep the baby your life is going to change big time no going out just because no just doing what you want anymore. I can even go pee with out a child in the bathroom with me. I dont think you are ready, you can try and abortion and your parents wont find out or you can be come an adult and tell them. IT WILL BE HARD but once it is done it is done they WILL FORGIVE YOU, and they will even say things that are not easy to hear but you will live threw it I promise, and they may help you raise the baby or you could give it up. You dont know how they will react untill you tell them. So many people out there want kids and can not have them. If you would like to enjoy being a teen you should give it up. Good luck and I wish you the best DONT DO ANYTHING STUPID

Answer 4

Your parents may not kick you out, but if they didnt allow you to date then they didnt take measures to know what you were really doing.
Yes most guys and girls in your age group will think your a whore, and someone will have to raise this baby.
I hope you learned your lesson hon, but you can STILL make something of your life.From now on no sex with ANY guy until he says "I do" and your are pronounced man and wife.
You dont want repeat of the last phone call you had with your ex b/f.
It WILL take time but if you follow through with THAT advice people will SEE you realize you made a mistake and learned from it and changed.
However for a long time guys will think your easy and will want to date you just for sex.Girls will gossip too.
Get an education and listen to your parents, you can adopt the child out.It isnt a horrible thing and youll be giving it life and a 2 parent home with parents who will love it and can provide for it.If not maybe your parents will adopt it or help you raise it if they want to do that.
If you DO get kicked out,call D.S.S. and some of the churches they can help you.

Answer 5

Aww sweetie, I am sorry that you are feeling so alone right now. Go to a Planned Parenthood or a Family Planning clinic and get a test,they will counsel you and listen to you and help you to figure out what is right for you. (and they are 100%confidential.)They won't pressure you either way about your choice.
You basically have 3 choices,and all can be really hard with regrets in all of them-either continue the pregnancy and keep the baby, continue and give the baby up for adoption, or have an abortion...
Teenagers will talk alot of crap,no matter what you choose to do, so try to hold your head up high, and hang in there.You will get through this.If you can't talk to your mom, can you talk to an aunt or one of your friends(who can not be a bigmouth) mom's? Or an aunt?
Having a child is a HUGE life changing event, so hopefully your family will support you in any decision you make.
reach out ....If you want to shoot me an email I'd be glad to talk to you.

Answer 6

You have to talk to your parents! Do you have another family member, grandmother, aunt, sister, who can be there when you break the news? Are you quite sure you are pregnant? Don't wait too long, you and the baby need medical care. The sooner you tell your parents, the sooner they will get over the initial shock and the sooner you can start prenatal care.
Yes your life has changed! No need to worry about your reputation now! That's something you should have thought about before you had sex!
As for your boyfriend, don't expect much other than child support, if you choose to raise the baby yourself. Do not have an abortion. There are plenty of couples who can not have one of their own, who would welcome your baby with open arms and provide a loving family.
You won't have to quit school! I have a niece who had a baby at 16, she graduated high school last year and is in her first year of college. Oh and recently got married.

Answer 7

Your life is not over and your parents will not kick you out.
They are strict on you because they love you and they will be upset and disappointed and but they will help you and they will still love you. Your life and their life will change, that's for sure, but at the end, everything will work out and you won't be able to imagine your life any other way. When you are 14 it is hard to imagine your life 10 years down the road but try to do that. Go to your parents, tell them you want to talk to them both, and tell them that you've messed up. Tell them you are sorry then tell them you are pregnant. Be prepared for their reaction so stay calm no matter what happens. If you stay calm, they will likely stay calmer too. Don't wait too long. Putting it off will make it more excrutiating for you.
I wish you luck, sweetie. You are in my prayers.

Answer 8

You need to talk to your parents, obviously waiting won't help matters, they will find out sooner or later.

Your life will change now. You have choices to make, one of which is to give the baby to a loving family who can't have children of their own, or you could raise the baby. Either way, there will be changes.

I don't think your reputation will suffer as much as you think, this is far more common nowadays than it used to be. Besides, you now have much more important things to think about then what others think f you.

I don't think you are a whore, I think you are a young woman who made an unwise choice and will need support of family, friends, and community.

What should you do?
Call 1-800-395-HELP they will help you.

Oh, and no matter what, your life is not over, it is just going to change a little sooner than it should have. God bless you. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to e-mail me. I was in your shoes, at the same age.

Answer 9

you should have used protection and waited until you were more educated on sex, before you had sex.
but whats done is done, therefore you have to tell your parents. maybe if they had given you "the talk" you wouldnt be in this situation. your young and scared, write them a letter if you have to before you go to school, so they have the whole day to cool down, although dont expect them to be happy about it when you get home. Adoption is always an option that would make another family out there very happy, that way you could move on with your life and finish your schooling.
or maybe you want to keep the baby? thats an option but I hate the idea of someone so young dropping out of school even if its only for a while..and then trying to raise a kid when your still a kid yourself. you could consider abortion, your young body may not even be able to go through with this pregnancy, your pelvic bones are not developed fully yet.
although there are 14 year old girls that have babies.
this is your decision, but you NEED to tell your mom and dad no matter what you choose to do.
good luck.

Answer 10

Ahh its alright. I hope they don't throw you out. If they do contact the local authorities and they will find a place for you. You could have an abortion. You know you have to get that done in the first six week or its not safe anymore after that. I would definatly tell someone who is close to you. Grandparent or older sybling. Really being pregnant is very natural. No one anymore thinks much of it. It happens to lots of girls and they live great lives. I know your scared but its going to be alright. the first step is to communicate with someone closr to you. Also check with someone and comfirm your pregnant. Maybe you are wrong.