I guest I am trying to decide how to start a new life but I don't know how to do it. We were married for 20 years I new I would grow old with him. He had lung cancer 15 days before he died. He went so fast. I diden have time to say good by I thank that hurt most of all. I just don't know whitch way to turn. If any one has any answer please share. I have my kids but it is not the same. I need other people to talk to.
2007-12-22 12:57:18 · 5 answers · asked by jackie g 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
My husband died April 30 of this year. It has been rough for me too. I work and that helps a lot. The kids are supportive, but I miss him being here. It feels strange without him. I have cried a lot and still cry. He also went fast. I then found out my cancer was back. I'm doing okay, but it is a lot to deal with. I finally got on Paxil, an antidepressant. I held off a long time but felt I needed a little more. I am going out with friends and that helps. I don't think it will ever be the same, but I am trying to find my place with him not here. I wish you luck in your life. Reach out to others who you can talk to. I have one friend in particular who lives close by. We usually go out once a week to Starbuck's and have a cup of coffee while we talk. I really look forward to doing this with her.
2007-12-22 15:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. Although I did not lose a spouse, I did just lose my grandmother who was like a mother to me to metastasized Colon Cancer ( it spread to her Lung).
She was diagnosed in May and just passed away December 8Th.
Grief is a natural process. I try to find strength through my family, friends and God ( if you believe) but I know how painful this is, believe me.
If you feel you cannot handle it do seek therapy for bereavement.
There really is noway to escape it and it is actually healthier to face it now and grieve rather then try to sweep it under the rug. You will never heal.
I guess the old saying holds true, Time heals all wounds.
You will never get over it, or forget him, but you will be able to deal with it and live.
Just remember, I am sure he would not want you or his children to fall to pieces,
These are the things I use to get through.
One day at a time sweetie.
2007-12-23 04:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by KlonopinQueen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just lost my Dear Husband of stage 4 small cell lung cancer. By the time they found it, it had already spread all over. He was diagnosed Feb 2012 had Radiation on Brain, and months of Chemo. It did rid of the tumors and shrunk them alot. After 9 months he couldnt even walk, he fell alot, and very very thin. I hurts to see your loved one go through this. We prayed together, cried together, grieved together, told each other how much we loved one another, held hands. All the treatment prolonged his life to get our household in order. He passed in March this year about 13 months we had more together. It was not suppose to happen this way. The Love of my Life is now with the Lord. Resting, no more pain, suffering,crying,worrying, no more tears. I must go on. I say this daily, to myself keep going one foot in front of the other. God will help us and heal us. Its a promise. Grieving is actually healthy to go through I have heard. Joy will come in the morning. Normal will never be the same. A new normal will come. Take care of yourselves, enjoy and be thankful for all God has given to us. We need to look around and see the beauty of others, family, loved ones, friends and run our race well . Plus, our loved one who went to be with the Lord, would not want us sad all the time. Love is wanting the people left here on earth, to move on happy and healthy. You will see them again !!
2013-10-25 00:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by marjorie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although not a partner..but i lost my dad to lung cancer in May... He was 62 and he lost his fight after 8 weeks.... its not a fair fight fighting with lung cancer... its a mainly silent cancer and its often too late by time of diagnosis.... I am truly sorry for you as 15 days is not enough time to say and do everything you want to say and do, the only thing that brings me small comfort is what the first answerer said.... he didnt have long to sufffer.
I hope you can get in touch with people in the same situation as it does help to talk to them.
good luck to you xx
2007-12-24 00:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to go fast instead of suffer a long drawn out sickness. Try hayhouse.com. you may find comfort in knowing that you are not alone.
2007-12-22 21:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋