Um Im a guy and my best friend(guy) hang out alot together, but when we do, he always makes me jealous on purpose. He shows me his cell phone contacts list, shows me his aim and stuff, and he shows me pics of his girl and him making out. It makes me so jealous, he has like alotta girls and I have none, he tells me girls are just supposed to be used and that they like it better if you act like a agressive boy rather than respect them... He says u can be going out with more girls than one as long as the other one doesnt find out, and tht most girls expect u to do this, I dont have any girlfriends, girls think Im really annoying, innocent but they can see that I am athletic and smart. I think that women should be treated with respect, and that they're amazing ppl, I dont think what saying is true, can someone plz explain this to me, prefereably a girl so I can see how u girls think?
2007-12-22 12:14:17 · 32 answers · asked by Dhoopy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your best friend has a self esteem complex and it is making him feel better to make you feel like crap. You are absolutely correct about how women should be treated and you just need to be patient and wait for the right one to show up. Don't listen to your friend, because his womanizing habits will turn on him and bite him in the butt someday soon.
2007-12-22 12:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by JaneDoe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately your friend is not entirely incorrect. Many girls, for various reasons, go after guys they feel inferior to. They try to find a tough and domineering guy. Girls themselves have a hard time establishing these traits because of society and other influences. This causes them to look for another source for these aspects.
What guys don't realize is that girls try to intimidate other girls but can't always do this on their own. If their boyfriend is a bigger badass than the girl that they are trying to intimidate they feel they have the upper hand and have won.
If you just want a girlfriend and you don't want to look or feel like an ***, you have to look a little harder. Look for those independant girls, the ones that might be smarter and have ambitions. Those are the girls that will appreciate you and you will usually have more fun with them anyways. Besides, if you can find one girl that treats you like a king and you reciprocate those feelings, you've won. Your friend might actually be jealous of you because I garauntee, those chicks he is with right now, they are shallow and stupid. They won't respect him, they are good for status quo only.
2007-12-22 12:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by Thorn of Rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, basically he the type of guy who ends up with girls, but has a few diseases, gets a couple of girls pregnant, ends up having to give child support, and ends up lonely later on in life. By the time he decides he wants to settle down, the good ones will be taken. He'll end up with someone who's got baggage.
And you.... are marriage material. His head is so huge with pride right now that he can't even see how many girls he is really hurting.
Just remember:
Boys give love to get sex
Girls give sex to get love
Whatever girls he is "hanging" with and using, are not girls you would want to marry. He's just chewing them up like gum and spitting them out. Would you want to be with a girl like that? No way.
You are admirable for who you are and you deserve one awesome girl. I'm with a husband who views women with respect like you do and my husband is one awesome guy.
2007-12-22 12:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mom2Five 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur friend is soooooo wrong!! using a girl is a major turn-off and if u use a girl and the word gets around, u can kiss future relationships good-bye. im not sure why girls find u annoying but i think that ur on the right track. as long as u respect a girl, ur fine. u just have to wait for the right one to come around. and keep in mind that this is comming from a girl. :]
2007-12-22 12:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by poorvipatel101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know what us girls think in general. but I am old enough to tell you your friend shouldnt be your friend....hes a real dud. a loser. and time will prove it. no one wants to be with anyone like him. hes gonna die lonely. i dont know how old you are but you sound much more mature than your friend. he doesnt deserve what he thinks he has. girls dont think you are annoying. Im sure you just feel like this and it might be because of your friend. girls are not stupid for long. dont be jealous of him he has really nothing worth bragging about. concentrate on your intelligence and athletics. girls love smart strong men. you are on your way. good luck and dont give up. if girls dont like you now its their loss. someone special will come into your life and she and you will both be lucky and happy
2007-12-22 12:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by larnsue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel i think your "friend" sounds like guy sl*t(it wont let me say it)... ha ha... more like a pig.. If the girls new about it then they would probrably back off.. girls do deserve respect you right about that but i think you shouldnt be jealous.. someday you'll have all the girls and he will be an old, disgusting freak. remember there is a girl for almost everyone and dont treat girls like crap becuase you want to be "even" with your pighead of a friend. that makes you as sick and cheap as him
2007-12-22 12:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by bananablurp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alot just depends on the girl, but sometimes if shes just desperate or has low self esteem, she might just try to overlook any bad that she might see in the guy just because shes getting attention. and it is true that sometimes girls like the guys like your friend better, but thats just when they want to 'have fun.' but once they get past that stage, they'll be lookin for someone more like you... someone who "respects them and thinks theyre amazing." it just takes some girls a little longer than others
2007-12-22 12:24:02 · answer #7 · answered by roxxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. First it sounds like your friend there, he tries to make you jealous on purpose.......Second of all, it sounds like he also attracts the girls who don't even respect themselves.
No girl expects you to be cheating on them while your suppose to be in a relationship with them.....don't listen to your friend.......women should be treated with respect and respect should be given in return.
2007-12-22 12:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by p-nut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well we like the men nice gentlmen and NOT annoying if theyre annoying just forget it
but ok if u have more then 1 gf like ur best friend the grls r gonna find out 1 way or another that he has more then 1 gf and it aint gonna be pretty so dont be like ur friend trust me!
the grls can find out hes cheating on them just by looking at his phone especially the pics and prolly the contacts
2007-12-22 12:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by That Girrl♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look some girls like aggression but we also want respect i don't see why your friend has a girl and you don't if your athletic and smart thats cool and you think girls should be treated with respect and were amazing i don't know if i answered your question
2007-12-22 12:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋