My 2 year-old throws tantrums whenever he doesn't get his way and hits me. I don't believe in spanking..help!

Answer 1

Unfortunately, he need a little spanking. A child should never hit his mother. I don't care how old they old. You obviously like him hitting you, or you would have done something by now.

Answer 2

You've got to let him know that hitting you is not appropriate. Tell him how sad that makes you feel that he hits you because you love him so-o much. Then just walk away and ignore him. The bigger deal you make of the situation will only prolong the problem.
Personally, I believe in spanking, but if you don't, then this would be the best alternative. I raised 3 kids and have 6 grandchildren and I've seen it all. Spanking doesn't have to happen often, but there are times when it's the only thing that works for me. God bless you and have a Merry Christmas!!

Answer 3

Your first problem is that you specifically do not believe in spanking. I'm not suggesting you should definitely use spanking as a discipline technique, but children are not made out of cookie cutter molds. Some will respond better to some forms of discipline than others. If your 2 year old would respond properly to spanking, you'll never know because you're not willing to try.

However, you're looking for other tips here. One thing you could do is to walk away from his tantrums. He might try to follow you, but that will be extra effort on his part to continue the tantrum as he tries to follow you as you do your best to ignore his verbal and physical outbursts. If he is hitting you, though, you'll need to do something forceful to make him stop, possibly grabbing and holding onto his arms. You are significantly bigger and stronger than he is, so you shouldn't have much difficulty restraining him.

One thing I've learned is that children often respond to very soft voices or soft singing. When your child gets into that phase, if you can distract him with something else, perhaps beginning to tell a story in a whisper, he might actually stop his actions and try to listen to you.

Answer 4

I hate these spanking questions. First off please DON'T FORGET that kids will hit (at least once) no matter who their parents are. These spankers are painting a pretty picture, but it's FICTION.

Second, if he's hit you more than once, it's because you allowed it. It's very easy and quick to hit a child for hitting you.... but wow that's super effective, isn't it? Lol. I have never had to spank my 3 either. For mine what worked was seeing me upset. The firm "NO Hitting!" and being put in their crib/corner/room/wherever away from me really hurt them. Each time they tried hitting, the "time out" got longer. It didn't take but a few times for them to get it. They apparently decided they liked positive attention better than solitary confinement. And really who doesn't?

Your situation is harder because you've allowed it before. I wish you the best of luck. The 'twos' are hard for almost all of us, you are not alone, and you will survive it. Blessings to you, and Merry Christmas.

Answer 5

my 5 year old still does that to me sometimes. I give him 3 warnings, then i use time out. If that still doesn't work, i spank him. Hitting is a sign of disrespect, and i do not tolerate that!
I know i will get some thumbs down for this, and frankly i don't give a flying flip what anyone thinks, but IMO, Spanking works. Especially if he is hitting me. IMO that's why we have some real brats these days because their parents don't believe in spanking! They are used to getting what they want! Like i said, give me Thumbs down if you want, but that is my opinion, and i am not changing it!

Answer 6

now what you need to do...is get down to eye level and tell you son what he is doing wrong and then put him in time out and leave him there for 2 minutes(due to his age--2).ignore him while he is pulling a tantrum in time out and if he gets out of time out keep putting him back in....You have to be consistent. Everytime he gets out add another minutes to it. Once he has quieted down try the 2 minutes and then when time is up, get back down to eye level and ask him and make sure he understands what he has done wrong and why he is in timeout! Then have him give you a hug and apologize. Do this everytime he acts up with any reason and see how well it works....do I use this method..NO but all non spankers seem to think its the best and works the best!!! Good Luck!!!

Answer 7

Just because you don't believe in spanking doesn't mean it won't help your situation. When he starts throwing the tantrum get to his level calmly ask him to please stop if he doesn't take him over your knee smack his bottom a couple of times and then bring him up. He'll more then likely start to cry, but it will stop the behavior because one he wasn't expecting the spanking and two it will hurt just a little bit, and third he'll know that you mean business and he'll stop hitting when you ask him to stop.

Answer 8

It is just a phase that he will grow out of! We have 3 children and have never used any sort of physical consequences for negative behaviors. Our kids are well mannered, polite and listen! I think the key is consistency. When our littlest went through a hitting stage, we would remove him from whatever situation he was in, walk him over to the corner and make him stay there. We would say firmly "no hitting". Then when he was done standing in the corner, we got down to his level, looked him directly in the eye and said "hitting hurts- we don't hit." Then he would go apologize to the person he hurt. Don't listen to all those people saying your child will grow up to be spoiled or disrespectful if they are not spanked. That is their own justification for what they believe to be right. We all parent differently. Like I said- all 3 of our children are well-mannered and have NEVER had a bit of trouble in school, and we don't spank. Our children respect us and know that we respect them too! Children are such a joy and you CAN raise well mannered children without physically hurting them.

Answer 9

my son just turned 2, we also recently had issues with tantrums and hitting, and we also don't spank. tantrums alone, i'll ignore, and he eventually gives up and goes on about his day when he sees they're not working. he still does have the occasional tantrum, but they're becoming much less frequent. if he hit, i told him no, that hurts, and had him immediately apologize. if he didn't immediately stop and say sorry, i'd say "time out", and put him in his room with a safety gate on the door for time out (2 minutes, or until he calmed down, whichever came second). it did take a number of consistent tries, but pretty soon all i had to do when he started looking like he was going to hit was say "do you need a time out?" and he would calm right down.

Answer 10

You have to be persistant. If the punishment when he hits is time out. Then every time he hits you put him in time out. Ignore the tantrum, and if he gets up you put him right back untill he stays, even if it takes hours. You have to commit. It wont take just one time for it to work either, it takes quite a few times but they eventually get the picture. The key is to be consistant. Do it every time.

Answer 11

Walk away from the temper tantrums, especially if your at home. As for hitting you, put him in his room for a good long time (like 20 minutes) and don't let him come out. He will get the picture.