it was our anniversary the other day and it was important to me that we at least see each other. we can't do too much to celebrate cause we live at home and it's hard to get out. but i feel like i'm always the one who make a big deal about things like this (anniversary, birthday, and whatnots)...it's not about material gifts, but what that day means and i think it should be special. while some guys are the ones who do things to make those days special, my bf is not like that and i realized that a while ago and decided to accept that. ...but i still like to make those days special for him...but for our anniversary, he didn't even bother to come see me and it wasn't until i made a big deal about it (b/c i had a surprise gift to give him) that he finally came. it sucks feeling like i'm the only one who cares to do things to make it special and frankly it's really disappointing. so how do i get over feeling like this? or accept that's just how he is?
2007-12-22 12:04:32 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he says it's important to him too, but i guess he just doesn't care to show it...and i did talk about it with him even the last time before our anniversary, but things are still the same...maybe he doesn't get it or think that way
2007-12-22 12:05:20 · update #1
men are from mars and women are from Venus......it is kinda important to them too.......unfortunately, not as important as it is to you. I know it upsets you, but honey, just brush it off. It's not worth fighting about........I have a husband who isn't big on anniversary's and sentimental stuff and after a while I learned to accept it cause I love him......(if you do you'll get over it too.....you'll see)
2007-12-22 12:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by p-nut 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just like this and it may be that he is a person who doesn't need a date to remember to cherish what he has in life. So i think that you should just accept his ways if you want the relationship to work. you can still have your interpretation of the holidays and stuff and he can have his. The real challenge is to combine the two and when you succeed, your relationship will be so much stronger. Good Luck.
2007-12-22 12:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by DCD4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop all the special treatment. yeah you love him and all but if you dont recognize any of his special days like birthdays and such he may come around. Start with nothing for christmas and make no plans for new years. mabye by valentines day he may get the hint.
2007-12-22 12:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just dosent know what to get you and he wants the gift to be perfect you should just give it time and so if he does come around you wont have to worry about it and if he doesn't then you will have to have a serious talk with him
2007-12-22 12:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So my bf is not like that and i realized that a while ago and decided to accept that. ... .....these are your own words sweetie......this "IS " your boyfriend and not your husband........
so accept it like you said....don't expect things to be any different later....should he become your husband.
2007-12-22 12:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Blondie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋