You can't date. You can't meet alone to talk. So what happens?
2007-12-22 11:34:24 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Africa & Middle East ➔ Morocco
Many say you have six months to two years to get married. So what is going on during that time? Is the man getting prepared?
2007-12-23 05:03:44 · update #1
You are being secretive but it is understandable. I think you asked this question in the morocco section cause you may be a foreigner marrying a moroccan but nothing is wrong with that and you shouldn't feel ashamed or embarassed to ask questions. That's how we learn. Who cares what people think. So for you answer just like everyone else has said you have to fullfill the marriage requirements such as government issues and contracts depending on where you are getting married. You are legally married but know that if you have relations or things like that then it will be more to deal with if you decide to part before the ceremony. By engagement I will assume you mean an agreement to marry so of course you have to be with your mahram and not alone. Keep your speach halal but remember that Islam covers everything in life so I personally feel no harm in asking if their are similarities in certain issues in islam. As long as you are with your mahram.
2007-12-23 04:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by ~~Rainbow Water~~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first i wanna ask u some question
are u a Muslim?????????,
are u Arabic??,,,,,,
anyway
in Islam dating is not legal and the girl should not meet a stranger i say a STRANGER alone but if he is her fiance they still cant meet alone or touch each other when they meet they must be a third person with em,in order to avoid el KHOLWA but it's better for the engaged couple to know each other under the supervision of their parents i mean not secretly they parent should know that they talk and meet not alone i repeat so that the couple must know each other better share their ideas and discover each other it's good to give a birth to love emotion between em since they will be living together for lifetime so there must be some feelings to each other and these feelings start during the engagement period it's good if they cant meet coz of the sever traditions he at least should see her and look at her "our prophet peace be upon him " he advised a young man to only have a look at her fiance's face
so it's preferable to meet with family not alone
but if they have already completed the marriage process i mean they fulfilled the marriage conditioned and it rest only the wedding party they are considered as married and they can meet alone and act like married couple wife and husband all the duties and rights
2007-12-22 20:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Cleopatra mohamed'redouane's mom 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not Moroccan but I'm Egyptian Muslim and I know during the engagement time you get to know more about each other in a more formal way {i.e away from just affection u try to see the real thing of Ur other half to be.
we do date {not in the western sense of course};go out together ;talk , both families get to know each other more and discuss the details of building the new family
2007-12-25 02:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by samy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a sacred institution which is not to be taken casually. God puts up a lot of considerations for marriage. To begin with, two requirements of a marriage are mutual attraction and dowry see 4:24.
With regard to the first requirement, in my view it takes time for the couple to know if they really love each other or not, sometimes years. Thus God gives us the alternative of engagement first, that we may have a better chance of getting to know the other person, to see if he or she is really the right one for us.
We must know that even if we are engaged to someone we are not allowed to meet with that person in private unless we have something righteous to discuss with them. Sexual relationship is not allowed until after the wedding. A sexual friendship or arrangement will be considered adultery, a gross sin in Islam.
There is nothing unrighteous about the meetings during the engagement periodif it is for discussing righteous matters and for the sole purpose of getting to know whether they like each other. You can meet in the open (or privately, with righteous intention, if required) with consent of both your families.
In my view if the interaction between the two is only through telephone, there is no sin on either..
If one is still pursuing education he may not be able to afford the dowry to be paid to his wife (which as stated earlier is a requirement for marriage). Further God has made men the bread-earner - see 4:34. Since you have yourself said that you "can't get married and live together for at least another 2 years" you might want to wait for a few more years. Obviously you are aware that you cannot take the responsibility of supporting your wife and family. When you take on a wife, and have children it is a big responsibility.
2007-12-22 11:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Shay p 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You can meet as long as the female has a mahram with her. The mahram doesn't have to sit on top of the two....he should be in the same room, able to see the two. The two surely need to meet and talk and get to know each other.
Some ppl have the nikaah performed straight away after the couple agree to marry but wait on the waleemah that way they can be alone together and it is not haram. If it doesn't work out the marriage has not been made public with a big party and the two can go their separate ways.
It's really not that hard of a thing.
2007-12-22 12:00:52 · answer #5 · answered by ~~∞§arah T∞©~~ 6 · 4⤊ 4⤋
Why do you ask this in the Morocco section?
You prepare for the wedding. You don't put the wedding off you don't take too long to plan it.
Tell me, in America (and elsewhere) what goes on between the time of engagement and the wedding?????????
2007-12-22 22:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Sassafrass 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well you cant talk to each other..as long as someone is around and you're not alone. I really don't know but when I am engaged we are at least going to email/text each other lol!
2007-12-22 11:49:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
it has nothing to do with religion, there different traditions. some meet alone in the guist room but the door would be open and the family in another room. some date, but her sister should be with them. some are more open, others are more close.
2007-12-27 00:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in that time you have to speak with her to know her culture to feel your sensations with her from talking you shal discover her soul are you comfort with or not from her behaviour you shal discover many things either to complet or finish
2007-12-22 12:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by samy n 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is no dating or engagement, when u ask them ur basically married already, the marriage is kind of like a party afterwards
2007-12-22 11:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by oak 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋