My Parents are so Stupid?

Question

ok my mom is a hypocrite. and she thinks that she is always right and each time she doesnt get it her way she starts to yell and get all pissed off and i am like WTF. then i try to speak up she ends up coming back with "do you treat me like your mom"
Also my parents get in arguments a lot and it is always my mom who starts the argument with my dad because my dad does not want to give his opinion because if he gives the wrong one my mom will go BALLISTIC on him.

when ever i see that happen in my head iam like "SHUT THE F*** up both of you guys are so stupid "

what should i do because its getting the the point where i am about to slap both of them in the face and yell the crap out of them.

Answer 1

talk or write a letter to your mom explaining this. you have to stand up for how you feel otherwise you will burst and slap her then feel like crap for it.
i understand where you're coming from because my mom's the same way. you just have to explain what's going on to her and then it's up to her what she does. i hope all works out well :)

Answer 2

Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs to do - it is for a lifetime even when the children have grown up and moved away.

There are no guide lines on how to be a good or even successful mother or father and it is simply through trial-and-error if you get it right. You mother believes she is right. She yells in frustration because Life is too much for her. The arguments she has with your father are not helped because even if he does voice his opinion, it is not the answers your mother wants to here. You, in turn, are on the receiving end of all this.

So I want to make some practical suggestions in the hope they will help..............

(1) Go out shopping or window-shopping or for a cuppa away from the family home with your Mom.
(2) Tell her you love and respect her and say this often.
(3) Treat her to a bunch of flowers every now and again - tell her you want her to have something that will give her pleasure.
(4) Make the opportunity to sit with her quietly at home and talk like two intelligent human beings.
(5) Tell her it upsets you very much that she finds it necessary to yell at you. Ask her why she feels the need to do so.
(6) Ask her if there is something you do perhaps that upsets or annoys her and if you are able to make it right, then do so.

Talk with your father as well. Much depends on his character and personality but why not suggest to him that he steps into the situation more often regardless of what your mother says to him. He needs to be the head of the household and not the underdog.

Tell both of your parents you find this whole set-up unacceptable behaviour on their part, that they are not setting you an example how to live your life by and that there needs to be some positive changes in order you can live together in harmony.

Do you have grand parents or other relatives with whom you can confide? See if between all of you, you cannot persuade your Mom especially to change otherwise the consequences could be very serious for all of you in the long run.

The one thing is you need to remain calm and in control of the situation. Yelling or slapping solves nothing and indeed, could make matters far worse.

Answer 3

I'll state up front I'm 45 so probably close to your parents' ages. I hope you keep reading, though.

I grew up in a home very much like yours, except my dad was the dictator of the house and pretty much beat my stepmom down, verbally and physically, to which she responded by abusing us children. Not a good situation.
They're both gone now.

Now that I'm older, I can see things from both sides. I'm sorry you have to go through that. You SHOULDN'T have to...but those were the cards you were dealt. I completely understand what you're going through and your sentiments are completely natural, but responding to
them in kind will do nothing but exacerbate the problem and believe me, if you strike them, it is YOU who will be labeled the troublemaker, get put on Ritalin if you're lucky, and put in juvenile detention possibly. Do you want that? Of course not.

It sounds like you are going to have to be the mature one in the situation. That's asking a lot of a teenager (I am assuming you are one) but you sound, although angry, like a sensitive guy with a keen idea of right and wrong and what the natural balance of things SHOULD be. Your parents (if your description of them is accurate and fair) seem to be under tremendous stress and seem to have lost their ways, your mom playing the prima donna and your dad the whipped husband, both unfortunate paths for parents to take. They are human, though, and the older you get, the smaller, more fallible, and infinitely human they will become in your eyes.

You will likely be a husband and father someday. One can tell how a guy will treat his wife by the way he treats his mother. If you respond to your parents physically, you will only be carrying on an unfortunate legacy and will subject your own children to that. Obviously, you don't want that, either. Again, you HAVE to take the high road and be the adult, because someone has to be in that house.

You probably can't do it alone so if there is any other adult you know and trust you can talk to, please do, if nothing else than to give you guidance and a calming presence you obviously need.

Again, I'm sorry for your problem; I've been there. But do your best to rise above it, dedicate your energy and transfer your anger to determination to something constructive, whatever that may be for you, and you WILL get through this and you WILL not allow the mistakes of your parents to dictate poor choices on your own part. You want to be a good husband and father yourself, right? Regardless of the choices your parents are making, do what you know is the right thing, ride the storm as best you can, and hopefully, you will take these unfortunate life experiences and make your OWN children's lives much better for it.

Best wishes.

Answer 4

I had the same life once upon a time... it was soo good when I was finally able to leave home, but even then things didn't change At Home. But at least I wasn't living there anymore and I had the chance to work on myself some more. Boy, did I have ISSUES.
Not much you can do to change them, I'm afraid. Just try to make sure that whatever it is that's made (making) them that way doesn't do the same thing to you.
Whatever happens, in both the short term and the long term, just try to make sure YOU don't turn out like that.

Answer 5

Time to talk to someone who are not your parents. You should not be in the middle of this and it isn't fair that you are. Go find someone you can talk to. A teacher, a counsellor, a friend's parent, your family doctor, your pastor, it doesn't matter. Anyone adult that you trust. Get it all out. Talk about it. Find out what kind of options you have. You don't have to keep this bottled inside, but talking to your parents isn't going to work. They're too busy fighting with each other. Good luck.

Answer 6

Quit argueing with your mother... more than likely, most of the arguments center around you thinking you are the center of the universe...
Just do the things she asks you to do....

By the way, your mom is not a hypocrite, and it's her house, not yours, you want to rule the castle? Go get a job, move out, support yourself....

Answer 7

your wanting to react like this because of how your mother acts around you, you can see that it is pointless to be like this so the worsted thing you could do is slap either of your parents, could you talk to a grandparent or a aunt??. let them know how pissed off you are at home, and maybe they could talk with your parents and let them know how much they are hurting you.. Good luck

Answer 8

sounds like your parents are the ones with the issues, and your mom is taking it out on you. poor you. if your still in school, maybe you should see the counelor for some help and guidance.

Answer 9

Teach those idiots a lesson, Move Out!

Answer 10

uggh i hate that to my parents get that way all the time........ur moms hormones just might be acting up who knows..........the best thign to do is to go to ur room and listen to some music dont get involved