There is this girl that really likes me she is a girl and is 10 years older than me though!Age doesn't matter and I go for guys but don't know if I should give her a chance! It would be something new! I want to try it just for the hell of trying something new! What is your take on lesbian relationships? I am not ******* Cristian so dateing a girl is not a problem religiously for me!!!!
2007-12-22 11:18:42 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is funny! When someone explains to me how much they love me like she did it makes me grow closer to them!!! So yeah I am starting to like her in that romantic way!!!
2007-12-22 11:35:08 · update #1
Attraction is a funny thing that seems to pay not attention to our concept of gender and 'correctness' - the same goes for love. And from my point of view, both are far more fundamentally important concepts than 'religion', 'social acceptability' or whatever, so the acceptability of homosexuality should never be a question.
However, I urge caution. If she really likes you, and you think it might be fun 'just for the hell of trying something new' then please be careful that you are considerate of her feelings. A lesbian relationship may end up being tougher than a hetro one because of society's views, so you'd have to be 100% into the idea to make it work, and to make sure you don't hurt her. It wouldn't be fair to start it for the sake of an experiment and then end up hurting her.
Good luck!
2007-12-22 11:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First off: You have to make sure she understands the nature of the relationship first. Lesbians have feelings too and it would be a real jerk move to make her believe you really did have feelings for her when really all your doing is 'trying something new for the hell of it' If she's fine with that then you're all set!
As for my personal views on homosexuality: I like the quote 'You can't help who you love.' and I think it's true. Love who you love, don't deny any part of yourself. It's natural to be curious about the unknown. Again just make sure she understands that you don't have feelings for her.
2007-12-22 19:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Ruthie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should follow your feelings, if you are attracted to this woman then go for her! Relationships with women are proven to be much more positive and rewarding for both sexes, and dating another girl means that you don't have to work on figuring them out, we understand each other. "but dating a girl is just like dating a guy, they can lie and cheat and break your heart just the same." Besides, the hooking up is pretty amazing...
2007-12-22 19:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can give it a shot, but it would be fair to let her know of your disposition. You didn't mention any feelings for her, so that concerns me a bit. Just be true to yourself if it doesn't look like it's working out, and make sure that neither one of you gets hurt in the process. Pretty much the same advice I would give to a heterosexual relationship.
As for homosexuality, it doesn't bother me at all. If that's your thing, then go for it. You don't choose who you're attracted to, nor who you fall in love with. You certainly don't choose your sexual orientation.
2007-12-22 19:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The choice is yours.. I'd never suggest being with someone just to be trendy or because of how you think others might react, but if she interests you and you feel attracted, then don't be afraid to see where it goes!! No harm no foul, if things don't work out :)
Now if you're grossed out by the idea, then don't waste your time or hers.
There's nothing wrong with being lesbian, or straight, or bi - just be honest with yourself and dowutchalike!
2007-12-22 19:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by C-Man 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My best friend and I tried it out in our Junior Year of High School...that was 1964 if you care to know. We loved each other very much...and it had its satisfactions, but it was a one time deal...neither of us cared to repeat it. We are still Friends all these years after... and the experience comes up in conversation every five years or so. We validate that ' we tried it'. That's all.
2007-12-22 19:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Gina C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try it then power to you. The only issues would be your friends might get a little freaked out, and your parents might too. Also guys might get turned off. Hey, it's your business though. My opinion is that if that's how ladies or guys if their gay want to be then thats fine. Leave them alone.
2007-12-22 19:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by peace ♥ music 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homosexualality (both sexes) is absolutly fine, if you both like each other then go out, but be carefull of the age difference and also, make sure you don't hurt them (pycologicly) because you might break there heart.
2007-12-22 19:23:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was brought up Catholic, so this was a HUGE no-no. I never even gave it any thought or was bi-curious. I guess the right situation came along and I tried it. This was about 3 yrs ago, and we've been enjoying each other's company ever since.
Go for it.
2007-12-22 19:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by serialmom12 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well being young I assume go ahead and experiment with your emotional and sexual side a little now. You might learn more about yourself that you really did not know.Just be open with anyone male or female about your likes and dislikes so that they do not get suprized.
2007-12-22 19:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋