Is it a big deal if your boyfriend tells people intimate details of your relationship? I'm talking about physical details here.
I don't like it, but he doesn't understand what the big deal is. Am I being silly?
I'm in high school if that changes anything.
thanks.
2007-12-22 10:51:32 · 12 answers · asked by cocobeware 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
um, to avoid anymore hurtful comments can i just say i havent slept with him or come close. Thanks.
2007-12-22 11:03:33 · update #1
YES, he's being a jerk, and he's being immature, especially if you've told him you don't like it and he doesn't understand.
You should not be with this guy, he's going to turn out to be bad for you, trust me, I'm a guy.
If he tells this stuff now, he will tell EVERYTHING if you do anything sexual with him, which you should not.
He's a little boy, get rid of him.
2007-12-22 15:44:08 · answer #1 · answered by dork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, for one you are NOT being a prude. It's perfectly normal to want to hurt him if he goes off telling people about your intimate life. I just need to know if he's telling it in a way as if he's bragging about it or is he just telling it casually as if nothing's wrong. Well, if he's bragging about it then you should definitely be pissed that he's exposing that part of your relationship. He probably thinks it's not a big thing because guys are made that way. haha They don't see it as "intimacy," but instead see it as just a normal topic. It's disrespectul that he would want to tell guys about your intimate life. For most girls, it's completely different. We don't go off bragging how he ate me out or whatever. We say it like it could be a scary thing, good, or bad thing. Guys would probably see it as another way to look cool. AND you're in high school? I think you're pretty smart & mature to be thinking that it's a big deal that he runs his mouth with other guys. You should make him understand you & he should respect that. Well, the best of luck to you...and if it doesn't work out, you sound like a nice girl that's capable of getting other guys. haha =)
And the guy on top of me is obviously a complete idiot. You just said that you didn't sleep with him. Ignore the jerks that can't any.
2007-12-22 19:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong or a prude. What happens between you two physically is PRIVATE and should only be between the two of you. It's no one else's business. Dump the guy, he obviously has no respect for your feelings or the relationship. It'll be hard but you'll see there's better guys out there that will love you and respect you. He's obviously too immature to understand what the problem is...find someone better!
2007-12-22 18:55:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ruthie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you wish the details to remain confidential, he should respect that.
He is using you to try to prove his masculinity. He is still a boy.
If you ever have wondered what people mean when they say that a women is used as a sex object, you have an example now.
2007-12-22 19:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by hamrrfan 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What did you expect? Has it occurred to you that high school students, in general, don't have the emotional maturity to be involved in an 'intimate' relationship in the first place?
That's what you get for sleeping around, babe. If you don't have enough respect for yourself to wait, don't expect him to respect you either. In the future, keep your pants on until you find a guy you can trust.
2007-12-22 19:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by dukefenton 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You're being perfectly normal, assuming you aren't doing the same with your friends. Both need to get their feelings about this sort of thing out in the open, and if they can't agree it is unfortunatly one of those make or break deals.
2007-12-22 18:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is immature. Is he acting like a jerk? Yup, but acting like a jerk seems to be common for high school boys so you might have to live with it.
2007-12-22 18:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by theFuj 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? You should kick him in the balls and tell him to go tell the details of that. He needs to grow the hell up.
2007-12-22 18:54:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
he is very rude i dont think he should be doing that specially if you dont like it. you should talk to him and get him to understand may be if theres something he doesnt like discussing with others you can use that as an example to show him how you feel.
2007-12-22 18:59:16 · answer #9 · answered by flower.power89 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you,I do not understand why some people that think that they need to announce to the world what they did,how they did it,etc,etc,etc.This should be personal and PRIVATE!!!!
2007-12-22 18:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by sirmrmagic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋