Do you think looks don't matter?

Question

I think they do... course they do.. I'm male, and I would never go out with a woman if say she looked like a man... that's the whole point, I'm attracted to FEMALES. Female body, female lips female characteristics. Saying looks don't matter... is like saying that you would date a man if he had a female personality... Looks DO matter. Looks + personality are both essential. and that's not shallowness. There has to be a sexual attraction. Eventually it dies down to personality in the long long run but looks do matter. I just hate lying to make people feel better about themselves and their life.

Answer 1

yOU'RE TOTALLY RIGHT.

Answer 2

Looks really shouldn't matter. In the long run it all boils down to how you really feel about the person. I don't lie to make people feel better about themselves or their lives. Never have, and I never will. But I do look past the appearence, as I know that the appearence is only that, and it really means nothing. Appearence doesn't mean the person has a good heart. You can take the most beautiful woman/man in the world, and they can be a real jerk... And the same goes for the ugliest woman/man in the world. But there are some of those people who you would consider to be ugly who have the best personality and heart there is. You just won't know it, because you don't take time to look past the outter core of what we as humans look like.

Answer 3

Looks matter to me only so much. I prefer that the person be less than 30 lbs overweight, healthy, and have good hygeine. Also, facial deformities--such as a single eye in the center of the face--are a turnoff to me. If someone has an amputation, like a finger, a hand, or a leg, it doesn't necessarily turn me off at all.

Breast implants are a terrible turnoff. I'd rather see boobs that hang down past the belt and have stretchmarks or wrinkles.

Superpale or tanned skin matters not. However, I hate the tan line from a french bikini. Looks whorish.

Personally, I'm thinking of learning braille, so I can hang around hot blind chicks. that way I can get a good looking woman, who doesn't give a care what *I* look like. Haha

Answer 4

Well, look at it this way. Looks matter, but they don't matter more than other things. It's all in the presentation. Like, no one wants to go on a date with someone who is wearing a stained shirt and has green teeth. Sexual attraction might be there, but what the meaning of 'looks don't matter' is that you can't be too picky. You can't be going after only girls under 110 pounds or the one that has the prettiest face. There's a person underneath the charm, and when you look behind the charm, she may not be sinister, but you will be glad you looked.

Answer 5

Of course looks matter. It's just a good thing that everyone finds different things attractive in people. :) Looks aren't the only thing, but to say they don't matter at all is completely niave.

Men are much more visually stimulated than women are. Women are typical stimulated emotionally, which is why they don't seem to get the same enjoyment out of Playgirl as we do out of Playboy and why we don't get the same enjoyment out of Romance Novels as women do. You girls can complain and whine about how "wrong" and "stupid" or "insecure" that is all you want, but it's the way it is and it's not able to be changed.

Women seem to have an uncanny ability that eludes most men. They have an ability to see through bad looks and be more attracted to their personality. To a woman, a guys looks seem to enhance his personality. To a man, a womans personality seems to enhance her looks.

Answer 6

Who are you to lie to people to make them feel better about themselves??

Looks are a part of it, but the way you put it makes you sound shallow. You just need to grow up and look beyond it. People are people and have feelings. Everyone also has there own taste, someone you think is ugly may be the most attractive person in the world to some one else.

You don't love someone for the way they look, you love them for who they are, and looks are just a plus.

Answer 7

If all you cared about was looks then it is shallow. But if you rely on attractiveness in conjuction with personality, then you're not being entirely shallow. It's all about balance and perspective. Obviously you're not going to date a complete troll but don't turn a person down just because they only be average or slightly less than. Underneath the exterior is often a great person but never given the chance because of shallow fools.

Answer 8

There have been a lot of people I have not been attracted to when I first met them, but have grown to it from their personalities.

Of course looks matter, and they matter a lot more statistically from males. The truth is though there are still plenty of ugly people with fairly attractive partners. Sure looks matter but it varies from person to person just stereotyping the fact that looks matter just causes the assumption that an ugly person has no chance.

Answer 9

Of course looks matter. But it's the attitude that all women should look like a magazine cover girl that hurts. People should look beyond appearance to find the person .... not everyone woman you meet is a candidate for a future girlfriend or wife, but may become a friend.

Answer 10

Thats true. I mean you do have to be attracted to the person your with. but looks shouldnt be the ONLY thing that matters? you get what i mean.
Say there was a woman with your image of the perfect woman....but a horrible annoying personality. then there is another woman who dosnt look like a man...but not the hottest girl and has a great pesonality. who would you go out with?
i mean my guy isnt some model but im attratced to him in different ways and has a killer personality. so it all depnds.
happy holidays.

Answer 11

I really do agree with you for the most part. How you make yourself look on the outside is a representation of who you are on the inside. Ugly people aren't ugly because of how they're born, they're ugly because they aren't trying. There are exceptions to that, but that's basically the truth. Looks matter because it's a reflection of you.

Now if you're only after women who are ideal in every way, I'll disagree with you there. Physical beauty is only temporary and it won't keep you warm at night. Looks can only keep you occupied for so long, so make sure you find someone with matching insides.