I've been dating a great guy for the past 2 months and everything seems to be going well. He includes me in his future plans the only thing is he doesn't seem to want to introduce me to his family or any of his friends. I have mentioned meeting his parents in various none serious conversations but he seems to clam up and change the subject. Do you think I should be worried? How soon do guys usually bring their girlfriends home?
2007-12-22 10:30:19 · 9 answers · asked by Yaz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
look at a positive angle, its good that he doesnt need aproval from his parents.. if you make it a problem then it will be ..2.. months is an extremely short time for you to be even serious about someone.. i spose that depends on how old you are..if it goes on along time like years, then maybee he doesnt think you are the right one, but cant overcome the physical attraction. also a good point in one of the other answers,, that he is ashamed of his parents. so tread carfully here and like i said first, dont make an issue,, out of nothing but your own expectations
2007-12-22 13:44:25 · answer #1 · answered by ell jay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't Panic! Two months isn't a heck of alot of time, in that time most ppl have only just transitioned from infatuation to real love. Knowing this I'm aware that within 2 months I'm still getting to know the guy and vice versa, give it some time. Alot of women are desperate to marry any man who will march down the aisle, but you should make sure you have the right person for you. Things should develop naturally, don't rush it, if its just 2 months you may not be sure if you even know enough to make longterm plans with him. Its putting the horse before the cart. He's probably giving himself time to make sure, with just 2 months in a relationship that's reasonable and you should do the same. Nobody wants to introduce someone to their family when they're not absolutely sure they actually have a future together, when the relationship falls apart the whole family witnesses it.
However, if in a year -a reasonable time for a relationship to be serious and both ppl to make an informed choice about each other and the relationship's stability- he still hasn't shown any interest in introducing you to his family or vice versa then you should definitely put your foot down and consider if he has been honest about his longterm plans including you.
plus note* one way to know if he may be ashamed of his family is if he asks about yours but doesn't discuss his, this shows he's not against 'family' just he may think his is dysfunctional and is trying to gauge how normal your family is in comparison to see if you might be shocked or accepting.
Goodluck, I hope this helps.
2007-12-22 18:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by Azizah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time, its only been 2 months if after a year he has not introduced you to them, then there is a problem. You get to know him better and see where he is coming from and why it is taking him so long. You never know.
2007-12-22 18:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by babystuff6262005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they have problems...and he's embarassed.
Or maybe he has a hard time merging his "worlds". You've got to find out though.
Tell him you want to have coffee one morning/evening and then he wont have to worry about "how".
2007-12-22 18:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Ernie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just ask him about his family. This is a intimacy thing. He is ether worried about You or his family.
Rick
2007-12-22 18:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by RickinPA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either his family are sociopathic psychos, OR he doesnt want his family to tell you he is married.
2007-12-22 18:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its possible that hes ashamed of his parents, the only way to figure this out is to confront him about it
2007-12-22 18:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by HcAeLxXaM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely be concerned.
2007-12-22 18:33:26 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeaa...you should definitely talk to him about it.
2007-12-22 18:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by CASSiEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋