When I am at my boyfriend's apartment, he will try to get me to lie down with him in his bed. I've told him that I'm not ready for sex, and he knows this. He will say things like, "I promise I will not take off your pants. I just want to lie down with you?" What do you think?
2007-12-22 10:24:58 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that a young man's mission in life is to bed his woman. Period. It's an instinct and as such, not usually subject to the laws of reason. If you do not want to be in a compromising position, don't go to his apartment - or at the very least, stay out of his bedroom.
Peace!
2007-12-22 10:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make your position quite clear to your boyfriend again - and if he is not willing to wait for you then you know he aint worth it .... Its important that your partner treats you with respect as it sets a president for the future.
Encourage him to do other things that you both can enjoy - sports / walks/ movies etc.
Finally keep your pants on until your ready - sex in the early stages can often be quite an anti-climax / And i'm sure you don;t want to get pregnant or risk catching an STD
Play safe !!
2007-12-22 10:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ritzysamaaaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'd have a hard time getting your pants off without your help, anyway.
It really depends, does he just want to cuddle and watch tv or something? That would be understandable. If there's nothing else to do in the bed then lie there, he's obviously trying to have sex with you, and you should dump him.
2007-12-22 10:30:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants sex!! ugh..those boys are so persistent! How about you just try it..if he jumps all over you. You know that answer..and you need to have a serious talk about him pressuring you for sex and tell him he needs to respect your decision to wait a little longer.
There are rare cases when he really does just want to lay down and maybe spoon. I'm sure he's a horny..but he will take anything since he can't have sex. And figures thats better than nothing.
2007-12-22 10:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by ☆★starquality5050★☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To my boyfriend laying in bed with me, near me, makes him happy. Relaxing and being close is more important to him than sex. Maybe this is all he wants? My boyfriend always wanted to be in bed with me but we didn't have sex until a year and a half after we were dating. Give it a try. If he goes for your pants Tell him NO.. If he doesn't listen.. Knee him in the crotch.. It will definitely get your point across!
2007-12-22 10:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you fell your not ready for sex then dont do it..If you trust your boyfriend enough to wear you can lie down with him and think he wont try anything then i think he would be the right guy for you but if hes one of those guys who just wants your body then leave him..Dont let him take advantage of you..You'll make the right decision!
2007-12-22 10:30:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That he is getting ready to ask you for sex. As a general rule, men try to avoid situations where they will get tempted if they are serious about respecting an abstinence vow. Maybe you need to start hanging out with your boyfriend some place else.
2007-12-22 10:29:05 · answer #7 · answered by e_d_ellis2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust him. lie down with him and if he tries something give him a kick to know that you arent okay with it. i doubt he'll try anything again until your ready. that is assuming you would still stay with him if he did try something. then again not all guys will try something. he might just want you to lie down with him.
2007-12-22 10:30:35 · answer #8 · answered by Cass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lie down with him.
if he tries to take off ur pants then u kno he's not the right guy who is willing to wait for u.
2007-12-22 10:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by JustDance 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, surely not! What's the world coming to when men want women!
I despair really, when's this stuff ever going to end?
Just to let you know, women want men also. Even more than us in my experience, just not as often!
When you grow up to be a big girl you will know this...
2007-12-22 10:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋