What would you do if you found out your 14yr old daughter was smoking?

Answer 1

tell her to stop--as its not allowed in the pubs & Discos now`?

Answer 2

i agree on taking her to the hospital with the lung cancer , etc patients. But i would take it one step further, call the hospital, ask them if you can do this and if any of the people are willing to actually talk to the child directly. Usually hospitals have these kind of meetings or courses (whatever you want to call them)

But i would not just take her to one of them, i would take her to everyone single one they hosted for the next 6 + months. That would be her new extracurricular, or i would somehow arrange for her to volunteer there so she is there 1st hand to see every single little thing that happens.

The reason i suggest taking her more than once, is because at 14, you know everything there is to know of course, and there is no way mommy and daddy and some hospital can possibliy know what is better for the all knowing 14 year old. It will take a good long time to get it through her had what smoking can do.

I personally have smoked a cigratte here and there, i doubt i have even smoked a pack in the past 10 years. i am 23, and i think i tried at 13. My point is that kids will try, but you have to nip in the butt asap. I tried, but i also read a lot and researched encyclopedias and i knew it wasnt for me to ever smoke, i dont know if that detered me from wanting one more or if it was just genetic. My mom always said she smoked a few when she was young but it never stuck and she never super lectured me, she would just ask if i smoke and so on. I guess what i am saying, is that social smoking in my book is ok, but social means like literally 1-2 a year for me. And at 14 i dont think a lot of kids can really make the decision to have a social one. When your like in your 20's and everyone is drinking and having a smoke and you join in after work once ina blue moon, you have enough brains to not make it a habit. at 14 you just think your sooo freaking cool now.

Answer 3

I found out that my daughter was smoking at the same age as yours, my god what a shock that was, especially as she used to tell me off for smoking in the house, but sadly all you can do is obviously make her aware of the dangers, and monitor her,( what I mean by that is let her know you know and maybe tell her it's against the law and definitely keep an eye on her bedroom, fires start when kids are smoking in their bedrooms, kids will throw a ciggy anywhere rather than being caught ) my daughter is 23 now and only smokes occasionally. If they want to do it there is nothing you can do, they will do it anyway. That's teenagers I'm afraid. Good luck to you. I hope this is helpful, Good luck mate.

Answer 4

I know you want an answer from parents and I am not one but I feel I should give an answer.
I am 15 and I am a daughter.
I don't smoke the reason for this is I have seen 1st hand what smoking can to do a person the sight will stay with me for ever.

I have seen my friends parents try every thing to get them to stop smoking from stopping there pocket money to grounding them to just giving up.

Talks to your daughter tell her what she is doing to help self show her pictures. She may not pay any attention to what you say but if she does then good for her and for you.
There is no one miracle way to make shore your daughter doesn’t smoke but you can try.


I don't know if that helped at all but I felt like I should say something

Answer 5

I was a smoker at 14 and there was nothing anyone could of told me at the time to make me quit. It wasn't until I found out that I was pregnant with my first child that I gave up the disgusting habit. I was just told by my parents to stop and that it wasn't allowed had I maybe been shown the dangers ( cancer, lung disease, pictures etc.) maybe I would of thought a little harder. I had to hide it for 7 years and what made it really hard was that my parents gave me little 'alone' time and made me afraid to get caught doing it or even smelling like it. When I did get in trouble they would make me go everywhere with me and when I was old enough to drive they would take away my car. They would be at the front door waiting to smell me as I made my way in and went through my room and car while I was sleeping. While this may sound like 'physco parenting' I'm so glad they did! They saved my lungs from many more cigs that I could of had. It showed me the love of parent can have do anything possible to 'save' their child. And now feels so good to be smoke free for over 3 years! Good luck I'm sure you are going to be told all the things I told my parents about how much I hated them at that time. It doesn't last long.

Answer 6

I had this with my daughter I suspected she was also she was telling me she had tried it but when she was telling me everyday for a week because she felt confident as I never reacted that's when I had to tell her No! that's not trying it, it's smoking and since then I don't think she is plus she was with a girl who was a little older than her who was smoking, I think she was her influence but all you can do is tell them the facts I told her that she was well informed on the effects and I couldn't make all her choices in life some were her own but pocket money would stop as I would not make it easy for her to buy them. She's not with this girl anymore and I've not felt suspicious since plus like you I put a question on here which helped lol

Answer 7

(1) Sit her down and make her smoke/eat a whole packet at once.

(2) Stop giving her so much money as she can afford them.

(3) Arrange for her to visit a cancer ward.

(4) Stop all her privileges and keep her under 24/7 surveillance to make her feel stupid

(5) Reverse the roles and ask her what she would be doing if she was the parent.

Answer 8

When I was a kid (I'm 31 now....so a while ago) if you got caught smoking your parents sat you down and made you smoke something really gross....like a cigar or enough camel non-filters to make you throw up. Today they call that child abuse. My kids see the effects of smoking (my mother has COPD, my father has emphysema, my step mother has lung cancer). To up the anty, it has been made very clear that they lose their allowance and are grounded indefinitely if they are ever caught smoking. It's illegal in my state for kids under 18 to possess tobacco....my kids also know that I would have no problem calling the police.

Answer 9

I started smoking when I was 13 thought it was cool cos all the cool ppl at school did it. Later found out all those 'cool ppl ' amounted to nothing. I'm 27 now I've tried and tried to stop. Never lasting more that 3 weeks. Its so expensive. I started smoking 10 over the weekend (sat and sun nights) when I was out with my friends and now smoke 20 a day. I spend over 150 a month on cigs and wish to god I had the willpower to stop. I wish to god id never started. I honestly think though that theres nothing you can do. Nothing my mum said would have stopped me at that age. But having a daughter now whos nine and has asked me about smoking I have said to her that if she starts smoking she will never be able to afford nice clothes, girlie holidays to ibiza when shes older cos all her money wil go on cigs. Dont point out the health things, that wil not bother her at that age. Point out the things that will bother her - clothes, holidays, nights out that she will not be able to afford if she does not give up. Write it down - potential wages from a saturday job and how much of that will go to tobacco. Tell her you will not fund her nights out and she will never see a nightclub if she continues to smoke, nightclubs are not to far away in the future for her but if she continues to smoke they wont be a regular thing cos she cant afford to go out. Thats the only thing that might have stopped me and I wish someone had said it to me before I became totally hooked. Work out the money she spends on them and tell her how long it would take to save that for a girlie hol abroad when shes older. Flat sharing - she'll never have the money to buy a flat never mind share if she continues to smoke, mention it casually - don't interogate her. Invent a friends daughter whos flat sharing and mention bills and how much it would cost them to live there. Let her work it out for herself. Believe me the only way to stop them is to entice them with something better. Health issues, cancer? At that age they have the 'it wont happen to me' attitude. You need to find out the things that they want and show them how they cant get them if they continue to smoke.

Answer 10

Id ground her and make sure she can never get cigeretes till shes old enough to be concious of what she does ( around 18 or older). You could also show her a picture of the effects of smoking.

Answer 11

Take them over my knee and spank her till her butt is bright red and I'd do that for a week. As well as tell her that she is only to go to school, do her extracarricular activities such as sports, art, and music, but anything else she won't be able to do for about 2 weeks. I would have to reeducate her on smoking again because from the time she's able to understand what smoking it she'll definitely know about the dangers of smoking.