What are some instances in which a woman is not to blame for her being raped?

Question

I know it says in the Bible in she is raped in the country it isn't her fault! Just because more people live in the city nowadays, I think it is unfair to always blame the woman too. In the rural areas there isn't always enough men around to hear her if she cries for help. I don't like it when women are always blamed. Sorry for venting but it makes me frustrated.

Answer 1

It says she should scream.

If she doesn't scream in the city (where people can hear her and help) then it means she consented to the act.

A rape in the country means they are isolated. No one to help anyway.

But in neither case is she to blame for the rape.

Answer 2

It is never a woman's fault. The Bible says that if a woman does not scream for help in a city, then she has some of the blame.
But, I want to tell you something first.
When I was 14 years old, I babysat for neighborhood people in a city. I was a virgin and my parents were awkward in telling me about sex, so I didn't really know much about it, other than somehow it caused babies.
I went to a new client's house, and my family knew this person and said it was okay.
As I entered the house, I noticed the children were not there.
The father had taken a butcher knife from the kitchen and told me to take my clothes off, not to scream- or he would hurt me. I was terrified and I did as I was told. He then proceeded to rape me. In that situation, it is sheer terror. No one could ever blame a woman who didn't scream. It's like your whole body freezes with fear.
If this question is in relation to your personal self and a rape, I urge you to tell someone NOW. You did nothing wrong. Society is geared to sexualize women, and many people still believe a woman can "ask for it." But nothing could be further from the truth. Rape is a criminal act, not a sexual reaction.

Answer 3

There is NEVER an instance when a woman is at fault for being raped!!!!

Some very ignorant people here will tell you that you can do things to make a man want to rape you. This isn't true. Rape is not about love, sex, or being a tease. It's a about wanting power over a woman. Nothing more, nothing less.

Answer 4

The verses you are referring to were written in a time when people did not have guns they could point at your head and tell you to be quiet, or date rape drugs that would render you senseless. There also wasn't the noise and machinery so in a city a cry for help would be very likely to be heard, while in the country there would be a good chance that no one heard. The point behind them is that the woman should be resisting, an unwilling participant. If she willingly concedes, it isn't really rape. So there really are NO instances where RAPE is the woman's fault.

Answer 5

The Bible does not shy from recounting some cases of rape and attempted rape that occurred in the past. (Genesis 19:4-11; 34:1-7; 2 Samuel 13:1-14) But it also offers counsel on what one should do when threatened with rape. What the Law says on the matter is found at Deuteronomy 22:23-27. This covers two situations. In the first case, a man found a young woman in a city and lay down with her. Even so, the woman did not scream or cry for help. Consequently, it was determined that she was guilty “for the reason that she did not scream in the city.” If she had cried out, people nearby might have been able to come to her rescue. In the second instance, a man found a young woman in the countryside, where he “grabbed hold of her and lay down with her.” In defense, the woman “screamed, but there was no one to rescue her.” Unlike the woman in the first instance, this woman clearly did not give in to the actions of the attacker. She actively resisted him, crying for help, but she was overpowered. Her screaming proved that she was an unwilling victim; she was not guilty of wrongdoing.
Even in the sad case where a woman is overpowered and raped, her struggle and screaming for help is not in vain. On the contrary, it establishes that she did all she possibly could to resist her attacker. (Deuteronomy 22:26) Despite going through this ordeal, she can still have an undefiled conscience, self-respect, and the assurance that she is clean in God’s eyes. The horrifying experience might leave her with emotional wounds, but knowing that she did all she could to resist the attack will greatly contribute to her gradual healing
In understanding the application of Deuteronomy 22:23-27, we must realize that this brief account does not cover all possible situations. For example, it does not comment on the situation where the attacked woman cannot scream because she is mute, unconscious, or paralyzed with fear or is forcibly prevented from screaming by a hand or tape over her mouth. However, since God is able to weigh all factors, including motives, he deals with understanding and justice in such cases, for “all his ways are justice.” (Deuteronomy 32:4) He is aware of what actually took place and of the efforts the victim put forth to fight off her attacker. Therefore, a victim who was unable to scream but otherwise did all she could under the circumstances can leave matters in God’s hands.—Psalm 55:22; 1 Peter 5:7.

Answer 6

Little Angel, The verses you are referring to are in the Old Testament. Those were the laws concerning rape and the like back in those days. Today we have court systems to deal with such offenders. If a man forces himself on you when you have done nothing to cause him to do so, that is rape. However if you give a man every opportunity by flaunting yourself before him and doing things which cause him to feel aroused, then you are partially to blame by acting that way. The Bible says to keep ourselves pure. Do not give a man any reason to want to rape you and it most likely will not happen. If you are a victim of a crime of rape, that is not your fault.

Answer 7

If your quote is correct, this is such a good example of the Bible being interpret ted in so many ways, by so many people.

Needless to say, as many have answered you, it is never the woman's fault if she is raped. I presume that the quote from the bible means something completely opposite to what it implies. At least, if we go by how others interpret other parts of the bible, which boggles the mind.

Or, it could mean exactly what it states, since in some parts of the world, even today, some people believe that it is the woman's fault, and stone her, etc. etc. and not touch the man.

I do not choose to belong to any religion, for many reasons, one of them being that the actual teachings of Jesus, for instance, is usually ignored, i.e. don't judge, love they neighbor etc.

As for the bible. To each his own.

Answer 8

A woman is never to blame for being raped.

During the time that the Old Testament was written, society needed a way to differentiate between when a woman had consensual relations outside of marriage and rape -- because women were punished in that time for adultery. Basically, if a woman called out for help, it was rape. If she didn't, it was consensual. But this didn't apply to women who were "in the country", because their cries for help wouldn't have been heard.

It was a very flawed system. But remember that this was man's way of trying to keep their society pure, and God doesn't view rape as a woman's fault in any circumstance.

Answer 9

A woman can decide if she wants sex, if the sex is against her will , if she says no, then the sex is rape. It is that simple,
However, the problem is what I call "he said, she said " unless there is a third party that saw the rape, or a video, or she was half killed, then it is her word against his word, he will say that it was consensual sex. Or he may try to blame her in some way for the rape, the clothes she wore, her make-up,what she said etc.

Answer 10

There exist no instance where the woman is at fault for the crime committed against her...

Not in the bible nor now...

Never is a victim to be blamed for the actions of another...

Journey Well...

Answer 11

"However if you give a man every opportunity by flaunting yourself before him and doing things which cause him to feel aroused, then you are partially to blame by acting that way."

WTF!! I can't believe that came from a woman. There is NEVER an excuse for a man to commit rape. NEVER!! Any man who says he can't control his actions because he was aroused is lying. And anyone, man or woman, who tries to excuse the actions of a rapist needs serious help. There is no worse crime that can be commited one person to another.