I am dating an older man that was just divorced I am in love with him and he loves me also. He is 36 and I am 21. He has a 4 year old son that I adore. I am just seeking some opinion on whether or not we should move in together we have been talking for 9 months but he just got divorced officially last week. We have so much in common and get along better than me and my friends do. I really want to move in with him what do you think?
2007-12-22 08:34:40 · 7 answers · asked by JD 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 21 but I work 2 jobs and I really got all my partying out when I was younger I live in Key West and the scene gets old fast..
2007-12-22 09:12:40 · update #1
Sounds like you got a great thing going with this guy, and as far as the age difference? If you are happy together, and the compatibility matrix is high(you have at least15 things in common), theres no reason you cant move in. Others might be looking at your relationship strangely, and even call him a cradle robber for being with you, but its YOUR happiness together that matters, not all the other ******* who are usually just jealous of other peoples happiness, cuz they don't have any of their own.
2007-12-22 08:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"just divorced" indicates he may be rebounding..."talking for 9 months" isn't the same as dating, and implies you really don't know him well at all.
With a 15 yr age gap, I've give him a number of months to work through his divorce emotionally and get used to being a single dad. You both need to make sure he's 100% over his ex, you both understand and are aware of the differences between you due to the age gap, and that he's not just seeking someone to be a mother to the child.
Take it slow...if you two still feel you are a good match down the road, then think about something more serious. You shouldn't even have met his son yet...your post implies he was cheating while married, unless they were living apart when you and he started "talking".
2007-12-22 16:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO.
Don't move in with him. Give it some more time. At least a year after his divorce is final. He may just be looking for a "mom" for his son. You need to establish more of a relationship.
Why don't you try just spending more time with him first and see how that goes? Spend the weekends there, spend a couple nights a week there.. do this for at LEAST 6 months and then think about moving in. If you move in and it doesn't work out, you've got to move all your stuff out, find a new place, and it will be a big hassle. Make sure its right first.
2007-12-22 16:39:03 · answer #3 · answered by MK123 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
he needs time to get over his divorce! you should be having fun now. Il be 21 in 3 months and i cant wait to party it up. I wouldnt want to be in a serious relationship helping to raise a 4 yr old. Screw that youre 21 only once!
2007-12-22 16:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its true love go for it, nothing else could stand in the way and you sound very smitten :)
all the best for the future
2007-12-22 16:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
JD, Get married then move in ! Just go to the courthouse !
2007-12-22 16:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah move in togther, just when you have sex close the door lol
2007-12-22 16:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋