I was really in love, then the guy ended it. I was heart broken. Now i'm too scared to let anyone get close, incase i get hurt again. I really think im missing out on love, but im sooo scared ill just get my heart broken again. Am i being stupid, or is this normal...and what should i do to over come this??
2007-12-22 08:09:12 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not stupid, and this is very normal. Time will eventually heal your wounds, trust me. Just go on with your life and learn to be happy with yourself, when you are truly happy with yourself, and have a deep inner happiness, you will attract someone who is worthy of your love again. Eventually you will love again, just believe that... and sooner or later it will happen. You must let yourself go through the grieving process, it may take weeks or even months, but don't lose hope, you will love again someday when the timing is right.
2007-12-22 08:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by mixemup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is normal, though I have never personally been through this. I feel your pain. You didn't say how long it has been since he broke up with you. If you feel that you have grieved for a long enough time (make sure you have grieved and didn't just compartmentalize). Try to go out on a couple casual dates this might boost your confidence. Then once you have completed this stage of the grieving process, wait for Mr. Right and keep your guard up at 1st, but then let it down and remember that not all guys are like your ex and won't all hurt you like that. Good luck!
2007-12-22 16:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, I'm sorry that happened to you. And you aren't being stupid. I was in 3 year relationship... and when he broke up with me I too was scared to get close to anyone. Its normal...you can let love find you and when you find someone take your time... its always so hard to get close to someone b/c you trust them not to hurt you and sometimes you do. Love is all about taking chances and sadly getting hurt,... but if you dont go through that experience you don't get stronger, wiser, and you might not find the person you are meant to be with. =) dont worrie, life is a b i tch... but ya know with the bad comes good. =) good luck
2007-12-22 16:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Ämelia ☮ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to feel like that. It's your own way of warning yourself not to get close to anyone because of what happened. It is normal, but you need to get out of this habit. You might miss out on someone really special if you don't. Forget about that one guy, and find a new one. Not all guys are the same. You never know, you might find someone who likes you. Good luck :)
2007-12-22 16:14:14 · answer #4 · answered by trivkc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is totally normal. I went through it myself only I wasn't in a relationship but we loved each other a lot. Be single for a while just to settle and then when you're ready, think about going on a date.
2007-12-22 16:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Ne5sA_StilettO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Katie J, It is natural my lady is going through the same thing. Well time heals all wounds but don"t turn your back on a guy who has been through his own fire but has come out and is ready to love you with all his heart ! He may be the guy meant for you to be with eternaly !
2007-12-22 16:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry, its normal to feel like that,
all the emotional heartbreak of course you dont want to risk going through it again, but it just takes time to build up that trust with someone, you cant stay single forever (unlesss you really want too) and its prob going to happen again time after time.
Just give it time. im exactly the same.
2007-12-22 16:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me, and i found love again and now we are very happy together and have a beautiful daughter together, i thought id never find love again and didnt want to get hurt, me and my guy now have been together for over 3 years now
2007-12-22 16:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
jas accept that ur not meant for each other.GOD giving u the better one so dont afraid to love again...the medicine to a broken heart is newlove ...dont worry bein hurt its part of falling inlove...and ur not the only one who is broken heart me also and many others too.but they let their self to fall again cos its great feelings....gudluck...
2007-12-22 16:21:51 · answer #9 · answered by honeycreeper07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember: YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE.
You could be missing out on so many wonderful opportunities.
The risk of heartbreak could prove completely worth it.
What is there to stop you but yourself?
2007-12-22 16:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋