what should i do? he said tonight he prefers his ex to me. this girl he met next door to where we live,she was my m8's best friend he finished with me then a week lata was sleeping wth girl from next door. itlasted a month then he got back wit me we've been together since 2002,only tonight he has made so many excuses to not take me out with him,he has gone out and before he went we rowed and he says his ex karla is better than me. it hurts so much not sure wat to do or say as its christmas and dont want my daughter to see daddy leave jus before xmas. i love him.... he obviously could'nt give a **** about me,its xmas weekend he'd rather be out with other people than spend it with me and his daughter. cant handle all this before xmas what shall i do can anyone help? thanks xnikkix
2007-12-22 07:53:18 · 29 answers · asked by nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell the slimey bugger to sling his bloody hook
2007-12-22 08:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't sound like he is good for you, there is no reason for him to say something like that, but at least it is out there. it's hard at this time of year especially when you have a daughter. do what you need for her over this time, but you know that he is only going to make you feel bad, you will always wonder, and then there is the whole trust thing. he has said some things that were meant to crush you self esteem, and that was just nasty. maybe just keep it cold with him over xmas, but know that once that time is passed he needs to move on, your daughter will understand one day. you can't do the best for her if you don't do the best for you. he obviously doesnt' want to be there other than it is convenient.
2007-12-22 16:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by ari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what i would like to do if i was you and that's chop his manhood off and her head with it (she wouldn't look so pretty then would she) but on a realistic note you cant do that. he obviously don't care but he may of only said that to hurt you if she was better than you then why is he with you. when you got back together you both should have decided to put her behind you and move on ,a bit hard when the tart only lives next door i know, but if you both care about each other you can work it out , you,ve had a knock to your confidence don't let that bother you . just try talking to him , and when you start to argue walk away til your both calm then try again ,if he doesn't want to know then its his loss not yours just enjoy Christmas with your daughter.
2007-12-22 16:08:27 · answer #3 · answered by silent assasin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd dump his sorry a*ss.
If he doesn't love you, then you should'nt love him.
He might regret it later, but if he choses other people over you, face it, you're wasting your breath and time with him.
Find a man that truly loves you and respects you.
Don't go for second best.
Go for the best.
Screw men like him. They break hearts, and throw love away like it's a peice of sh*it.
And when they're screwed over all alone, on christmas weekend, let them see how it feels to be in your postion.
Don't let him do this to you.
=/ I personally don't go for people that treat me like fhkin sh*it....and make christmas plans with some of your friends or something. Or with your or his daughter?....do something rather than moping about how you wish he'd chosen you.
=) Merry Christmas.
And hope it helped.
2007-12-22 16:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by likeingtheworld 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him!
He sounds like an a rsehole.
He doesn't give a s hit about you or your daughter.
Don't let him walk all over you.
Look after yourself and your daughter and enjoy Christmas for him. Because if he stays most likely you two will be arguing.
And it will hurt your daughter to see her mum and dad arguing trust me, i had it when i was little.
Good luck!
2007-12-22 16:06:46 · answer #5 · answered by g.horrorpops 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly gave a damn, he would be there for you and your child. Especially during Christmas. Sounds to me like he doesn't love you. Why should you waste your time with someone who tears you down instead of building you up? True love constructs, not destructs. He is an asshole and is not good for your child any way. If he love you and her he would talk and act like it.
Screw him, you and YOUR family deserve so much better than that, do not settle for this jerk.
2007-12-22 16:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you want to try keep him at home, do that:
Do a Brazilian wax.
Masturbate in front of him, use something to put inside you, front and back, let him see it. After, give him a very best oral sex, and then give him a very hot anal sex. When he's coming on, take his penis and put in your mouth, take his milk and let him to see it, Finishing masturbate yourself and have a very noise orgasm.
Or let he goes away having sex with someone that could pretend to be a perfect woman (a nasty prostitute)
I hope it can help you.
2007-12-23 01:10:53 · answer #7 · answered by rolmertelis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is difficult. and I'm not gonna nag on you about having a kid before marriage, just because you are going through this. but talk to him. tell him if he doesn't like you, and wants his ex back, then you will take your daughter and leave. tell him if he doesn't care about u, he doesn't get to care about his daughter either. its tough. so talk to him and if he's not reasonable, then I'm very sorry. i don't know if this is what you wanted to hear, but he seems to not appreciate you. im very sorry, and I know it will be tough during Christmas. but all i can say is pray, and i dont know if you are religious or not.
2007-12-22 16:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by ChristianRider14 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh what a horrible thing to say, that is so hurtful and nasty.
You deserve to be happy not be hurting. There are loads of great guys out there who would treat you amazing and make you so happy, if he treats you bad tell him you want him to leave and get out of your life.
2007-12-22 17:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Carlton J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing,what a terrible and cruel thing to say to you. You do not deserve this treatment,tell him exactly how you feel and tell him how much it hurts you when he compares you to his ex.I know you have a baby together but you can't live your life being compared to another woman,it would destroy you honey.
2007-12-22 16:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by sam d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his sorry a**e out!!!!!! im sure you and your daughter would have a better xmas without him, you wouldnt have the strain of him and his bloody attitude!!!! kids are great they bounce back, been there myself, its hard but get your back bone and get him to sling his hook before it starts affecting your daughter x
2007-12-22 16:24:34 · answer #11 · answered by xcutsiex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋