my friend is turning 19 and is in college, she has known her fiance 4 a while and have been dating a year. they pay their own bills, and have been through alot together, her dad going through rehab, her parents divorcing, her dad getting really sick and almost dying, both losing and getting another job, his parents arguing, her mom threating to break them up so she will marry a dr. and have alot of money. they are both in school and are waiting til that is over to get married, i belive that they will work out, well i know i just wanted others opinions, they argue but not like fight, the compromise and just kind let things go with the flow, ive never seen any "teen" couple act like that
2007-12-22 06:55:02 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if they feel that they care about one anther so there parents should stay out there relaionship.
2007-12-22 07:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is 19, she is an adult. If she is living away from her parents, she is an adult. Her mother can't do anything about it right now because the 19 year old is an adult.
Her mother is living in a fantasy world, and trying to bully and manipulate her.
Just make sure your friend is using good birth control right now, so she can get through school and build a real career she can support a family with.
If she can fully support herself, and if she is still together with her guy, they really should get married and THEN start with the kids. Believe me, there is a world of difference between ages 19 and 24. She doesn't want to put the cart before the horse.
She needs to plan things carefully right now to avoid winding up living with either set of parents.
2007-12-22 07:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, They sound like a great match for one another. Be supportive of their relationship. they care for each other quite a bit.
Tell them to stick through all the heartache they are going through. Their relationship is going to be tested and thats good. you can never know how much you love someone until that relationship is at its fringes.
They need to stick together and arguing can be a good thing. They compromise, which means they know eachother really well which means they are good friends. They will get married one day. tell them not to rush into even though people are trying to pull them apart. It is important they take their time.
They are vary mature you are correct in that. That is why I know they can get through whatever is thrown at them.
Just be supportive and be a shoulder for them as her dad passes away and as the divorces worries them. Just listen and answer thier questions when they have them. Its going to be a tough time, listen and support them. This will be tough on you because you care for them both and are good friends, find someone to confide in and talk with your friend who is in your question about things that are bothering you. Be kind, caring and gentle. Above all show them that you love them.
God's Blessings in Christ.
2007-12-22 07:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by rallyrw1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart, i think that even teen couples will expirience early growing pains in a relationship, especially being so young. Because they argue does not mean they dont love one another, especially dealing with all they have had to deal with. And its not like there in there early teens, they will soon be out of there teens, and they are expieriencing what is true, that arguments occur even in the closest relationships. Sometimes, making up afterwards can make the relationship healthy and even stronger. So dont be discouraged, its only a part of finding themselves and finding real love from the heart, if its meant to be nothing will stop there love from growing!
2007-12-22 07:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well as for the mother who wants her daughter to marry a doc for better money.. her daughter wont be happy if she isnt in love...... although some woman throew their loves for richer guys... & YES if they want each othr they should stuck with each other no matter what ..after all they have been through alot!!!
2007-12-22 07:00:00 · answer #5 · answered by kilckas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes people have got to let their kids grow up and make mistakes or lives by themselves... its hard, but their parents have got to realise its theire lives, even if it is just looking out for them
2007-12-22 06:59:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that it will work out because there taking it slow and not fast like others.
2007-12-22 06:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wondering why you are worried about them>
2007-12-22 06:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Erin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they sound like a couple who can go alone pretty well
2007-12-22 06:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋