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Hey there help i have a choice here and have no idea wot to choose,my choice is either i pick my baby boy when he is born or i give him up to be fostered and pick the love of my life instead, dont ask why i have these choices but i need help i love both and would hate to lose either, but its 1 or the other.

Answer 1

YOUR CHILD......you will regret it forever if you don't! Not sure why you have to make the choice, but if your love really loves you then it will be OK...... believe me ..... been there done that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Thats a tough question. May I ask how old you are? You also have to consider the person you are with, if they are willing to make you make such a tough decision are they really worth such a sacrifice? If a person loves you enough they will not make you chose between them and your blood. You should also consider the fostering system within america, are you willing to put your child through an oftentimes tough and abusive system just so you can have the "love of your life?" No one can really answer these questions for you but a few questions may point you in the right direction: Are you financially able to support a child? Are you planning on marrying this person? Is this person 100% commited to you? Is this person at all considerate of your feelings? Do you want a child right now? Remember every choice has its consequence, and you may regret your choice later in life.

Answer 3

Well if it is "the love of your life" why would you hve to give up the baby? This person cant be the love of your life if she doesnt want part of you ! You better re-consider "the love ofyour life might might not feel the same about you! A child is innocent and needs a father and love. Somebody is being selfish but I dont know because there is not enough info to know...............Dont take the easy way out---if somebody is makeing you make that kind of choice they have to be somewhat selfish. What happens is down the road and the love of your life is divorce court and you will have lost something than can never leave the flesh of your flesh-a child. Be careful and dont choose love the love over somebody that needs the love. sp

Answer 4

You need to keep your baby. If he was the love of your life as you say he would love the child too. So maybe he isn't the love of your life after all then. Foster homes can be cruel. And you would regret it later in life, and what would you do if in 18 years the boy comes back and wants to know why you gave him up? Personally i think you should tell the love of your life that its either you and the baby or no one at all. Good luck!!!

Answer 5

Pick your child. If the guy says it's him or the kid, he's a jerk anyway and won't last for the long term. Then you'll be wishing you had chosen your child, because you can never get those years back. Your baby is always #1! Put your baby first! But if you honestly think your baby will be better off in a foster or adoptive home than do that for the baby, not for yourself.

Answer 6

The baby, darling. If this love of your life has put you in a position to have to make this choice, then he is not your life love. That baby is going to love you unconditionally and you will forever have a hole in your soul if you part with him. He needs his mommy. Do you want this little man to grow up wondering why his mommy didn't love him enough to keep him? Do you want him to feel like he wasn't good enough for you, that this man who makes you make tough choices was more important to you than he? I can tell you honey that you do not know the power of love you can have for this child until you have him. And you will wonder how you ever lived without it.

Answer 7

Wow, I feel for ya. Noone's going to be able to give you good enough advice for this since its probably going to be one of the biggest decisions in your life. Here are some things you might want to consider before you make your decision. Are you going to spend the rest of your life with your love? How long have you been seeing her? If you know without a doubt in your mind that she's the one for you and you want to spend your life with her then choose her. If you have even the slightest doubt then choose your son. Also, I don't know the whole situation but if she loved you as much as you loved her she wouldnt make you choose between her and your own child. Personally, I would choose my boy because if my love truly loved me she wouldnt make me abandon my child. Good luck to you, I hope this helps in some way.

Answer 8

The only one you really love is your baby. No-one should have to make a choice between a baby and I take it his father. And what sort of man whether or not he is the father would not want to have you and the greatest gift of your life in his life - together.
Please. Relationships break down but the love of a child and his welfare should be absolute. You will have your child forever in your mind whether he is with you or not. Keep him!

Answer 9

I would take my baby over anything else any time. Your baby is yours it's your flesh and blood. Think of the unconditional love you will get from them. Plus if the guys making you choose something like that he's not worth your time.

Answer 10

Your son needs you, you can't abandon him, otherwise you are a horible person! Foster homes aren't always safe! Take the son you'll be happy, getting to watch him grow up. Your love of your life isn't worth it if she says you can't keep the kid, you'd both have to be heartless and selfless!

Answer 11

I was taught that if you lay down to concieve it, you lay down to have it and take care of it. You can't be selfish, that baby didn't choose this, you did. You have plenty of sacrifices to make but you put yourself in this position and it's unfair to your son to give him up. It's time to be a women and accept your responsibilities. I'm so sorry if this sounds harsh because I don't know your situation, but this is just my opinion. Good luck!!