My Fiance and I have been together almost two years. We have been staying at his grandmothers house until about a week ago she no longer wanted us there unless we were going to pay more. So a female friend of his that i have never met came home from school for good. (They suppose to have been friends for the last 7 years she dated his two best friends but her and my fiance are suppose to have a brother sister relationship) And well right now we cant afford a place together but clearly they can and so they went and got an apartment together the other day. He told my afterwards. He wants me and our son to come live there. I don't feel comfortable at all i think that this girls looks at him as more than a brother. He went through the whole i'm the only one for him we're suppose to be getting married blah blah blah, when the lease is up IN A YEAR I told her that me you and the baby will be getting our own place because we should have our money saved and all that i only love you stuff.
2007-12-22 06:34:14 · 6 answers · asked by reses 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But i dont feel right about it. I think i am ready to walk away from the love of my life. I mean am i really suppose to deal with him living with another girl even though he asked me to move in too? Should I leave or stay? Am I over reacting? I just dont want to be made a fool of.
2007-12-22 06:35:42 · update #1
The fact that he made such an important life decision without you and with this other woman proves that you're not as important in his life as you think. If you were supposed to be such an important part of the decision and an important part of his life then you would have been there when the lease was being signed. But who was there? Your fiance and that woman.
You should ask your grandmother if you could continue staying there until you could afford a place for you and your son, or maybe another relative or friends. That's like a slap in the face. I couldn't live in a house where I felt of less worth than I really am to the person who claims they love me. If he's making important decisions like that without you, he's going to continue to undermine you, then might just leave you for the other woman all together. Get out while you can.
Good luck.
2007-12-22 06:49:33 · answer #1 · answered by Vanity Affaire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Justifying it by potential of asserting 'he replaced into inebriated' is in no way a solid start up. You wouldnt enable a murderer off because of the fact he'd had some, its an analogous crucial, his strikes have been nevertheless unjust. you need to evaluate those issues; are you waiting to place this in the back of you, and in no way deliver it up for the duration of arguments or disagreements, in no way carry it against him or use it as a potential of punishment and could you in no way doubt or question notwithstanding if his version of in certainty the somewhat fact. And could you oftentimes be questioning 'is he going to do it back, or will you be on his case every time he is going out for a drink? i think of you need to look for couples counselling to locate a) why he somewhat did what he did, b) are you able to somewhat forgive and ignore. Seeing as this behaviour is out of character, i think of which you a minimum of should artwork by this and stay engaged on the expertise which you're the two straight forward at couples counselling and you draw up some written obstacles of what's and isnt perfect. Theres no denying that's going to be perplexing artwork, and you the two ought to artwork by this, he can not purchase vegetation and take you out for dinner and pretend thats sufficient to make each and every thing ok, and the two you cant throw it back in his face everytime he or you is going out, asserting issues like 'nicely a minimum of i don't shack up with human beings as quickly as I've had a drink' in the warmth of the 2d somewhat won't help.
2016-10-02 06:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by glassburn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's asking you to move in as well, there's nothing for him to hide. Men and women can live together without anything going on. If you're really threatened by it, tell him. I don't see why you're so upset, though.
2007-12-22 06:42:25 · answer #3 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GIRL HE HAS ISSUES..FIRST OF ALL HE MESSED UP WHEN HE DID NOT ASK FOR YOUR OPINION. HE BETTER BE LUCKY IT WAS YOU NOT YOU. IF IT WAS ME I WOULD'VE SMACKED HIM FOR JUST ASKING ME TO MOVE IN. FIRST OF ALL WHY HAS HE NOT INTRODUCE YOU TO HER IN THE TWO YEARS THAT YA BEEN TOGETHER. SOUNDS LIKE YOU DID NOT KNOW OF HER UNTIL SHE CAME IN THE PICTURE. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO TELL YOU. YOU HAVE A CHILD TO THINK OF SO IF YOU LOVE HIM JUST GIVE TELL HIM EITHER HER OR YOU AND THE BABY IF HE CAN'T DEAL WITH THAT THAN MOVE ON BECAUSE YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO BE COMPETING WITH SOMEONE THAT YOU DON'T EVEN NOW. YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR THAT. THINK OF YOUR CHILD. IF HE DON'T LEAVE AND GET YA AN APARTMENT LIKE A MAN SHOULD THAN DROP THAT ZERO AND GET URSELF A HERO. YOU DESERVE BETTER.
2007-12-22 06:45:45 · answer #4 · answered by vivi010571 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
uh let's see. you are engaged. he is living with another woman, AND wants your son to move in with them? and they are like brother and sister?? nay nay, i say. they are more than brother and sister, unless of course you live in the ozarks where they might be. break up sweetie, keep your son with you. he is clearly with someone else now.
2007-12-22 06:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
live with them and figure out the reactions. keep cool. and watch.
2007-12-22 06:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by dannyhawara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋