Just wondering...... I feel more comfortable when the guy pays, of course I can pay for it myself,I guess I just think its polite, what do you think?
2007-12-22 06:06:47 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
absolutely. we should always pay. at least i do. :)
2007-12-22 06:08:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Nothing to do with duty.??
I pay because it gives me pleasure to provide pleasure. I do not think I am owed anything...or that in paying I have any control over the relationship. If I am not cooking the food myself...the next best thing is paying for it!
My girlfriend insisted on taking me to the Cheesecake Factory in Chicago a couple of years ago. It was a brilliant night and she insisted on paying. I felt no embarrassment and remain grateful for that evening.
Paying the bill is always going to suit the male more than the female, but just be sure that those men who seek to control don't use it to abuse!
I repeat...I pay because it gives me pleasure to see my love happy and looked after....no other reason!
2007-12-22 06:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an old-fashioned, sexist custom from when women didn't have money. I do pay sometimes, but I don't feel under any obligation to do so all the time. Splitting the bill works great, or one person can pay one time, the other person the next. If women really want to be equal in society, they should want to be equal in everything.
2007-12-22 06:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, when I dated I'd usually go for independent women.
I'd pay for one meal if they pay for the next one and so on. Otherwise we'd go halves if possible.
A lot of women don't like feeling beholden to a guy and also like to show that they can stand on their own two feet as an equal to a man.
To be honest if a woman wants me to pay for everything, unless she's getting a much lower income than me, then I just see that as sponging.
But a lot of women work, earn, support themselves and take pride in that fact. I find they want to meet as equal, not take advantage of someone.
2007-12-22 06:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Tim D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure. Chivalry is not dead. Cheapskates do unfortunately roam this world. Let him pay but don't let him think he's paying for anything but the tab. I'm sure you know how to handle yourself based on the question.
It's polite, shows he has interest in more than his wallet and if someone says it's old fashioned, they must dig that it was never a fashion in the first place. Expect no less and you will get the best! Cheers.
2007-12-22 06:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by freeyourmind 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i always pay and do feel it is our duty but i think its nice when the girl offers to pay half, i think that shows an interest and that your not just ignorant because the man will pay regardless and wont think your just there for the meal . if you don't like the bloke keep your mouth shut though and order lobster and moet that's what i would do
2007-12-22 06:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend insists on paying for everything. I have offered to pay for dinner once in a while, and he usually says no, because apparently it insults his masculinity. But I try to compromise and pay the tip. I don't like having him pay for everything all the time. It's nice, but I have money, too. It makes me feel less independent. And I want to show him that I appreciate it as well.
2007-12-22 06:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm old-fashioned, but I always pay. I know the hip thing is to take turns or let the woman contribute and if she insists, I'll let her, if she's afraid I'll "expect" something later. What I do is I'll pay for the first date and then tell her she can take me out next time, and then she can pay.
2007-12-22 06:10:07 · answer #8 · answered by DeFreeze 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah...its to show you are financially secure and we can afford to take you out more and its more gentlemen-like...also its a ego thing to some guys. cause if the girl pays then the guy fell "over-shadowed"
the rule acually is that the person who asked someone out showed pay but most guys ignore that rule
2007-12-22 06:11:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely refreshing when the girl offers or insistes, but I always pay. A girlfriend, on the other hand, I may let her every once in a while.
2007-12-22 06:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by Matt R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
personally, i think that each person should pay 50-50 for stuff, or pay for their own stuff. either that, or one date the guy pays, and the next a girl pays. it depends on the guy though, some insist on paying for it or splitting the bill.
2007-12-22 06:09:17 · answer #11 · answered by Ducky 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋