Well this guy that i have had an off and on relationship with for 2 months. We have told eachother that we have feeling for eachother we have made out only 2 times because we never have a chance right now because of christmas family stuff. Every time he sees me he kisses me. Then yesturday things got bad!! He sent me an email saying he missed me and wanted to see me but he was afried he would try and get into my pants again. Then he sent me an email and said he was sorry for leading me on. Then he posted a myspace bulltin telling me and three other girls that he was done with relationships. I didnt know he was doing ths with three other girls. I was so pissed me and my cousin went over to his house to yell at him but when i say him i didnt have the guts to say what i feel and we left. I sent him an harsh email saying that he likes playing with girls emotions and that i sick of crying because of guys like him and that he hurt me. He hasent wrote back yet. I feel used and hurt !!!!
2007-12-22 06:05:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like he did this becuase i wouldnt put out or whatever and he really never careda **** about me!!! What do i do to over come this??
2007-12-22 06:06:50 · update #1
You need to pick better guys to date...lol.
2007-12-22 06:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by Muker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You didn't say how old you are, but judging from your actions, you sound pretty young. First I'd kick him to the curb, he sounds to immature to have any kind of real feelings, love shouldn't hurt. Second, if I were you, I'd totally concentrate more on your education. After reading your letter, it looks like you're putting more time into a "going nowhere" relationship than schoolwork. And it's the education you should really go after right now, not boys. Believe it or not there is lots of time, and when you are older and more mature, Mr. Wonderful will come along and treat you with the respect you deserve. But for now put the serious relationships on HOLD, just be friends with guys, and become EDUCATED!!!!! Oh yeah, and him saying he might try and get into your pants again.......he's just a pig, and if you let him, you'll be really sorry. Never, ever, do that to hang on to someone. NEVER, EVER!!!!!
2007-12-22 06:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you but this guy was a real turdbird. I am glad you found it out sooner rather than later! Unfortunately there are several turdbirds out there. All you can really do right now is use this experience as a life lesson! It will serve you well in the future. Don't jump into relationships very fast. It takes time to really know someone. Keep it casual and cool for a longer period of time. Everyone of us has, at some time, felt used, hurt, and not the brightest star in the sky! But actually if we found out fairly soon that he was no good, we're one of the lucky ones. Some ended up pregnant, alone, broke, scared, as well as used, abused and lied to.
2007-12-22 06:12:56 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing to not ever let him get into your pants. Do you really want a guy to be with you just for that? If he won't stay with you for you, then he wasn't worth it in the first place. My advice is just to move on and find better things. He was obviously a jerk and by paying attention to him, you'll just make him feel better about himself. He probably does this because he has low self esteem and wants attention. You deserve better and you should stay away from lowlifes like that. Every minute you dwell on this is another minute he wins. Go out with your friends, read a book, work on a project, do something you enjoy that relaxes you and takes your mind off things. You'll feel better in no time. Don't think about him at all and DON'T TAKE HIM BACK.
2007-12-22 06:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jxdy11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry...=) In every cloud there is a silver lining. Try to find someone else who you will cherish above all (no not marriage). He cant be the only one that could make you feel this way. This kind of happened to me. It goes away with time. But to have a laugh out of all of this, take a picture u have of him, enlarge it and throw darts at it. Lol or you could take the picture and cut it into tiny peices. If you really want to get over it and fast, you can try to talk to him. Text him and say "meet me over at_________" go and talk to him. Tell him how he made you feel. You may end up together again, or at least you'll get the horrible feelings off your chest. maybe he'll be able to express his feeling to you. Maybe he is scared he'll get hurt when u leave him cus hes a perv...sorta.
Anyways......Good Luck
2007-12-22 06:15:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him. Many people will say this and it won't be easy sometimes but act as if it all never happened. Next is to forgive him. Forgive him because if you do not you will have to live with that for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. Forgiving him will be healing the wound that's obviously open and deep. There's a Jennifer Lopez song that would be great for you go listen to it. Its called "Never Gonna Give Up". Simply live on and don't let that mark you. Not all men are like that. Have faith that one day you will find a man that will see YOU as the only one and YOU will never doubt it.
2007-12-22 06:13:42 · answer #6 · answered by Luis_F_R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel because honestly this is kind of like when my ex broke up with me cause I didn't let him have sex with me... yes it is hurtful because he played with your heart and now its like the world is coming to an end... But what you do is while you are on break you call up your girls and y'all go out and have fun.. you forget about his stupid ***.. I'm not saying forget just think of it as a lesson.. Because what if you did put out and he still was with these three other girls... It would hurt even more so just be thankful... And have a Merry Christmas with the ones who really love you...
2007-12-22 06:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by Bossy Boss of Tha D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Honey Ignore the jerkoff. I know it hurts now but if you just ignore him and forget about him your life will be so much easier. I have personally never done that because I am not a douche bag but, From personal experience and comingfrom a guy forget about him. If he was playing you he was never worth it anyway. Hang out with your girlfriends just do whatever you can to keep your mind off him and soon you will forget all about him
2007-12-22 06:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like an unstable guy who's only looking for a few ladies to kick it with and have sex. It's obvious he's not looking for a real relationship, and frankly, he's not worth your time or tears. Stop e-mailing him, delete him off your Myspace friends, and don't call him again. He needs help controlling his urges and emotions, but that's something that he needs to do on his own time, and he can't take his problems out on you. You deserve better, and I hope you find someone better.
~Kat
2007-12-22 06:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww hun I'm really sorry that happened to you! guys sometimes suck like that...it sounds like he is kinda imature emotionally and he doesn't know what he wants I mean...if he was with 4 girls at one time thats kind of a clue...if I were you babe I'd just ignor him and never ever take him back if he asks....you can't trust him. I know its hard but try not to be too sad over him you will find someone much better :) hope you feel better soon love xoxo ♥
2007-12-22 06:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this would not be the dazzling difficulty to do yet that's my opinion. in case you could sleep with a guy, then you need to be waiting to be thoroughly straight forward with them. in the event that they are actually not treating you precise and you do not say something, how are they meant to renowned. So in my opinion confront him. Ask him if he desires to maintain doing what hes doing or if he'd quite be with you. we've all enjoyed and lost. The worst that would take place is that hes a entire jerk. Sorry if this did not help. merely yet another opinion.
2016-10-02 06:21:04 · answer #11 · answered by glassburn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋