I've read numerous responses (not just today) about this question, mostly centering on how if girls ask guys out, then they're too desperate.
But why isn't that the case when guys ask girls out? I mean, somebody has to do it, why should it be the responsibility of one gender over another? Because it's "tradition"? **** that!
I strongly believe that if you don't go after what you want, then you lose the right to complain when you don't get it.
You are free to disagree, of course. But at least try to explain the thinking behind your beliefs, I'm genuinely interested in knowing a valid reason for this.
Let me know your age too, we'll see if that makes a difference. I'm 24.
2007-12-22 06:04:42 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be shy, I won't be cruel, but there must be SOMEBODY confident enough to defend his/her views...
2007-12-22 06:15:30 · update #1
Amanda M:
1.) Some of your friends have a "traditional" view of masculinity and femininity, which is fine if it works for them. Of course, "tradition" also holds that the man in the relationship makes all the decisions without consulting the woman, who MUST obey him without question.
2.) Obsessive stalkers will do ANYTHING to get a girl to be his. And can I say it the other way around? If a girl wants a guy, she will do anything to get him to be hers. I certainly wouldn't want anyone that clingy and possessive in my life.
Is all that what your friends really want? For a guy to assert his authority over what he considers his domain and become obsessive about acquiring it? Apparently, your friends LOVE to play games like "hard to get" and "the chase". If that's the case then fine, but they should at least admit it. I don't understand it, and I won't pursue them either. Explain this to them, and let me know what their responses are.
2007-12-22 08:17:26 · update #2
Awesome question! Without giving my personal opinion, I'll give you some answers that you can state your feelings about.
I know for some of my friends they refuse to ask a guy out because they want him to be the "man" in the relationship. I really don't understand what that means exactly, but it's one view for you to ponder.
I've heard other girls saying they don't want to ask a guy out because, "if a guy wants a girl, he will do anything to get her to be his."
Really curious of your response to these.
2007-12-22 06:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman or girl who waits for a man or boy, to ask them out, often gets the worse men, the controlling men. The men you have to ask out, don't have those annoying control issues, they are spontaneous in life and enjoy being with you on an equal basis. Men who get angry about you asking them out, are the ones to avoid.
Lots of men like it when a woman asks them out, because they get tired of always having to ask a woman out.
And since when is a woman such an egotist, but she would not ask a man out because she needs to see if he is ' worth' it? what? men and women are equal, chivalry is dead and women can whatever we want to nowadays. Go ask! :)
2015-01-15 15:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think why girls like the guy to ask them out is that we're more sensitive and may get hurt more from rejection. But, alot of guys are just as scared of rejection as girls, so I think that it's okee for either the boy or the girl to ask the other out. Basically I think it doesn't matter, as long as one of them gets the relationship going.
2007-12-22 07:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by ` Tia ღ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not it shows that girl like guy that she has confidence in herself and her abilities, this after all the 21st century and you ladies fought for a long time for equal rights, exercise those rights.
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2007-12-22 07:36:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think one of the main reasons girls dont ask guys out is because girls usually get hurt more easily and there afraid there get rejected, while most guys if they get rejected it my sting for a moment but then there over it and moved on.
2007-12-22 06:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by AMAN DUHH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Back then girls were never allowed to ask a man out.
So im guessing thats why.
But NOW there is no law that says girls cant ask a man out!
2007-12-22 07:04:22 · answer #6 · answered by prettylilpunk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason why women shouldn't ask men out. It's flattering and it shows confidence. I'm 20.
2007-12-22 06:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that's stupid.
women should ask men out. there's nothing wrong with that.
from what i heard, it actually turns on the men because you have "leadership" and you're not shy.
it's MUCH BETTER than being shy
2007-12-22 06:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋