We want eachother so bad we are both in relationships, he only wants sex but i have strong feelings for him, i know its a waste of time, it can't go anywhere as he will never change. If he can cheat on her he'll do it to me. I don't want to fall for him my head tells me this but my heart wont listen. My boyfriend is loving loyal and caring i know nothing good can ever come with the other guy but i feel what i feel. I want to, need to see him but it's the holidays so i can't. I feel so sad. Do you think your head can over rule your heart?
2007-12-22 04:58:09 · 25 answers · asked by honey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's not even a nice person if he was he wouldn't do what he does. He's very much a player, he's everything my man isn't, why can't i stop thinking of him?
2007-12-22 05:00:00 · update #1
You need to forget about him. I know its very hard and you are most certainly right about the cheating thing. End of the day you are saving yourself from a lot of heartache and not only that but if he is just after you for sex then it's obvious he isn't getting it from his current gf. What would happen if your bf found out? You'll just end up hating yourself more and losing one of the good things in your life.
2007-12-22 05:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Đ∂ү ώ∂ℓķєЯ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl what the heck is wrong with you? you have a loyal guy whom you say is loving so why are you cheating on him? you are not right see girls like you mess it up for girls like me. you need to appreciate what you have at home if this other guy felt the way you feel then he would've left her and been with you. Don't you think? You are just a butty call. As long as you keep giving it to him he will continue to come. Get strong and notice what you have and don't spoil it cause when you loose something good you will regret it. Think about what your doing. how would you feel if the shoe was on the other side? if your not feeling ur man than set him free so that someone else can appreciate him the way he should since you don't.
2007-12-22 13:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by vivi010571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant stop thinking of him because he is a player. Thats what they do, play women. Theyre charming, charismatic, and manipulative. They study women in general, so they can play us. They watch our every move and listen to every word in order to get what makes us go for them. And then they play on it. He has you exactly where he wants you right now. He knows all he has to do is wait and be patient and you will eventually stumble right into the trap. He's not in any hurry. Like you said, he has a girlfriend. He is not pining for you the way you are for him. He probably doesnt give you much thought once youre out of eyesite and earshot. You are probably one of many women he has waiting in the wings. You know this. Youre saying it yourself. Why set yourself up? Take his actions as a compliment that he thinks youre hot enough to sleep with. And the rest look at as he's not mature enough to be in a real relationship. Ask yourself this? Would you want to be his girlfriend anyways? Be the girl he's with now? I didnt think so. Its awful being with a guy like that. You never feel quite pretty enough etc...As far as the guy youre with now? He's probably a great guy. Maybe not the great guy for you though. You might need a little more. And rather than accepting that, youre building the other guy up to be soooo much more than he is. I wouldnt take a chance of hurting a really nice guy just to take a chance at having sex with a guy I knew was a player and already had a girlfriend. At least break up with your guy first. Rather than have him find out you cheated. That would be pretty lame to do to him. Be nice. That doesnt mean sacrificing your own happiness by staying with a guy just because hes nice. Just do unto him as you would have him do unto you. Cut him loose if youre wishing you could be with someone else. He'll get over that faster than finding out you cheated and only stayed because the guy you cheated with isnt available for more than a fling. Therefore you settled.
2007-12-22 14:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by aperfectpeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know that your head, in this case, MUST rule over your "heart". You know the bad idea this guy is. I don't even understand what you mean when you say you have "feelings" for him....in the end, isn't it just sexual? If by your own admission he is not a nice guy, what does it mean to have "feelings" for him? It is one thing to be physically attracted to him, even if he is mean. But to actually find him to be an interesting person worthy of your time? Why?
Seriously, ask yourself what these "feelings" are so that you can determine if this is really your "heart", or...well, too put it a bit bluntly, another part of your body that is more interested in sex.
2007-12-22 13:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by Rob K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is like the forbidden fruit - you want what you cannot or should not have.
Let's be practical - You have anice BF Why don't you pay attention to him instead of this other guy who cares only for sex. Sure, sex is fun and feels good but a loasting relationship is never based on sex. Intellect first and sex a long way second.
Best you pay attention to your BF and put this guy out of your ming lest you lose both of them. Then what will you have gained, a quicky hot time? Is it worth that?
Best let common sense rule your erratic emotions before you ruin a good thing.
2007-12-22 13:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by organbuilder272 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact of the matter is you are not entirely happy with your boyfriend, you two maybe lack a bit of passion? Which is exactly what this 'fling' will give you.Please do not throw away what you have for meaningless sex, although it would be fantastic to have your cake and eat it, affairs are never plain sailing, you will have feelings of guilt and your boyfriend will be hurt and so will this other guys girlfriend.Leave well alone, inject some spice into your relationship-dressing up, pole dancing, anything else but cheating!
2007-12-22 13:07:58 · answer #6 · answered by dms*157* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the advice from a older person.DONT EVEN GO THERE women do tend to go for the bad boys but eventually he will move on to some other victim and then you will feel very hurt...much worse than you do now ,and you have a nice boyfriend now and you could loose him because of this fling and then you would be left very sad and would more than likely have no one because this fella is going to move on that's for sure so stay away from him he is not good for you even if you weren't in a relationship.. just DONT GO FOR BLOKES likes this one ....
2007-12-22 13:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe so. I'll tell you this much, a guy who only wants sex will never do anything but hurt you. I dated someone similar to that, he started off caring and considerate, but then he just pressured me for sex. I still cared about him, despite that, and my mind fooled me into thinking that he'd change, it went on for two months of nothing but arguments, and then when I finally realized that it was a waste of time, and I was tired of crying every night, wondering why he was a jerk, I broke it up, and a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I know your heart wants it, but be true to your boyfriend. He sounds like a great guy, and you'll be heartbroken later when you realize that you made a mistake.
Distance yourself away from this other guy, hes up to no good, and focus on the love and affectionate your current boyfriend is providing you.
2007-12-22 13:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your heart rules over your head all the time. even if it seems that it doesn't, it will in the end. but if he only wants sex, would you be satisfied with that, just sex, no relationship? it sounds that your feelings are too strong for a just physical relationship. and it sounds like if you cheat, it will just be stressful on you, because you'll be played, and you'll have feelings for him. but feelings are stronger than logic, usually. so i don't know what to tell you. but if you really have feelings for this guy, and you think you can change his intentions, go for it. but if you think otherwise..i'd be careful.
2007-12-22 13:06:24 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like the only thing u see in him is thats his good looking? to u thats what u see and u think why is he not a nice guy. believe me thats what it is....my ex was very good looking but found out he was not a good guy/a player....i was dumped then he asked me out...i was so happy cos i would be with him again....but then i looked past his looks and told him after a day that i cnt be with him cos he was always going to be player....well he didnt care anyway and laughed at me and that was it....he also dumped me first time cos i didnt sleep with him,wasnt ready,thats all he wanted. hope u can see what am trying to say,think u like his looks,but not him,just think anyway about it. sex isnt everything,u will be hurt in the end...u might lose your bf and the other guy might just not stay with u cos he has a gf aswell...u may end up losing everything in the end just cos of this player.
2007-12-22 13:09:04 · answer #10 · answered by london-fem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋