My boyfriend is having a female friend over his house?

Question

I completely trust him, but I am a little bit jealous. Ok, so this is what happened. My boyfriends ex-girlfriend called him last night and said that there was this girl named Katy that liked him. He is kind of popular so I was used to this. So he told Katy that he loved me and wouldnt leave me but would be friends with her. Today she is going over there to hang out with him and his family and I am a bit jealous. I have a knot in my stomach. I know he wont do anything with her but this feeling wont go away. What do I do? How do I distract myself until she leaves his house? Any websites that can get my mind off it or anything? ANYTHING I could do? Please help!

Answer 1

You have to show him you trust him but not acting jealous and be nice to the friend, that will show you trust him.

Answer 2

I know that this is not going to be the popular answer, but you know, I used to be like alot of the girls that are going to answer this & then I grew up.

It comes down to 3 questions:

Do you trust him? If yes, leave it alone. If no, leave him alone.

Do you love each other? I don't meant the 12 year old puppy dog love that most people go through, or the new relationship love. I mean, like are you in it for the long haul? If this is just a flavor of the month relationship, it's not worth the stress & anxiety. If you're just dating & you can't say that you both love each other to make decisions based on that love, then it's not going to last & freaking out over it will do nothing but make you all miserable.

Have you tried being friends with her too? My boyfriend still works in the same building with the last girl he dated. It's only a 3 story bilding with 2 departments, so it's not like they once see each other once a year. I knew this going in & i also knew what happened between them. He asked me if it was OK to still be friends with her & I answered "of course, why would you think you'd have to get my permission?", knowing his character enough to know that cheating isn't an issue I have to be concerned about. Now, we're all friends & there's no hard feelings, even though she is the BIGGEST drama queen. I don't go out of my way to do things with her or anything, but when we run into each other, we're friends.

The girl he dated before her lives in the next town & he heard that her brother died in an accident. As soon as he told me, I asked him when he was going to the funeral home. He, not we. I also asked him a few days after the funeral if he'd been a good friend & called & checked on her. He replied that he didn't think it was a good idea to do that & so I left it alone.

This all comes down to his character, where your relationship is and your maturity to be able to let go of the jealousy. Sure, we all have our moments of jealousy, but being mature is about letting those only be moments & not letting it control our lives. Good luck!

Answer 3

Oh hell no he is not letting her come over! Call him and tell him exactly how you feel. You may feel like a jealous ***** while the phone is dialing, but trust me when you get it off your chest you'll feel like a million bucks. No respectiable guy would even entertain the company of a female that he knows likes him. Although I'm positive he won't do anything with her, I can almost promise you he's doing it to stroke his ego. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now (we've only broken up once and it was for a couple of days), I'm in my late teens, and I've had the same experience. Do not put up this. Tell him how you feel and that you don't appreciate him having her over.

Answer 4

you know what you should do. You should go out and have fun! Either go out by yourself or call up some friends or better yet go hang out with a GUY friend, and if he has a problem with that then he shouldn't be hanging out with some chick at his house, go have fun, go shopping, eat, watch movies, clubbing, any where is fine. Get your mind off him. If he wants to hang out with that girl so bad, you should just go have fun by yourself without him.

Answer 5

Ummm, ok she likes him? Yeah that could be a bad situation waiting to happen especially for you. Some not all guys like to see what they can have its like an ego thing...so if she is "better" than you in any way it could be a big disappointment for you. I would talk to your boyfriend and explain to him how you feel, if he does in fact love you as he says then he will understand. Communication is key to a great relationship...

Answer 6

You could go out with friends. They won't be movie friends and keep reminding you if you don't want to be reminded. Go see a movieor two. Don't worry you can trust a boyfriend like yours.

Answer 7

Why do they have to stay over if they are just smoking a few joints? Sounds like a lame and fishy excuse to me.Im a guy so take my advice,He's sleeping with them.The "I'm not attracted to her" story is the first excuse we use.The pot is the bait he uses to get them to his house,just like fishing.Trust me.

Answer 8

to take ur mind off of this go hang out with ur friends or go see a movie.

if u know that he won't do anything then just make him think of you more than that other girl.

or give ur self a spa type of thing. paint ur nails, wash ur face, take a long bath.

Answer 9

Think of it this way:

If he cheats on you, it shows he is not trustworthy, which means he gets the boot and you have one less a**hole in your life.

Don't worry too much if you both trust each other. I can tell by your message that he does love you, so do not worry.

Answer 10

Go hang out with some of your friends. Go see a movie. Or see if you can hang out with them and do something.♥♥