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Question

i met this girl in college 2 years ago, At that time i had a big crush on her and I still do, so i sent flowers on her birthday two years ago. , but i dint have my name on them she called me and thanked me for the flowers at that time, But nothing serious happened between us, we took a few courses together after we met, Recently she told me that she thinks i am cute, and that she had a crush on me the first day of class but she had to stop after learning that i was a Muslim. Couple day ago i was online and she asked me when my birthday was, i told her that it passed, and she asked me if i was going to send her flowers for her birthday, I was like how about red roses this time, and she told me that she likes Pink roses. .And she invited me to her b-day party which was yesterday, so I went and she was there with 3 other girls no boys, she was nice to me, then after the club, I was driving home and I text messaged her “saying text me when you get home please”. Then she responded an hour later saying that “I am home, thank you for being there, Gosh too bad we are different religions otherwise I would date u”. I didn’t ask her for a date or anything. Is she trying to tell me something? This was the only time we actually hung out, out of class and I had not seen her in a while. But we have always been keeping in touch over msn. What should i do? Her roses will be delivered today with a message saying
“I saw these roses and, even though they were beautiful, nothing can compare to the beauty i see in you”. Was sending the roses a mistake? Is she telling me to stay away from her by getting religion involved? I didn’t ask her if she would like to date me.

Answer 1

She gave you the answer when she said "Too bad we are different religions or I would date you".

Answer 2

its obvious that religion is an issue to her, but is it an issue for you? If you asked her about the religion issue it may help to clarify the situation. Can she accept you as a Muslim? And can you accept her religion. Ask her if she would like to go out as friends. The flowers may have been too much, too soon. I mean, what are your intentions with the flowers? If you want to date her let her know. It seems you want to but you think she will say no because you're Muslim. I dated men outside my race, religion and economic group and they were good times, but I think we agreed to only date and not get serious about each other for the sake of our families.

Answer 3

Too bad the religion stnding between you t wo. But then it is a fact of life and unless both are strong enough to challenge the establishment their life together will not be happy.

She seems to be a mature girl. No doubt she likes you as she has repeatedly averred but it is also the fact that shedoes not have the gutts to cross the plimsoll linYou would,therefore, do better to keep the matter at that level for all concerned.

PS.You slipped when you said you sent her flowers for the first time without your name and in the next sentence you say she thanked you for them.

Answer 4

She is torn over the religious angle of your relationship and has been honest enough to state her feelings. If you think that your religion would not hinder a good relationship with her, have that conversation with her. Maybe she wants to know more. Or you can tempt her. . .she is tempted already and all you have to do is say if you don't want to date, why don't we go to the movies or dinner or somewhere as friends and get to know her better before you or she makes any decisions. I don't know why people of different religions can't respect each other and their views. If moving forward in a relationship is good for both of you, then do so. If it isn't, care for her enough to leave her alone. The roses are great. You are both attracted to each other. Now you have both said so.

Answer 5

I think that she may genuinely like/be interested in you but she has also made it clear that due to her beliefs or her parents etc. that she doesn't see it as a possibility. I don't think that you made a mistake in sending the flowers as long as you sent them because you are just truly a nice guy. You just need to realize that flowers are going to change how she feels on such a big issue. I don't think that she is trying to screw you over or lead you on or anything like that, however, assuming her parents are the reason she feels it wouldn't be acceptable to date you, she may honestly wish that she could but doesn't feel she can because of other issues.

Answer 6

You seem like the kind of guys girls dream about or you see in the movies. She sounds like a conservative republician hell bent on find Osama Ben Ladin. I think being friends with this girl would be a good idea, but trying to start a relationship with her is not. Your religion is apart of your identity. If she cant' accept that your muslim then maybe she isn't right for you.

Answer 7

she is letting you know that she is interested. but whatever her religion is, she strongly believes in in. and being that your muslim, and not in her religion, she cant date you.

in a way, i dont see a problem in dating with somebody in a different religion. maybe she thinks because your muslim, you would have multiple girlfriends, and not just one.

im not muslim, but i dunno if the multiple wife conspiricy is true.(sorry if i spelled wrong).
but ask her questions. she already let you know that she would date you. ask her why she wouldnt date you, besides you being muslim. and if it goes into muslim fact, make her understand your religion more, and try to understand her religion more.

i dunno what she is thinking. so u need to get inside her head and find out. i dont know if she's thinking long term. but you find out. maybe she can be ur future wife, if things work out.

maybe your muslim because your family is muslim, and you wont carry on and be a muslim. you never know. same goes for her.
you never know until you ask boo.

so go ask, and stop being shy. when she call and thank you for the roses, that'll be your chance. i hope im not too late with this. and i hope im some kind of help. good luck boo.
mmmmmmwah

Answer 8

Its hard to tell what she will think after she receives the roses, I'm sure she will think that they were was sweet. Its obvious that she likes you but I also think that she is trying to respect your religion. What did you write back after she wrote you that message about dating? Would your family be ok with you somewhat getting in voled with someone who doesn't have the same beliefs as yourself

Answer 9

Religion is a big thing to some people. She obviously likes you cause she's still dealing with you. I think that the next time she brings it up you should talk about it with her instead of not saying anything about it and avoiding it.

Answer 10

this is tough question for me to answer but if i were you i would ask her directly about the religion thing befroe it goes to far and you get hurt or go broke for some reason she brought it up and you need to ask her not us as many people are different when it comes to the religion questions it dont bother me but some people it does good luck