When my daughter was 6 she asked if she could get her ears pierced. I told her to wait til she was 12 - pretty much because that was the age girls started doing it when I was at school. Her late mother wasn't allowed hers until she was 15.
She is now 8 and most of her friends have had theirs done in the last year. I have heard her telling her friends how gorgeous their earrings are, "but my dad won't let me til I'm 12."
Putting things into perspective, she is mature for an 8 year old. She feels the odd one out. I have no idea what its like to be a girl. In the grand scheme of things it's only earrings - and she'll be getting them in 3 1/2 years anyway.
I'm really thinking maybe I should buy her a pair of earrings, wrap them up and tell her when she opens them that I told her 12 because when I was young, that was the age girls did it. Things have obviously changed and since she wants them so much, she can get them pierced (1 pair only) as soon as she wants.
Good or bad idea?
2007-12-22 04:13:11 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
VERY GOOD IDEA...SHE SOUNDS LIKE A WONDERFUL GIRL TOO, THAT WOULD BE A VERY SPECIAL THING TO GIVE HER...
2007-12-22 04:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by Shy Town 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That would be a great xmas gift. Wrap her up a beautiful pair of girly earrings and when she opens them let her know that if she still wants it done then she can get it done. It's rather cheap. She won't be able to wear the new earrings right away. I believe the wait time is 6 weeks before changing the studs that they put in at the piercing place. If you have a Claire's store near you they do it for cheap. Some wal marts do it or tattoo parlors. Good luck. You sound like a great dad!!!
2007-12-22 04:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by ~Sara~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be special, indeed. Make sure that the earrings are good ones. Maybe with posts that resist infections. And earrings that aren't huge.
Ear piercing is pretty painless, and goes easily. While the holes are healing, help her keep the earlobes very clean. Alcohol or other disinfectant cleaner. And twist the earrings every day, so they won't grow in just one position.
My daughter had my granddaughter's ears pierced when she was about 4. Not a big thing. Better that than wanting her tongue or belly button pierced!
2007-12-22 15:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Idea, She is a girl after all and I think that for a girl getting your ears pierced is a huge part of being feminine and it's a way to show her that you trust her to take care of her body and that you want what is going to help her grow into a wonderful young woman, (responsibility). It could be much worse, she could be asking to get her belly button pierced, and wouldn't be surprised if she did in todays society. Now that is probably where I would draw the line and tell her heck no, maybe when you move out of my home. Well good luck and Happy Holidays
2007-12-22 04:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by H mom of 3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, I'm 12 and my dad JUST allowed me to get them peirced (I haven't done it yet). It was for my birthday present last August.
But his main preferance was to get them peirced for my bat Mitzvah present (Next August, when I am 13).
Many of my friends who are 12 or 13 just got their ears peirced a matter of weeks ago, and some still haven't. So I'll have you know that you aren't the only parent that thinks this way.
I really think it depends on the kid, though. Some parents think they can handle the resonsibility, some don't. If you think she can handle it and will remember to clean them daily, then I would say go for it. The idea of wrapping them up is a good one. Warn her about the responsibility, that it will hurt when she gets them peirced, and don't let her wear dangly earrings until she's 12 or so.
Hey, soon enough she's going to want her nose pierced, or her ears double peirced. What are you going to say then?
Best of luck!
-Meshugana Jules
2007-12-22 04:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by *Jules_is_ _Meshugana!* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a great idea! I'm 12 and I'm getting mine pierced for the first time soon. You should probably look at some first, that's what my dad does to me for anything he buys me, my mom kind of just hopes for the best! Umm, well say "Let's go to Claire's (or another store with earrings) to buy some hair products, she'll get attention on earrings pretty soon, then take in mind which ones she says she likes!! Good lucka nd Merry Christmas!
2007-12-22 12:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or you can just be honest and say you understand how important it is for her to have her ears pierced, and, since shes been so responsible and mature she is, you feel shes ready now. Children enjoy knowing your appreciate their efforts, and they will live up to what you tell them you think of them.
Remind her that she will have to keep the holes clean, and she will need a pair of starter earrings until the holes are done.
Its a good idea to let her know you appreciate her, much better than you changed your mind because you were young
2007-12-22 04:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is a little girl and she just wants to feel like a princess, let her get her ears pierced. You can buy her several pairs of little stud earrings and this way she will have different colors to wear. I had mine done when I was three years old and I am 28 now and I turned out just fine. Now if she comes to you and ask to have her nose done or something then yes draw the line.
You sound like a great dad!!
Merry Christmas!
2007-12-22 13:57:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I commend you for your thoughfulness put into this and how hard I can see you work to be a good dad. I would say that at age 8, she is old enough to decide that she would like them (as she obviously has) and is old enough to understand the importance of taking care of her ears (cleaning them, etc.) with your reminders and supervision. I think it would mean a lot to her that you are placing your trust in her for getting her ears pierced. Also, the nice thing is is that if they don't work out, they can be removed and the holes will pretty much close up over time. Thanks for being such a good dad...the world needs more like you!
2007-12-22 06:27:22 · answer #9 · answered by J H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had mine when I was 6, and I think its a good idea. The truth is, earrings aren't that big of a deal, and parents always say 12 which is kind of stupid. I took care of mine, they never got infected or anything, and I'm happy. When I was 8- 9 I wanted a second piercing, and my parents said absoulutely not. I'm 13 now, they still wouldn't let me get the 2nd one done, but its ok, I no longer want it. Truth be told, its a good idea and she should get them pierced!
2007-12-22 05:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a great way to tell her. i had my daughter ears done when they were babies but when they were older and wanted another piercing i told them they had to wait until they were 12 so they could care for them. i reconsidered for my younger one and let her get them earlier because 1) she was responsible for them and 2) many of the kids her age were having a second ear piercing. although i don't let her do everything her peers are doing i thought this was a harmless way to help fit in. good luck with your daughter you sound like a good dad.
2007-12-22 14:05:49 · answer #11 · answered by aef067 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋