I have been best friends with a girl for the last few years, and have started liking her as more. I recently moved 80 miles away, she came to see me, we ended up kissing, then she said she needed time to think. i didnt hear from her until she invited me to stay with her for the weekend. we kissed and made out again. i asked her to be my girlfriend, she said she needed time to think. then she told me she couldn't be, as the distance is too far (hour train), and if it went wrong, she would lose a good friend. all i think now is that i'm not sure i want to be her friend, as it's strange now..i told her i need space to think about stuff...what should i do?
2007-12-22 04:12:02 · 7 answers · asked by dafadf a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just chill. What ever is supposed to happen will.
2007-12-22 04:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by MazdaMatt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have always believed that good friends make better lovers.
When you are good friends with someone, they know enough about you to skip that awkward "getting to know you" phase of a relationship. You have a solid foundation to build on, and the ability to feel comfortable with each other.
However, the "I might lose a good friend part" is insecurity raising its ugly head. Unless one or the other of you are known to cheat, or has any other ugly relationship tendancies, this shouldn't be a problem.
Now the distance thing I can understand, because many people feel the need to have their significant other close by in order to be spontaneous at times. Suprises are easier if you don't have to plan an expedition to get it done. Also, the cost of traveling any long distance these days is costly, and its hard to try and decide whether to buy groceries or a ticket to go see your loved one.
I don't know if this helped at all, but I hope it's given you some things to think about.
2007-12-22 12:24:29 · answer #2 · answered by dragonofshade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u really like this girl, try seeing things her ways for a minute, wat will happen if something happen between you guys? Then, you just lose a good friend. Give it time, they say the best friends make the best lovers, but they also have the worst break ups. U dont wanna mess up what u have now, don't push her, just be happy to be with her now and if you guys are meant to be, it will happen with time, don't push it, patience has its rewards. Give her as much time as she needs, treat her right, be there for her, don't push her away, be her friend if that's what she needs. With time, she'll realize you are the one for her.
2007-12-22 12:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by wd21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know what to tell you, this is always a touchy subject. She came on to you, than said she couldn't continue. Sounds a little familiar, I would try and keep her as a good friend and see if she changes her mind.
2007-12-22 12:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you guys wre really good friends, why ruin that. Being Bf& GF is good but being friends is better. Don't ruin thing be friends maybe later you will get tgether but I mean LATER!
2007-12-22 12:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by Lina B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad she was honest about it with you...you should be too. She wants to remain friends ..just friends and you shouldn't have to think about that. Friends are not that easy to come by.
2007-12-22 12:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by nickyname 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of site, out of mind is applicable here.
2007-12-22 12:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋