I've read a few responses to these questions, and most seem to be obvious "I met this guy but he just lays around all day" situations. I'm 30, college-educated, and have been out of work for about two months. I'm aggressively searching for work and am writing freelance as well.
I just moved to a new city and I don't know anybody. I still have a membership at a dating site and figured that I could meet someone in this city, but now I'm wondering if me being unemployed is going to label me as an automatic loser, even though I have my own place, car, etc.
It's lonely here, and I think getting out a bit would help me, but I'd rather not lie to a girl till I got a new position, yet on the other hand, I don't want to have to tell her right away "Oh yeah, I'm unemployed". Any thoughts?
2007-12-22 03:59:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't date until you have some work and financial stability in your life because it only creates stress. If you date someone you really truly like, you want to start off in a good way. I'm not advocating one night stands necessarily, but in the meantime, casually getting to know someone and having company will help your loneliness. Just be sure to say "I'm not comfortable dating until the work thing is taking care off" and keep it casual.
2007-12-22 04:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by R. Trout 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would never do it again only because last guy I dated was laid off just after we started dating, and guess who paid for everything? First couple weeks wasn't bad, but after 3 weeks, I had enough, it was frustrating because it SEEMED like he did nothing while I was at work all day because he never once even had an interview anywhere, but when asked how his day was, it was him going places with friends! Once I told him I was finished paying for things, I was history. Now how does that look?
Girls probably wouldn't date an unemployed guy because it seriously FEELS like we're being used for our money. I would expect a guy feels the same when the girl is unemployed. I don't mind paying here and there, but when it is EXPECTED and not appreciated, makes it hard for me to ever date a jobless guy again.
If your freelance work pays, say you do freelance. I'd stay away from "unemployed" because it does have the taint of a slacker to it.
2007-12-22 12:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by dollmaker_extraordinaire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being honest with a woman is more important. Telling her, in a serious face, that you ARE looking for a job shows that you mean it and you will get a job sooner or later.
If you show women that you are lazy or "that guy who lays around all day", then there will be a problem.
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2007-12-22 12:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely not lie (huge turn-off). I think if you're honest you'll have better luck. It's not like you have no education and are sitting around being a bum. You are aggressively searching. I assume you're managing to pay your bills. I think motivation and ambition are attractive and you seem to have that. But..you might have to settle for a job you're not crazy about, and keep actively searching for a job you really want.
2007-12-22 12:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jen due December 09 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are women out there who dont mind an unemployed guy when you have one respond let me know cuz i can tell you from experience it does get annoying at times but it is 2007-08 times are changing
2007-12-22 12:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie Pie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting paid for writing freelance then it isn't really like you are unemployed...right?
2007-12-22 12:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been unemployed now for about a month and Im very single. I cant even approach a female. Im able to pay my rent and bills but after that I cant even afford to buy her a cup of coffee. Talking about low self-esteem and confidence right now, Im he.
Honest or not, I am having to wait till Im employed again before trying to meet and female and getting to know her, its best and easiest for myself.
2014-06-11 05:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by bubby10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, then, say, "I have no job RIGHT NOW, BUT I am looking---do YOU have any ideas of where I can look for a job?"
As a matter of fact, ask everybody you see!!
2007-12-22 12:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i suggest you be honest with her..most girls will ask what you do for a living...explain your situation and if she is reallly worth your time she will understand....if u do find some1 that understand still remember that you will need a job...
GOOD LUCK
2007-12-22 12:04:11 · answer #9 · answered by Duttywhine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not recommended
2007-12-22 12:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋