I dont know a way to handle it when my parents die. I am very sensitive. My heart becomes full of fear?

Question

when I think about it. I am afraid that I will go crazy or sth.

Answer 1

Well I am 12 years old. And my father died last year. We were very close. I am like you, a sensitive heart. It took awhile to get better. But it still does hurt. Times will get better. I am not saying that the hurt will ever be gone. I thought I would go crazy also, but look here, 1 year later and I am a lot better, but it still does hurt but not nearly as much as it did. Do not hold in your emotions. Talk to someone when you need or want to. Cry when you need or want to. Death is a part of life. You might be thinking *wow this 12 year old is taking it well*. Well yes I am but like I have said it still does hurt. And that love for the person will never go away. Just think of all the good memories and times you had with that person.
Hoping you the best! Sorry about your loss!
-Fishingidiot-

Answer 2

"Life has to be faced. It is rough; there is much pain, but the pain has to be faced. There is misery; it has to be encountered, it has to be passed through without any explanations and without any consolations."

This is a quote from a Tao book that I always remember. Basically it means... you will surely encounter unbearable pain in life. And sometimes it will feel like it shouldn't have happened (ie, loved ones die in a car crash) and it will feel unfair... and you will want to give up living.

But you must endure. One step in front of the other. That's the only thing you can do -- go forward. Time will slowly heal the pain.

Also, people don't just "go crazy" without having any say in the matter... Actually they have a type of personality that lends itself to insanity, and they were halfway crazy before the trauma hit. But if you have a strong will, and can stay positive, you will not go crazy. Except for very rare severe cases (like, you were born that way, with a malformed brain), you will not go crazy... unless you give up on life. But, I promise you (don't believe anyone who disagrees with me; I have a special experience in this area).... you will surely have a choice.

Just remember, you are not doing your parents honor.... by wasting the time you could enjoy with them by dwelling on a time when you no longer have them. It just doesn't make sense. Go enjoy the company of your parents. :)

Answer 3

It will be very painful. It was for me. Find people you can talk to. When it happens, you might want to consider a grief support group. There is no easy way to get througha this when you have feelings about the person who dies. If you ignore your feelings, they seem to come back at a later time and it is hard to know what is happening. There are many books on grief and bereavement. If you want to have an idea ahead of time, consider reading abou it.

Answer 4

OMG let me tell you I feel this way a lot! It's interesting I just browsed through the questions and my eyes caught yours and I thought to myself, "Wow, I think this too a lot!!!!" so I can definitly understand what you feel and think. I hope it never happens, at least anytime soon for our parents and anyone else's. But hey, sad reality, one day WE will go as well. We cant live forever. I dream about tomorrow, but it's like, well I even be alive in the next hour or something?! we will never ever know the future. All we can do is live for today and take care of our loved ones, try to protect them and look after their health and follow our religious beliefs. There's nothing more that we can do that's in our hands. I think to myself as well, if a loved one of mine dies, I cant live either. I'll most likely want to kill myself because of sadness and grief. But we shouldn't feel this way. EVERY single thing on this planet happens for a REASON. Sometimes it's in our control and sometimes it's not. So live for today, love life and care for your loved ones in any way you can, afterall, that's all you can do. Message me if you want!

Answer 5

well I have lost both my parents its hard you can never prepare yourself Tha pain is so deep My mom was the hardest I was the baby of the family and she was my best friend I griefed so long for her. But I also had to tell myself that she wasnt hurting anymore she died of a major stroke. But just enjoy them now while you can we all will die at some time
A lot of us take for granted what we have and when thier gone its too late so never forget to let them know how much you love them and respect them
Hope this helped

Answer 6

This is one of those scary thoughts.
I often think about this as well.
Talk to your parents and ask them how to manage the different things you are worried about. Have a plan in your head about who you could turn to for help.
Try to prepare your life so you have other people that you like around you. Figure out who cares about you besides your parents. If you can't think of anyone, this is the time to work on building relationship(s). Best Wishes

Answer 7

There was one of those hippie-type sayings years ago: We can be sad because a rose bush has thorns, or rejoice because a thorn bush has roses.

Meaning, worrying about the death of your parents (are they ill right now?) isn't going to help anything. One day, they will pass. One day, you will too. The important thing is, they are here now, and you are here, and you have the chance each and every day to love them, spend time with them, and enjoy each others' presence. That's as good as it gets.

Don't worry about the future. Trust me, you can never "prepare" for someone's death: even when it is expected and imminent, it is painful and difficult. But you get through it a day at a time.