my bf has issues. his mom abndnd him whn he was 7 in trinidad. he nvr had an education. he is in canada for the pst 10 yrs now n he does nothing. he has no priorities n ambitions in life. he cries why he was ever born if his mom was going to leave him. evryday he wishes death and i know he has had previous suicide attempts. he has no pple skills what so ever and a very low self esteem which has been even more trampled by his past 8 year relationship with his older wmn wit whom he has a 7 yr old son. he is so confused and lost. he lives this fake gangster life which is soo ridiculous. he doesnt wish to attempt new things due to fear of failure. i find i have been a very positive influence on his life.he is trying new thngs wit my support. But im 20 im expecting in April im in college still fulltime. My family wants nothing to do wit me becuz he is not muslim n im the sanity in this relationship. i hav n suprt wht so ever. He turns on me at times whn his frustartion gets to a high. HELP
2007-12-22 03:49:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is a bad relationship. You will be sucked dry and he won't be there for you. It is one way. Get out while you can.
2007-12-22 09:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get out of this relationship and fast. But I think you already know that.
It's too bad that you are bringing a child into this.
You are only 20 with your whole life ahead of you. You may be a positive influence in his life, but you are NOT responsible for his life.
He needs help in dealing with his issues and if he doesn't get it and you stay with him, you will be in the same boat he is or worse - no money, kids to raise, estranged from your family.
You should not stay with anyone who abuses you and his actions are definitely abusive to you. If he can't raise his other child, he will not be raising yours. He will find it too stressful and take off and you will be left holding the bag.
Please, for your sake, and especially for your child you are carrying, get out right now.
I know it will be hard - on him - but at some point you take responsibility for your own actions. Sure he had a hard childhood, but he is grown now and that excuse does not cut it anymore. He needs to grow up. He is looking for a mommy figure and you are it right now.
Believe me, he is not the one for you. You deserve more and so does your child.
Please get out fast. Make it up with your family somehow and get away.
good luck to you in this. I feel for you.
2007-12-22 04:14:42 · answer #2 · answered by oldbeatlefan53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It reads a very sad story to me. But I consider he should learn something to live on by himself, no skillful profession, common labor can do. One can not change fortune, but be courageous to live on. He is not Muslim, but can you make him be a Muslim and enter your society. I know Muslim are good people, they united firmly and making very delicious food. I have lots of Muslim friends, I like their food. OK, don't leave him, try any possible way help him. Good luck.
2007-12-22 04:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by freshman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women, too often want to play nursemaid to men who have mental problems. So they marry them thinking they can cure them, then find out too late they can't.
2007-12-22 04:28:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋