I dated this guy for 4 years and we decided that we were growing apart and decided to take a "break", During this time he fell in love with this other girl he said. I know the girl and we have always had problems. I still love him to death and they broke up and he started talking to me again but now they are talkin again and she has started texting me and calling me to insult me and tell me hurtful things, some of which he has said. He says he loves me but hes just confused. I want to be with him but i also want to move on because im scared of being hurt again. She is very pretty and has lots of money and im just not sure how i could compete with that. I pray and pray but for almost a year now my situation just seems to get worse. Someone please help me! She treats him so bad and i treated him so good, i just dont understand. If there are any suggestions or anyone who has been through this please give me some advice on how to handle this.
2007-12-22 03:32:35 · 18 answers · asked by southernsweetie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you always believe what your ENEMIES say? You said, " she has started texting me and calling me to insult me and tell me hurtful things, some of which he has said." Consider the source! Why would you believe that he said the hurtful things? She is feeling jealous and threatened, because she knows he still cares for you & is confused, so she is trying to drive you away by messing with your head. Don't fall for it. If you can block her number, please do so. Do not listen to her, do not talk with her. She may be pretty and have money, but she has no manners and no clue, and it is obvious that she is insecure. Hold you head high, smile, and don't let yourself get sucked in. And please remember something important - I know you still love your ex, but he doesn't exactly sound like such a great package himself. He is confused, waffles back and forth, does not know his own mind, and sounds like a doormat if he is letting this broad push him around AND diss you; and if she "owns" him because she has money, that makes him even less of a man - shame on him. You deserve better than that. I could almost guarantee you, that as soon as you are truly ready to move on, and realize that you deserve better and don't need him, he'll probably be about ready to realize that you are a class act, and he really wants you. But you are way better off without him.
2007-12-22 03:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by eldots53 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 16:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to Replace this character, but Fast! That is the Fastest way there is to get over someone. He seems to be Playing games and very confused. I din't think you need that nor Should you be wasting your time. You sound much too smart of a girl for that. You took a 4 Year break for a reason, so let a dead dog Lay. I was reading some of the other responces to Your question and You have received some very good advice, Dear. Now all you have to do is Follow it. May God help you get Your little Problem straightened Out. He loves YOU and wants You Happy.! He tells Us in His word " Let not your Heart be troubled". He cares.! O.k?
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2007-12-23 11:53:07 · answer #3 · answered by minnetta c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, people get a case of grass is greener syndrome. You are another victim of "got as far as we could without next involving marriage". My best advice is to wait it out. Sounds like you're young, and have plenty of time to see what is out there. Beauty, money, etc, may play heavy on some men's minds, but they don't last forever. What you can offer him which this other girl can't, is selflessness and maturity by not texting her back, blocking her number, etc etc (because its not good for you to hear those hurtful words, anyway). Then, when she's out of your life, avoid both of them until he comes back in full (I'm talking months, not days). Trust me, he'll eventually see everything he was missing if you suddenly were to leave the picture entirely.
2007-12-22 03:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by GSConsulting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be tough if you were a shy girl in the right place at the right time... but if you aren't, and can find another guy, this wouldn't be so difficult.
I'm a shy guy, and if I were to have a girlfriend it would be the result of luck, everything going right, and one thing that would hurt about a breakup would be that I'm not sure if I could find someone else, but if you are orthodox, you should find someone else. In the very least that girl can't tease you because you have someone else, and even if you don't feel it, you can pretend that you love him more than your ex.
2007-12-22 03:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all, she doesn't think that she can compete with you. Why do you think she is acting pathetic and desprite? She knows that he loved you and probably still loves you... you threaten her and she wants to come out on top!!!! Don't let her think she's got to you!!! Just drop him, you'll find someone who wont be confused!!! dont let him waste your time! He is seeing another woman telling her things behind your back, talking about you to her... he was with you for 4 years. He should not be confused. He knows what to expect from your relationship, and now he's tested the waters with this pathetic woman, he should know what to expect with her. He is trying to play the two of you! Don't let him get the pleasure!!! Its not gonna change, and if it does.. there will be other woman to worry about in the future! find yourself a real man who can take care of him self and his loved one! This is not taking care of him or you!!! drop him hunny, more fish in the sea!!! BETTER fish in the sea!
2007-12-22 03:43:42 · answer #6 · answered by sweetpea5499 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing breaking it off with him, he obviously didn't waste time "falling in love" with this person. That tells me something about both of them.
I would in no uncertain terms let her know, by registered mail, that if she continues to harass you by texting, etc., you will take legal action. That should get her attention.
I would tell him what she has said and that you are fed up with them both, their immaturity is maddening. It is none of your concern how she treats him, he sounds like he deserves what he gets. Wake up, stop acting as if he is innocent in this, he is not.
Let him go, he has proven to you to be a creep, now move on and good riddance! You won't regret that decision.
2007-12-23 13:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you should move on. It hurts when we see a loved one hurt by someone else. But he made the decision. If you are interested in him, play "hard to get". This should show if he is really interested in you. I will pray that you have wisdom on this. I believe God has the perfect match for you. You just haven't found him yet.
†Prayer Warrior At Your Request†
2007-12-23 06:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by electroprayer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please move on, this guy is bad news for you. Dont reply to his text and messages. He wants to make you jealous, and if you become jealous, then he is sucessful. So just don't respond to him at all and he will stop. You have related to him for 4 years, if you were meant to be togather, you would. You broke up, which means that it did not work; I know it can be tough to get over emotional attachment, but if you don't you are gonna end up hurting yourself real bad. Please try to move on, expand your social circle, make friends and spend your time enjoying things you do. This will keep your attention away from him. All the best!
2007-12-22 04:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by yes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look sister,first of all do not listen to wtf this girl says to you all the time,just dont give a f**k,
secondly the guy you are in love with is with this girl and is having fun with her,now i do not see why the hell he is confused,he has a gf but is saying that he loves you,
from my point of view kick both of em sister and make yur life better,do not waste time and life thinking about him and her,and i am sure you will get a far better guy than this confused dude for sure.do not keep thinking about a confused monkey who is just hanging from one branch to the other and has no idea where the f**k he is going.god bless ya
smile alot and bounce back sis...........wwwwwwwhhhhhhhhhhooooooaaa
2007-12-22 03:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋