your father if he is makes ur mother feel hurt sometimes even when she is trying hard to fulfil her duties towards him????
2007-12-22 03:15:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Its OK.
But its ur duty to make them sit down and bring them together.
Believe me, its hard. I bin in a somewhat similar situatution. Its the other way round, my dad being the good guy and my mom being the trouble maker.
I have had a couple of sleepless nights.
At first u would feel tht u incrsd the disagreement between them. But later on when they see and notice you hurt, they will automatically Inshallah stop fighting for ur sake.
Inshallah, I'll pray for ur family to have peace in their family once again.
ONE OF THE THINGS THT ITHINK HELPED ME WAS PRAYING TAHAJJUD PRAYERS.
2007-12-22 23:12:39 · answer #1 · answered by Shaik Abdul Cader Dawood 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As you may already know islam teaches to respect and love your parents dearly, which strictly should be followed. But what you may not have discovered is that it is part of a human nature to protect and defend your mother, and sometimes the way you think can not be helped. So the best option for you is to try and resolve the problem in any way you can, i know this will prove very challenging but consider it an option. If you still find yourself in confusion, google a general question under this topic such as "disliking father in islam". Another point i will pick out is that, a very important part of being a father includes repecting your wife and treating her justly, so if your father doesn't aknoledge this, help him to discover. This will be a step towards resolving the issue - as described above.
2007-12-22 03:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by abpk 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
speaking Muslim to Muslim, (so all others, please do no longer tell me i'm incorrect, because it is basically what we've self belief) falling in love is under no circumstances haraam. Falling in love with somebody outdoors of the religion is your trial and you'd be judged on what you do with it. In Islam, marriage and love is very based around elevating a relatives and in accordance to Islamic prepare and jurisprudence, the line is going down throughout the time of the daddy, the widespread provider... In different words, you're seen Muslim in case your father is. Muslim women could desire to marry Muslim adult men, while Muslim adult men could (in spite of the certainty that it rather isn't any longer reported) marry a woman who's of the folk of the e book (Christians and Jews). relationship and kissing and whatnot isn't permissible with all people of any faith, Muslim or no longer. If the lady is Muslim, the boy could desire to the two convert (quite, no longer purely for appearances, as you won't be able to truly fool the great guy) or the two could desire to pass on.
2016-10-09 02:05:58 · answer #3 · answered by tews 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not really sure. I think disliking someone who hurts another person you love is a hard feeling to stop.
You must respect and be good to your parents no matter what because the Quran says, 'be good and dutiful to your parents' (6:151).
2007-12-22 11:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by ~~∞§arah T∞©~~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is not Okay to disregard your father, May be you try to talk to your father and request for some sympathy towards your mother. May be there is something he dislike which your mother failed to fulfil. No matter what happened you should not take sides. Both of them are your own parent.
2007-12-22 05:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by atbt 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Allah ordered us to respect our parents. this is mentioned in Quran and Hadeeth. remember the story of prophet Ibraheem(PBUH).
So you don't have the right to treat your father in a bad way. you can't stop the bad feelings you have, but it must be only feelings. it mustn't be upgraded to the level of action. this is a very tough problem
BUT....
at the same time you must support your mother. try the following:
1- try to talk to your father and tell him about the role of the husband in his family life. how his violence or bad actions will affect his children. you can ask for the help of an Imam to provide you with islamic rules to convence your father
2- try to be kind with your mother to calm her down. and make what ever you can to make her happy
3- if it is possible try to seek the aid of other family members (i.e. grandfather, uncle,etc...) to convence your father to treat your mother well
4- another cunning plan :-) Go to the Imam of the mosque where you will pray the gomaa (friday) prayer. tell him the problem and ask him to advice your father through his speach (al-khotba)
if this didn't work, tell your mother that Allah won't forget her and she will be rewarded for her patience
2007-12-22 14:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ahmed.A 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Liking a person and respecting them are entirely different matters completely. My husband does not like how his father is, but he always respects him when he is around. May Allah keep you strong in this matter. I know it's hard.
2007-12-22 03:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
its human nature to dislike those who hurt others would you be happy to have a husband who treats you teh same way.
2007-12-22 03:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's your duty.
2007-12-22 03:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
NO.
2007-12-22 03:18:08 · answer #10 · answered by Big Bill 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋