CAn a 14 year old be in love?

Question

My boyfriend told me that his ex-girlfriend once told him that he shouldn't believe in because he's only 14 and that you can't be in love when you are that young.
But we have been going out for ome time now and he says that despite what his ex girlfriend says, that he loves me and he knows that for sure. I tell him i love him back but i dont think he believes me because of what his girlfriend said ((he think it applies to girls like me)) i dunno what i should do in this situation. Is his ex right?

is fourteen too young for love? and how do you know if you are in love?

Answer 1

Short and sweet
you may like him a lot but if you have to ask strangers then no you are not in love
when you are in love you KNOW it

and and age is okay to fall in love
the reason people say 14 is too young is because that at 14 you probably don't have enough experience in relationships to tell if you're in love or just a really good, strong, stage of like

Answer 2

Heyy.
Someone once posted this on Yahoo Answers and I LOVED their answer so I saved it!! I hope this helps.

"Falling head over heels in love feels a lot like it sounds. Your world is upside down. Everything reminds you of the person you’ve fallen for. Every time the phone rings, you hope it’s her. Everywhere you go, you hope she might be there. Every time you touch, it feels like electricity courses between you.

Alas, and I hate to bring reality into this lovely phase of life, but those feelings don’t last forever. If it’s real, true love, all that emotional nonsense gets replaced by REAL things about the person. She’s always there for you. She takes care of you when you’re sick. She sticks up for you when you’re not around. She remembers what you like. She treats you the way you want to be treated, the way you should be treating her. You look forward to seeing her at the end of the day, not because she’s hot, or new, or crazy in the sack but because she’s the person you tell about your day, and who gives you a hug, brings you a drink, and does whatever it is. And you do the same for her. And you do it because you love each other. You do it because that is the only way to make it work. And in the end, after all the sacrifices and tears and laughter and joy, you realize you have someone that you could not live without.

That’s love. All the silly emotional stuff in the beginning is fun, but it does not and can not last. It’s the base for more important things to come. And those things, while not as viscerally exciting as the butterflies-in-the-stomach phase, are REALLY what love is about. "

Hope this helps, good luck and happy holidays!

P.S. Remember, you're never too young for love.

Answer 3

There is Love, that is not physical, it does not involve sex. Real love is mental, intellectual.

At 14 boys especially have discovered sexual urges. These can easily be mistaken for the real love.

At 14 people are just learning about the complexities of life, living and the changes in their physical and emotional being. This is not the time for relationships but for discovery. There is plenty of time for real honest sincere relationships that may last a lifetime as opposed to puppy love that may last until a crisis arises.
Be friends, enjoy each other's company. Forget this love thing. Why is it so important to make such a serious delcaration.? Both of you should realx and thing about enjoying your youth, your growing up, education. Then think about relations. You will be the better and wiser for it.

Answer 4

it is fullly possible for a fourteen year old to feel love. the real problem with love at that age is that you really don't know yourself yet so how can you know someone else enough to know you'll always love them. love is one of those things that while you will always love the people who have mean t something to you as you change and they change it becomes harder to remember what it was that you loved about them to begin with. when relationships start at that age by the time you are 20 which is when most people start really dating your already 6 years into a relationship and miss out on most of the dating that you could have been doing. it is much safer instead of worring about being in love at fourteen you should worry more about being friends and putting off serious relationships until you are old enough to take care of yourself, and you may end up marring this kid someday but for right now just enjoy the thrills and spills of young love.

Answer 5

I really liked Alycia's answer, but still have to add my two cents lol
I remember being 16 and completly in love with a 14yr old. Yes, it was love (but it was a high school thang, ya know?) To this day I havent forgotten her and resently found out she hasnt forgetten me (her daughter told me Ive been mentioned).
Enjoy your love, just remember you're only 14 and not ready for sex nor marriage.

Answer 6

i always regret telling my own boyfriend this when i was your age. i broke up with him because i believed that love wasn't possible at that age. I was actually just scared of commitment, and i still am to this day. As i said, i regret telling him this, dont let anyone tell you what age you can start experiancing true love. just make sure you two are just not feeling lust...because thats a whole other story.

your boyrfriends name isnt joey is it? =]

Answer 7

Yes a 14 year old can be in love. But one thing you ought to remember, that kind of love may not be the love of your life. I experienced it once.

Answer 8

Cool Alycia!

Answer 9

In my opinion, yes it's too young for love. But if you feel it in your heart, and you feel that you would do anything for this person; its love, and you cannot deny your feelings.

Love guides you to the light, so you know when you feel guided.

Answer 10

romeo and juliet were only 14..ended tragically mind you...your fella is using what she said as an excuse to hold back his feelings that's only...don't worry..all will work out in the end