There is this girl who never liked me and she bossed me around for years. When she joined the bitchy click she thought they would make her feel great and popular in school. Now they have are making her suffer. Peer pressure is the main thing here. She comes from a wonderful family who are so kind and loving and they work hard to give her whatever she wants. She used to be clever but now her grades have gone way low. lower than the grades of chimpanzee's IQ test. Now she wants my help because she sees me as the only one who can help because I'm not a ***** and I'm always undercover (not noticed at school). She can't walk out of her clique now because she is in the same room as they are and they give her stuff to make her look like she's in the clique (nice clothes, expensive jewellery, etc) and for that she's their slave. Should I help the girl?
2007-12-22 02:57:01 · 6 answers · asked by Nikzor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. Tough situation. You sound like a really nice, thoughtful & solid person to even want to consider helping someone who was not nice to you, but is now in trouble. But I am not entirely sure exactly how you would be able to help her. It seems to me as though the girl in her clique are still going to be able to make her life a problem, even if she does leave the clique, which you say she is not easily able to do. Shows the down side of being accepted into a group, for sure. But, am I missing something? If her family gives her what she wants, why does she need the clothes and paraphernalia the group gives her? How could you help solve her problem, when it seems to me that the only way for her to get help is for her to grow some balls and leave the clique, abandon the "stuff", and find her own identity? Unless she now hopes to take on YOUR identity. This seems to have a high potential to backfire on you. You say now you are not noticed at school - sounds like a good thing - but if you get involved in her situation, now you WOULD be noticed, but not in a good way. Sounds to me like she still just wants to boss you around - because she is desperate and >thinks< you can throw her a life preserver. All this would be is an albatross around your neck, I think. I think that she created the problem for herself with this clique, and she is the only one who can get herself out of it - and if I were you, that is exactly what I would tell her, though in a compassionate tone of voice, not a mean one (which I'm sure I don't need to say, because you clearly are not a mean person!). She may need to talk to her parents, too - I mean, you would think they'd notice if her grades are in the toilet! This is not your battle to fight, and you are wise to seek advice. (even though I know I am advising you differently than anyone else in this group!)
2007-12-22 03:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should know that the reason she is suffering now is due to something we like to call karma. What goes around comes around and that's one of the reasons you should help her. Regardless of how she was, if you were in her situation, you would probably want someone's help. Helping someone that used to treat you like crap also proves to everyone that you can always be the better person in the situation. Help the girl out. This is the way society should be. Good luck!
2007-12-22 11:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by Will 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her, this girl seems no diffrent than the homeless. Shes asking for your help and truly needs it. I wish i was in your position because I wouldnt hesitate to help someone like this. You may have your diffrences but be a hero and save her from the fakes. Who knows there might be a great friend buried under all that jewelry.
2007-12-22 11:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Danny M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she will start to be nicer to you because your helping her...or she might just use you more if she is spoiled
if you really want to be mean back, dont help her but peer pressure is a really strong thing and everyone has to go through it
2007-12-22 11:05:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
try to take her out of that influence
she may not appreicate now but i know she will
isnt that what you would want if you were in trouble
2007-12-22 14:16:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,she will feel kinder about you...
2007-12-22 11:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋