how would you react if your kid's kindergarten teacher hugged or kissed him?

Question

im asking this question cause i have friends(they are couples) they got a kid(boy)..his kindergarten teacher hugged and kissed him when he created an cute artwork.his parents got so mad they start screaming in their childs school..they even sued the teacher in front of the school principal and asked him to fire her cause they think what she did was extremely wrong.but it didnt happened...anyways i know its a weird question but im asking this because i saw all this happening 4 days ago...i know its wrong for a teacher to do that cuz that can give kids germs but anyway...how would you react??if you were that kids parent?

Answer 1

I don't think that giving the kids a hug is bad.. But the kiss I would go the F%@K off on her and the school becaus that is a fisical sign of afection and that is not in there teachers plan..

Answer 2

That is kinda weird.
Did the child initiate the hugging. Some little kids always like to hug.
As for the kissing, I would never kiss one of my students. Sometimes they will run up and kiss me before I can stop them. I just say "kisses are nice, but not at school".
There really is no sensitive way to go about this. The teacher may have crossed the line, and the parents may have crossed the line when yelling at the school. If it was a one time offense, I would let it slide. If it happened again, I would politely ask the teacher not to hug or kiss my kid again.

I think the suing part is a little overboard. The parents seem to be overly paranoid with all the child abuse/molestation in the news, that the blow something (that was probably totally innocent) out of proportion.

Answer 3

I'd be so proud of my child I'd bust out in joy !!!!!!! I'd be happy that my child has a teacher like that I'd feel like hugging the teacher, Oh good grief about germs has america gone nuts?
where is the Joy instead of finding fault?
Why can't a loving human being express such an emotion towards a kind loving little boy?
Who knows' this may cause that boy to have the most Loving wonderful heart in his adult life,
We are taking all of the joy away and letting the negitive take over ! that's what's wrong with the world today...I had wonderful teachers... I got hugs when I was a boy from teachers I come from a family of huggers....We learned it from our grand parents our parents friends teachers....
So what is the problem we were given the gift of elation and emotion! So let's be kind hold doors open for people let's stop being so self centered, And worried about things such a germs.
It's just easy to be kind How hard can kindness BE!!!!!!!

Answer 4

Whatever the teacher's intentions it is actually inappropriate for teachers to kiss the children in their care. Cuddles are okay if initiated by the child (if you don't reciprocate children's affection they can't understand that) but the best thing is for a teacher to remain a little more distant and maybe just a pat on the head or shoulder is as far as it should go. I would not want that level of affection shown to my children by their teacher either (cuddles are fine but no kissing), and as a preschool teacher I am aware (and all teachers should be aware) of where you draw the line, so to speak. In these days of litigation for every little thing you don't want to put yourself into a difficult position. It seems sad but that is the way things are these days. But if a child is really upset and needs a hug, I wouldn't hesitate, who else can they turn to at school/preschool but a trusted teacher?

Answer 5

I teach Kindergarten in a very, very poor area. I am 1 part teacher, 1 part substitute mommy, 1 part social worker, and 1 part mentor to them. I hug them all the time. Once in awhile, I will kiss them on top of the head.

Most of my students do not have a parent in the home. Those that do, oftentimes do not have a daddy or even know who their daddy is. Some are being raised by a family member- because either mom or dad or both are in jail.

I have seen children get picked up from school and getting cursed at by their full-time caregiver- wether it be mom or dad or another family member. All they want is love. That is it.

There is positive love and negative. There is nurturing and then there is something sinister. I think that they need to define the 2 and make it clear to their child that the teacher cares- why become a teacher if you do not really, truly care for the children. In my line of work, the pay is awful. The benefits are almost as bad. The children, THE CHILDREN is what makes it worthwhile. Seeing their faces and knowing that I have made a difference in their young lives.

Also, I have been in my school for 10 years. I have children that I taught 10 years ago come back- several just did this past week as they went on X-Mas break to give a hug, to check in, and to say hi. It means a lot to know that at only 5 and 6, they still know I care- and that the caring does not end when they walk out of my classroom for the last time. Nor does it end when they graduate from our school.

I think it is a problem of the parents here that you speak of. If they are not comfy with it, talk to the teacher. I have yet to have any caregiver tell me, "don't..." In fact, I have had them come to me and say, "What do you do to make them listen? I want you to tell him/her to listen to me...". I love them- and they respond in kind. Discipline issues that were high in the beginning of the school year are nonexistant by October in most children.

Good luck with this.

Answer 6

Oh! How the world has changed in my 66 years! And it's not all good! When I was in first grade, we all ran to the teacher for hugs when it was time to get on the bus. Some wanted a kiss on the cheek because she wore such pretty red lipstick.
When I became a teacher of second and later third graders, touch was still a good thing. I hugged any child who needed one! I am so glad I have retired! I couldn't stand to be with a group of little kids I couldn't touch. WHAT IS WRONG WITH THESE PARENTS!!!! Have people forgotten the difference between good touching and bad touching? Is everyone paranoid? AND GERMS??? For heaven's sake! They got all the germs they need off door knobs, desks, chairs, playing tag (I know, I know...that's been stopped in some schools as too dangerous)...germs are everywhere....on Mom's hands, shoes, in the air.....she's a KINDERGARTEN teacher, for God sake!! I'll bet she's a good one, too. This is a sad commentary on life in the 21st century.

Answer 7

i personally wouldnt mind well i suppose it depends what happened a innocent cuddle is fine if u ask me a kiss is going abit to far but at the same time people over react.

im training to be a primary school teacher and find it awful that teacxhers cant even comfort children anymore. a little girl came to me bawling her eyes out one day because her parents were arguing and i couldnt even give her a hug and tell her everything would be fine.
people are ruining the word y being over cautious.

when u were a child did your teacher ever hug u and has it done u any harm?

Answer 8

My son is 5 yrs old and his kindergarten teacher gives him a hug & kiss on the forehead sometimes as he is leaving.. I don't see the big deal at all.. where my son goes it's also daycare so he is with them all day 5 days a week while I'm at work.. and seeing this shows me that he is well looked after and that they care for him. But I can also see how your friends would have been angry.. and I think they are entitled to be if that's how they feel about it.

Answer 9

I think they are definitely overreacting! The gesture is obviously not sexual in nature. It was an innocent and sincere gesture of support and caring for their child. Would they rather have a teacher that was cold and distant from their child? Obviously, at higher grade levels, this would be inappropriate, but, at the kindergarten level, its significance is more benign. In fact, it's very common for lower elementary kids to initiate hugs and kisses toward their teachers. Sadly, we have been conditioned to look at this as something sinister, rather than the innocent gesture of affection that it typically represents. If they feel the teacher is being too physical in showing affection/support for their child, the least destructive way to deal with this would be to privately and respectfully discuss their preferences with her, in a non-accusatory manner. The way your friends chose to deal with this situation assumes the worst motives, personally threatens the teacher, makes THEM look like jerks, and creates a tumultuous learning environment for their child and others.

Answer 10

My daughter's K teacher hugged the kids. I was glad she DIDN'T have one of those no touch, no emotion teachers. I think they overreacted... by a lot.
Parents are so rightous and sue happy these days. Ya... it's unfortunate that the kid knew his teacher was so proud of him and loves him... @@



Oh and someone waaaay at the begining said it's illegal for teachers to beat kids in this country. If they mean the US-they're wrong. There are states where it's allowed if the parents give permission (just a bit of useless knowledge)

Answer 11

Well they have taken ever thing else that is kind and good out of our schools, they will not stop until all children are pulled out of public schools and are homed schooled. It is happening fast in my home town, We have only 2 Christians schools and they are full. More and more churches are starting to add teacher's and helping those who work for a living. I see it coming fast. In the mean time don't show kindness you will get sued. How insecure can you become.
If this was sexual in any way I could see it. Maybe next time she will have cookies ready. Bless her.heart
Merry Christmas to all