I am 29 years old and temporarily living in Louisiana. I plan on moving to Houston to be closer to my kids after i graduate college in about a year. I do go out but do you think i should avoid any 'serious' relationships?
2007-12-21 23:26:14 · 14 answers · asked by Danny S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just recently divorced. Need to update my profile i guess
2007-12-21 23:40:58 · update #1
if your wife is still alive..yes avoid serious relationships
2007-12-21 23:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you really shouldnt date, you should focus on being a father to your children, & why oh why are you living in a different state from your kids? Oh, let me guess? So that you can better your future? Listen, if you involve yourself in a relationship right now, chances are very high that the person you get involved with will live in Lousiana, why would you want to involve yourself emotionally with someone if you plan on moving back to Houston? Do you follow me? Not only would this be selfish, it would also put your relationship with your children at risk, as many men who think their in love usually stay with the woman their with, versus going back to their children, & I know that sounds awful but its true, what if you found someone & she didnt want you to leave her? Then what? Then instead of the kids having a part time father, which is what you are now, the kids would have no father. So I recomend you get your prioritys straight! Children 1st! relationships 2
2007-12-22 08:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let the women know up front, that you will be leaving soon. You might miss out on a good woman if you just wait. But don't just keep it casual, that will waist your dates' time and yours.
Another thing, it takes time for a serious relationship to develop. So just go on date after date with different women, like you normally would, I think your definition of dating is the same as mine--interviewing women for the wife position. Some will get a second interview, some won't. Then you give them a temp contract for the serious relationship job before they get hired permanent.
2007-12-22 07:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by ‹(•¿•)› 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you know what, THAT is a GOOD question.
You can't NOT look for sex. Usually at your age the easiest way to GET sex is to... fib and produce some sort of illusion that a serious relationship is what you're about.
Seriouisly, go into a bar and say "I'm just looking to have some sex, I'm leaving in two weeks... any takers?" and you could get laid sure, but most likely not by the girl you'd LIKE to lay you. (Maby even... infested girls)
And if you DO want a SERIOUS relationship, just before you move isn't the best time.
Even so, it's about a year until you leave, at our age homey, relationships tend to pop up out of nowhere.
2007-12-22 07:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kren777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try and to avoid but sometimes you cant help when something amazing comes along... good luck
ps i live in san antonio and went to houston for a day visit and found the downtown aquarium the best place in the world, if you've never been Id suggest going... and it will be fun for your kids too
2007-12-22 07:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by angelsunshyn1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, unless you meet someone who's willing to move with you, id avoid the heartache. Go on some friendly dates that aren't going to get serious so you can have some companionship but avoid falling in love if you can.
2007-12-22 07:29:36 · answer #6 · answered by shair00 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you will be leaving in a year i would say if you wanna date keep it casual and let the girl know that. Then again if you really fall for a girl you can ask her to move with you. But if you want to you can date a little bit but dont get to serious.
2007-12-22 07:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question for yourself.
I would say, just get to know them as friends only. If you are planning on moving that far away, it would always be hard to maintain a long distance relationship.
Be honest with them. Tell them your plans so they know in advance.
Have fun getting to know them. I would not have any physical relationship with them as that tends to mess with your emotions a bit more.
Have a Merry Christmas.
2007-12-22 07:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to go out, if you seem to be hitting it off with a woman, or she is really into you, tell her what is going on. You never know when you are going to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. It could happen next week, next month or next year. Don't hold your feelings back. Love every chance you get. It takes practice to get it right.
2007-12-22 07:34:43 · answer #9 · answered by Makingitwork 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Finish your education. It's wise of you to know that you're NOT in a good position for any serious relationship. That kind of consideration is rare! Congratulations!
2007-12-22 07:31:42 · answer #10 · answered by Gina C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋