Is confidence a matter of choice?

Answer 1

It is perhaps a matter of judgment, right or wrong. I do not think we can simply choose to be confident!!

Answer 2

In some aspects it is not, and in others it is... it all depends on your definition of confidence and its perspective. If your definition of confidence is from an internal aspect (what is felt within). Then it takes belief in yourself to be confident. That belief may be gained by choices made (both in application and method), but it is not necessarily a choice in itself. Now, if your definition is based in perception, then it is a choice. as one may choose to act confident regardless of internal doubts/fears. This is a more common aspect that leads others to have unrealistic perceptions of how confident their counterparts are, consequently leading to less internal confidence (usually).

Note - for all realistic applicable purposes it is good to act and transmit being self confident and not give up easily. That in itself may build up internal self confidence. Effects in your perception of what real life is, is all that matters.

Answer 3

in a way yes because when we feel secure in an environment then we are confident.
controlling overriding factors is a matter of choice,thus confidence is a matter of choice

Answer 4

unfortunately not , its just born with you in which the way your parents raise you effects very much on your self confidence for instance if your parents dont give you the suitable care in your childhood and dont listen to your opinion or used always to shout on you this will lack your self confidence and vice verse . now you can try to build your self confidence again but that takes a great effort , and it may not succeed.

Answer 5

Yes, perhaps it is a matter of letting the ego go. To accept us as we are.

Sathya Sai Baba say , EGO meaning Edging the God Out ..

Here some thoughts on Sin as a choice .. and also see a Master Mass Psychologist with comments ..

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoG04AjNr5vQyCDsf.gfv0AjzKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20061115084014AAtv5Ln

Sathya Sai Thought for the Day,

"God is everything, so one cannot claim anything as one’s own. But people claim everything, saying, ‘it is mine’. Indeed, nothing belongs to anyone. People are immersed in the false and foolish concept of ownership; possessiveness is rampant in every thought and action, and that leads to the inflation of the ego. Egoism has to be utterly eradicated. Possessiveness should be banished. Be aware that all things belong to God. You came with empty hands, and you go back with empty hands."

- BABA

http://www.radiosai.org/pages/thought.asp

SAI RAM

Answer 6

Not entirely. Confidence comes when one believes in themselves. And in some people, can be easily destroyed.

Answer 7

You have to choose to be confident in order to be confident, but there is more to it then that.

Answer 8

Yes because we are the ones choosing to focus on the fact that we might fail.

We could just as well be choosing to focus on how great it will be when we succeed.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 9

if u r a confident person u r a winner

Answer 10

i am sure that there are many people who wish it were that easy.