2007-12-21 22:26:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love in continuity and confluence with your identity formation. Like somebody from school or your childhood. I am not certain the marriage ritual is first priority.
The Erikson life-stage virtues, in the order of the stages in which they may be acquired, are:
hope- Basic Trust vs. Mistrust
will- Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt
purpose- Initiative vs. Guilt
competence- Industry vs. Inferiority
fidelity- Identity vs. Role Confusion
love (in intimate relationships, work and family)- Intimacy vs. Isolation
caring- Generativity vs. Stagnation
wisdom- Ego Integrity vs. Despair
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erick_Erickson
2007-12-22 09:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Psyengine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's everlasting love it should transcend marriage - it won't matter if you're married or not - for true love, a wedding is just a day of joyous declaration and an official promise that you'll always care for each other and never grow bored with one another.
'Everlasting love' is something that constantly changes - love can only be everlasting if it alters with every day that passes, if it waxes and wanes, finds new heights and explores possibilities but grows ever stronger in the knowledge that it is reciprocated.
You don't need a band of gold to know you are going to love someone for ever.
2007-12-21 22:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by SilverSongster 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love after marriage because you know the true colours of the other when you are in constant company. The love generated knowing the faults of the other is everlasting.
2007-12-21 22:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by uppaluri k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having neveer been married, I can only speak from an idealist point of view. Anytime someone can share that outward proclamation of their love for one another in marriage, then that is the basis for everlasting love. After marriage is just when the love is allowed to blossom into an even greater love.
2007-12-21 22:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Michael B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely love after marriage. Before marriage, if you change your mind all you have to do is say that you want out, and you're out. Once you get married, there are things holding you there and it makes you think much more carefully about ending the relationship. You won't do it on a whim.
2007-12-21 22:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Been here before 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well If theres no love before marriage, there may not be love after marriage either. It swings all ways for different people and circumstances. Some people learn to love thir partner with time.
2007-12-21 22:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love BEFORE marriage.....a lasting marriage must have a sound base on which to build. Best friends, love and then marriage....works for me!
2007-12-22 00:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only true love is that of chocolate, and it is just as ever-lasting before and after marriage.
2007-12-21 22:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Mencken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT EVEN CLOSE; BEFORE MARRIAGE. Once you get married you have no shot!!! Marriage sucks. The second you both said "I do" your loving relationship is over. Some people realize it in weeks and get divorced. Some people lie to themselves for years and stay married. If you are in love don't get married!!!
2007-12-22 02:16:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know I was suppose to change my love after marriage. I never noticed the difference.
2007-12-21 22:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by lenzix5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋