My ex and I divorced because she cheated on me 2x. We had 2 kids in which she gave them to me so she can go out and play. After 3 years of not being a mom to my children, she is now living with bf that has money and a house. Now she is coaxing my kids to move in with her. She got my daughter to move in with her and is now working on my son. My ex and I argued because my kids went with me to go visit my mom and I wanted them to stay the night with me. She said no and sent her bf to the front door to get the kids. He then proceeded to argue with me. Then threatened me and called me a f***in sissy in front of my son. I am furious right now because I feel like my ex is getting away with it. Is it fair that she screwed up our marriage and abandoned my kids and now they are siding with her? And now trying to get them back? What can I do to get them off my case and send them a message not to mess with me? (Legally of course) Only serious answers please thanks. In L.A. Ca.
2007-12-21 20:06:57 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seek legal council and get a restraining order against the bf for abusive conduct in front of the children. If she gave the kids up to you in the divorce decree, then it will be easy to get a judge to order them to come home. She may still have visitation rights. If she does, then ask the court to amend the decree to state that bf cannot be present during visitation because of his conduct. Above all, when talking about this with your kids, be positive. They will thank you for it later. They should never be made to feel that you and ex are "fighting over them". They should understand that you and ex disagree on what is best for them and are behaving as adults to get it resolved. Hope this helps.
2007-12-21 20:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well,Bear, sounds like you may have to play some poker, provided the kids don't get hurt.
My take would be this: Christmas break is coming up. Have the kids celbrate however you like in your home and then on the 26th, pack them up and drop them off at Mom's.
Let lover boy find out what it is to raise kids. I guarantee living with the one little girl is not living with the whole kaboodle. Things have been peaceful over there. Nice. Now try it for real.
Make yourself unavailable. Go visit your sister in Timbuktu, take a couple of days out of town, just don't be available when they feel the urge to bail and drop the kids off to you.
When you pick them up, mention how you really plan on enjoying summer break, when they stay with her again.
Then kick back, wait for him to decide to have conversation with her: ie: "Hon, maybe getting the kids isn't the greatest idea." and see what happens.
You may want to just let this play itself out. Per her history she won't follow thru anyway. Just be there in the end, when they bail.
I wish you luck, dear
Merry Christmas
and may God bless you and yours.
2007-12-22 01:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seek legal advice that is all I can say. That boyfriend of hers has no right to call you anything in front of your son. He is not a good role model. He has no respect for you or your sons feelings. Love your kids fight for them!
2007-12-21 20:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by Helena 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a lawyer asap. Try to get full custody, and allow her visitation rights only. I hate to see any parent, either male or female, get away with neglecting their family then trying to take over and run everything the way they want it.
Best of luck.
2007-12-21 20:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order, and get visitation rights to see your kids.
2007-12-21 20:17:07 · answer #5 · answered by khadija k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order this should help
2007-12-21 21:08:07 · answer #6 · answered by BAREBEAR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the court
2007-12-21 20:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try stalking . and go to cort as well
2007-12-21 20:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by matthew v 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋