beautiful baby together. We were so in love or so i thought. We'd been together 7 years so it's not like we rushed anything. I had been receiving letters and cards in the post which indicated that he was having an affair but he denied it and i believed him altho it really knocked my confidence. there was also a girl he works with that was mentioned in these letters. After being broke up 9 months he revealed that he thought he was gay and that;s why he had to leave and therefore couldn't come back to me. It's now been 2 years and i've finally met someone wonderful who i wanna spend the rest of my life with but have just found out that my ex has become very close friends with this girl from the letters. I've been so good to him over the 2 years and very understanding and heartbroken at the same time. I feel like he's lied to me about being gay but he swears blind he's told me the truth. I can't accept it if he gets with this girl, what's wrong with me, i know i'm not in love with him?
2007-12-21 19:20:51 · 5 answers · asked by veedubbya 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may think you will never know the truth, but you do already. The truth is that he does not want to be with you.
My intent is not to be mean, just stating my opinion.
He probably made up the gay thing because he wanted to lessen your hurt....he probably knows that you would be more hurt if you knew he was leaving for another woman.. So while dishonest, it is actually somewhat admirable on his part..(or completely chickenshit).except that you guys have a kid...not sure what his long term plan was to keep this going..
Or he may be gay and the girl is just his confidant.
The point is that for whatever reason, he has chosen not to be with you. You need to accept this and move on. I don't see how who he is now involved with changes anything...other than maybe the fact he lied to you...if he did.
But you are admitting that you will be more hurt if he in fact left you for another woman.
Think about it this way...You should be more upset if he left you for another man...this should be a blow to your womanhood...as you possibly were so bad that you drove him to being gay.
So if I was you, I would feel relieved that he just left you for another woman.
This sounds as though my intent is to belittle you and hurt your feelings....pls forgive my poor communication skills...that is not my intent.
2007-12-21 20:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by Robert C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, forget about his lovelife now..gay or not.. the guy left u, lied to u during marriage (whether his interest in men or thr girl from the office)..congrats if u've managed to keep good relations with the father of ur baby, but that should be as far as it goes... Why bother with these feelings of irrittion of uve got an amazing man in ur life and ur going somewhere really nice ^_^ focus on the future, dont obssess with the past..u owe this to urself :)
2007-12-21 19:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you just need some honest closure. Tell you're ex that you've moved on but you need to know the truth about everything. Whatever he tells you accept it and consider it the past...no need to keep thinking about it- it will only jeapordize you're relationship now
2007-12-21 19:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by AP 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away. That's the beautiful part apart divorce. You do not have to pretend to love him anymore. Let your baby have their father, but you don't need to worry about his love life anymore.
2007-12-21 19:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Just Tryin' to Help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wrong. you are still in love with him it shows from the typing. my opion?
2007-12-21 19:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋