I want to see a psychologist... but I will feel like such an idiot...?

Question

I have never, ever, told anyone face to face the things that go on inside my head... I've never shared my deep down feelings and thoughts, worries with anyone.

I have so much inside me that I need to let out, but I don't feel close enough to anyone to do that. I am 18.

I want to see a psychologist, I looked up on Yellow Pages and found one near to where I live...

But when I get there, what? "Hi, I have lots of repressed feelings." Jeez, I cringe at the thought of sitting there saying that to someone...

They will pretend to care. I won't even know where to start when I am meant to talk. I don't know what my problem is, so how can I answer the "So what can I do for you?" question...

"I am 18, I don't have a single friend. I have never had a girlfriend but long to have someone to cuddle and confide in. I am insecure but no one knows, I hide it all away and hope they don't figure me out."

OMG, that sounds so pathetic and embarrasing...

... Maybe I'll stay at home and not bother...

By the way... does it cost money?

Answer 1

psychlogists are trained and will understand.
Go along and see if you can understand yourself more. It could help greatly.

Answer 2

I can't help but think that you're starting the solution to your problems in the middle and not the beginning. I think you should first talk to your GP and discuss whether or not a psychologist is the right way forward. Psychology tends to work by using the way you think to alter the way you behave. It could be that a specifically trained counsellor is a much better option. I don't know if you're British but a genuine referral to a counsellor or a psychologist in Britain by a GP is free but there are long waiting lists for psychologists. If you wish to go private then a psychologist will cost a lot of money. In the States your health insurance may cover the costs. Good luck.

Answer 3

You are already letting out your thoughts and that is the very first step. Don`t get embarrased , because it is not only you who experienced such insecurities ...everybody is . the only thing is they tried to find a ways to solve or fight it , by trying to make friends . Making friends , might takes a lot of hesitation or exerting effort , thinking where to begin , but it is a part of human existence, or practice , if ever you could face an embarassing situation in the future.... face it shrug your shoulder and go on, no big deal ! Don`t think that their maybe somebody watching you , or laugh at your mistake , because everybody commits mistake .
About asking some help , its a good leap to self improvement , and I praise you for thinking it by yourself . Going to some phychologist , means you don`t have to think of what you would have to say .These people are professionals , that even if you don`t speak they would surely know where to begin the conversation.
Also why don`t you open up with your immediate family , for example your Mom or Dad , sister or brother , don`t be shy , they are your love ones , surely they would understand , and will support you , dont keep it to yourself . You are still very young , and its very natural for you to have a lot of friends , try to reach out , and you will see the diffirence.

Answer 4

I'd suggest talking things over with your GP first, it may be that you just need some temporary medication to help you get out of this pit. Or else they can arrange for you to see someone. Don't be worried about disclosing your feelings, they do see this all the time and will have heard it all one way or another before. After all, if no-one had a problem they wouldn't exist, would they?

Don't worry, you aren't "crackers" or you wouldn't be realising
how you feel, you know you have a problem and that proves you're half-way to being better already .

Answer 5

Let me ask you this:
If your car has a fuel leak, do you get it fixed or just tough it out?
If your house is on fire, do you just hope it'll take care of itself, or get someone to put it out?


If you've got a problem, and you don't seem to have a solution to it, YOU GET HELP! You don't ignore a problem, you solve it, and if you don't know how, you find a professional who can.

And yes, therapists cost money. But at 18, I'm guessing you are in school (high school or college, won't matter), so there are definitely people that can help you and keep it confidential for free.

Answer 6

You go you are half way there seeking help yourself good for you ,they are professionals and wont have a laugh on you or anything like that.Believe me now is the time to sort yourself out once the problems are aired it will feel like a weight off your shoulders then you can enjoy the rest of your life without all those problems.Happy Christmas and go to that appointment please.It will cost you money if you make an appointment privatley,Ask your DR to refer you that will cost you nothing.

Answer 7

Psycholigists are trained professionals. They not only hear out but they will help you understand your self your thoughts and your life bettter.

Donot be afrid and bothered by the thought that they will not care.........when we go seea doctor in illness he is not bothered whether some lives or dies..........he is not directly concerned but he treats with full determination because his success lies in survival and good being of his patients. Same goes for psychiatrists and psychologist and whosoever for what ever reasons have interest in your well being and healthy survival doeas care but at different level....

So I really suggest you to review yiur decision and make an appointment to psychaitrist and this time confront your thought, fears, feeling what ever you have in front of him.
Think of him just as via media to actually meet your innerself, with whom you have stayed disconnected for all these years and whom you have kept aloof withou friend!!!!!!!!

All de best!!!!!

Answer 8

There's no shame in admitting you need help and at 18 I think it's very admirable of you, I would go because talking and talking is the right way to sorting yourself out, psychologist aren't there to judge only to help. Good luck!!

Answer 9

you may ought to communicate to my very solid buddy Mary Jane. you actual have some form of PTSD, a decrease ought to/would help, yet this would nicely be something you could fix on your man or woman. the two way, just to supply you a heads up, anti-depressants won't do something different than make you loopy i will assure that one hundred%. Weed will help very very nearly as much as drugs out of your checklist, the sole distinction is that weed won't make you grab an Uzi and climb a clock tower.

Answer 10

Try writing to an entity you respect and have faith in, imagine an anonymous person, behind a curtain. Divide page into two columns.Write down all your thoughts on the right side. On the left hand write down three reasons you think may cause you to have those thoughts.
Write until you have exhausted your emotions. Then place in a safe place no-one is likely to find it. Go back to it at a later date in a different fram of mind. You will know when.

The act of writing your thoughts gives vent to them.

Reading them later will teach you the art of thought control and self discipline.

You will learn to be detached and analytical of yourself. try it.

Write them when u feel ready, and return toread them when you feel inclined to do so....

Self governance, self correcting, self driven...toward Mastery of the Self, ones thoughts, deeds, actions, responses.

Answer 11

There is nothing to be embarassed about seeing a psychologist. Anything you could ever tell they've heard a hundred times before. They don't judge, they listen and help you understand yourself better.